Do You Feel Uncomfortable/Embarrassed For Others?

[theoutsider]

I find that my anxiety kicks in just as much when others are being mistreated or embarrassed as it does at the thought of going through it, myself. For example yesterday, I was eating in the lunchroom at work. There's this one guy who likes to talk a lot and everyone makes fun of him. He was trying to make conversation and attempting to engage different people on the subjects they were already talking about. The responses he was getting were very condescending. They were either talking down to him like he was an idiot or totally ignoring his questions. I started to feel so uncomfortable that I had to leave and eat elsewhere.

Am I being too oversensitive or is feeling this uncomfortable over something that didn't involve me fairly normal?

 

[Hellhound]

That usually makes me angry.

 

[jaim38]

I think you're empathizing for the guy who got looked down on. I also become anxious when I see bullies taunt others, because I could be next.

 

[theoutsider]

I think you're empathizing for the guy who got looked down on. I also become anxious when I see bullies taunt others, because I could be next.

In my case I didn't really feel like I could be next but it was easy to put myself in his shoes because there have been many times when my attempted input into a conversation has been ignored, as if I never asked a question or made a suggestion.

 

[Steiner]

I feel bad when others are being bullied because I didn't step in and stop it.

 

[Marc7]

I don't know if you have this but I get anxious when I am around people because I fear there going to say something I will either I disagree with or I feel inferior to them for what they said.

 

[ar1605]

sometiumes i do feel sorry for others but try to see if i can help them work it out

 

[Xervello]

Yes, in a non-personal way. I can't watch awards shows, national anthems or certain live contests because the possibility of someone being awkward or embarrassed makes ME feel awkward or embarrassed for them. That said, I can watch shows like Wipeout or Survivor because the people are putting themselves out there like that. Even then, sometimes I have to look away, lol.

 

[theoutsider]

Yes, in a non-personal way. I can't watch awards shows, national anthems or certain live contests because the possibility of someone being awkward or embarrassed makes ME feel awkward or embarrassed for them. That said, I can watch shows like Wipeout or Survivor because the people are putting themselves out there like that. Even then, sometimes I have to look away, lol.

EXACTLY! I had to stop watching that show, Undercover Boss because I'm always embarrassed for the employee who doesn't know he is actually training his/her boss. If they say something negative about the company or management, I always feel terrible for them.

 

[Still_Waters]

I feel this way all the time and this makes you an empath, a strong empath actually. You can feel the pain of others as if it is your very own. This is a very good trait to have and I believe that if everyone else had it the world would be a much better place.

 

[planetweirdo]

For example yesterday, I was eating in the lunchroom at work. There's this one guy who likes to talk a lot and everyone makes fun of him. He was trying to make conversation and attempting to engage different people on the subjects they were already talking about. The responses he was getting were very condescending. They were either talking down to him like he was an idiot or totally ignoring his questions. I started to feel so uncomfortable that I had to leave and eat elsewhere.

I would feel very bad for him. I would also be angry. That's why I am afraid to try to make conversation with some people.