Do you fear becoming lonely?

Argamemnon

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Since I'm almost certain that I won't find a partner, I'm afraid that I will become very lonely when my parents die. If they die, I will have nothing to live for. Anyone else feel the same?
 

cannotbefound

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yes,i feel the same..and was thinking about it for some time..all i can say- nothing good will happen..im sure, it wont be just feeling of loneliness.
 
Unless you live with your parents, do they really make any difference very often?

I don't fear loneliness, it's just part of life and I'm used to it.
 

Smokeringz

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yeah lol, the only thing that keeps me sane without them is my books and guitar, need sounds going on like 24/7
 

Azahara

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Answer

It´s beter to be alone than having a bad company.
I share your pain. Perhaps you´ll find someone where you can supported but perhaps you´ll find someone than only get sinking you in the shit. Sorry for my vocabulary
Today I no very well, sorry :twisted:
 

Ericisme

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Well to be honest the only reason why I'm trying to build a life right now is the possibility of not being lonely, finding somebody to spend my life with. Even with my parents and siblings I will still give up if I knew I was gonna be lonely forever, which is probably gonna happen, but I might as well try until I hit, maybe, max 20 years old, and if nothing then I will give up, so that's 2 years. I have seen a lot of people with social phobia\anxiety in their 30-40- and even 50s that have always been alone, so I would rather just stop being alone in a few years instead of 30 years.
 

xSleepy

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Well right now i do have those days where i get really lonely. im worried that once i do get to have some social interaction... and some really good interaction!!!!... that i will become really really lonely once that ends.
 

hbanana11

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Like some of the others, I am already lonely so I dont really fear it. I both enjoy it and hate it at times. But i'm contemplating whether I actually want to be with someone later on in my life. I sort of want it but I dont think my yearning is justified..I think I feel that way because I have been raised in a world that believes one cannot possibly be completely happy without a partner.

Just in my health class the other day, the teacher was discussing how vital relationships are and that people who dont marry die earlier than those who live life without a partner, etc. etc.

I think its bullshit. I dont believe for one second that someone couldn't live a perfectly happy life without a partner. Its all about choices- happiness is a choice. I, personally, would like to prove those statistics wrong.
 

chris87

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hbanana11 said:
Just in my health class the other day, the teacher was discussing how vital relationships are and that people who dont marry die earlier than those who live life without a partner, etc. etc.

I think its bullshit. I dont believe for one second that someone couldn't live a perfectly happy life without a partner. Its all about choices- happiness is a choice. I, personally, would like to prove those statistics wrong.

I've heard this same story haha. I tend to agree with you!
 

PhantomPod

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Well, I am definitely already lonely. Although I get what you're saying. I would be even more lonely if I didn't have my parents around.

I mean, there are definitely times when I want nothing more to just move out and live by myself and be left alone, but the majority of the time I think about how much I want to find a boyfriend and get married and start a family.
 

jschuley

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One day being totally alone, leading a completely lonely life is my greatest fear. Right now I depend primarily on my one friend, with whom I've been in a codependent relationship for some time. He has Borderline Personality Disorder, and he has mistreated me in the past, though we are doing okay now. I live with him and two other roommates, but he is the only one I am comfortable around. I just wish every moment wasn't so excrutiating when I sit in the living room with my other two roommates silently just waiting for him to get off work.. (he is gay and I am a girl, so he does not fill the role of a romantic interest)

The only time I have escape is when I'm drunk or on pills. I don't want to be lonely, but I can feel myself becoming more and more alienated from my family, and I don't really know how long my friendship will last, as he has pushed me out of his life three times before in our six year relationship, each forced separation lasting for a few months at a time..

Can anyone relate? Does anyone else have a codependent relationship?
 
hbanana11 said:
I think its bullshit. I dont believe for one second that someone couldn't live a perfectly happy life without a partner. Its all about choices- happiness is a choice. I, personally, would like to prove those statistics wrong.

You don't need a "partner" in the sexual sense to be happy. You do need friends to be happy. The human brain is wired that way, unfortunately.
 

JonnyD

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is not really like fear, but i do think how it will be sad :(, it will make my whole family sad...
 
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