Do you ever cry because of social anxiety?

Generic

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Last time was christmas eve, before then i hadn't for years but yar was a damn strange feeling, never felt that crap before. Im not really one to cry so i was pretty shocked to be honest but anyways i've improved since then so no worries.

I think it was because we had people over so i couldn't really go and let out by another means like beating the crap out of a cushion lol....it sounds funny but it really works
 

Kien

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I'm 20 male, in later times it happens sometimes that I cry when I really realize and think about how pointless and boring my life is and that suicide would be the correct thing to do.
 

limetree

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I don't have the most extreme case of SA (panic attacks) but its still enough to cause situational depression.
I cried today and yesterday, usually out of regret and helplessness. I refuse to cry in front of people so I'm always hiding in my room, in the toilets or behind sunglasses.

Crying isn't a "weakness," it's just raw honesty, which helps strengthens my emotional capacity for empathy. I admire the courage of embracing your own vulnerability in others, so I don't give myself a hard time for being sensitive.

I love it when guys fight social pressures to say "fuck conventional notions of masculinity" and won't deny how they really feel.
 

Birdy

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I cant seem to cry anymore. Its a worry, because its good to have a good cry and get it all out. But I just feel so cold and empty, its only rare for me to cry. I hold it in so much it hurts not to cry. :cry:
I understand that men dont want to be seen as weak. Its only a natural human response to cry.. so why all this stigma? I just hope society changes in the future.. mental illness is still looked down on by many and your constantly told to just get over it, or stand up, be a man.. etc. This makes me so angry. I just wish people would be more considerate and less ignorant and arrogant. Wheres all the empathy gone?
But I am seeing more and more on mental illness through the media. Which is good for awareness I suppose. :wink:
 
For years I used a number of gay chat sites - I could be on there 22 hours a day and have 2 hours sleep. There were people who could be very mean on there, and I didn't seem to be making any friends. I no a man isn't supposed to cry (so we've been taught), but I would cry a lot because I felt so lonely... I made some a gay friend but he started cheating on his partner and it got rather complicated so I left him and another friend after a couple of years of meeting them - they were my main friends, and I was left with a guy who made friends of my weight, my fun of where I was studying, made fun of people with disabilities... So it was a lonely time for me, and yes I did cry. I saw a psychiatrist and he diagnosed me with social phobia in 2001 (I'd just left my job and had attempted suicide) - one of the things to change was I stopped using chat sites (or wouldn't talk to people) - I'd only reply to them if they privated me. I have also noticed I don't cry as much as I used to.. the last time was at a staff Xmas luncheon - one of my uni coordinators had sent me an email i wasn't supposed to see and it put me in a very bad light.. I broke down at the table in front of my boss - it felt so embarrassing.

I have avoided meetings with other staff outside my library unit.. One library friend seemed disappointed I wouldn't go - there were about 5 or 6 parties and I thought I'd feel all alone despite having talked with many of those people. There is one woman in the library I know doesn't like me and I feel this probably is why I don't go.

I find DVDs mainly have filled the emotional emptiness, but it is still there.... I don't call my gay friends (because I always get the impression I am disturbing them or they always appear busy. One gay friend (now living in Sydney) was supposed to visit me over Xmas - he was three blocks away from where I live, and he didn't SMS or reply to my SMS once, except when he was on the train returning to Sydney. I can't consider him a friend any longer and this was all today. When he visited my house he said it was messy (coming unannounced) and that really upset me, especially my self-esteem.

There are moments I really want to cry, but I think I've now accepted my situation, and realise I probably will never have people in my life.

Peter
 

bitingthepea

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yes
its good to cry sometimes i think... if i feel like im going to
sounds silly but i set myself an hour just to cry and be sad.... then i have a bath or something and weridly feel better

=]
 

Kathryn

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when it gets overwhelming, I cry. When I'm not crying, I still feel like there are tears waiting to come out...
 

Kathryn

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when it gets overwhelming, I cry. When I'm not crying, I still feel like there are tears waiting to come out...
 

ZiggyCosmicJive

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You mean crying for no reason in particular accept for unsatisfaction with life on account of SA? Yeah, I'm a 19 year old guy and I'll admit I very occasionally think myself into a dark enough place to cry. Not really torrential crying, but somber, sobbing, usually only a few tears. I think the last time this happened to me was in the fall.

But don't beat yourself up over it, you are not a pussy, you're a human being, and you have emotion. I hate how men are expected to show so little emotion. Some of us are just as emotional as women, and it's nothing to be ashamed of. In a way, I almost feel good after a cry because if nothing else, it reassures me of my humanity.
 
I was cryin this past Saturday, I think my room mate knew when I came out of my room that I had been cryin because he said I should see the school councilor about my depression...so I did :) and I have an appointment tomorrow!
 

ZiggyCosmicJive

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freestylemonster said:
I was cryin this past Saturday, I think my room mate knew when I came out of my room that I had been cryin because he said I should see the school councilor about my depression...so I did :) and I have an appointment tomorrow!

Good to have people around who care about you like that.
 

Gone

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Seeing the last episode of Mash made me cry atleast 3 times recently, lol.
But yeah i can cry from anxiety sometimes, not alot but when im the most depressed, thinking about the stuff i miss out on and will never have.
 

Neph

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im long past due from a good emotion cry session

i just want to get these tears out of the way so i can actually try and sleep without subconciously tearing everytime im lying down. any suggestion?
 

SpanishStar

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There is nothing wrong with crying!

I'm a 29 year old woman with mild social anxiety and co-existing conditions and there are times when I still cry and no one will ever understand how horrible I feel even to this day (despite the fact I've overcome a lot of social obstacles)
 

lyricalliaisons

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I do cry because of SA. Just yesterday, I was crying because I'm starting school in less than two wees & don't know how to deal with it. I was also having a little bit of a self-pitying thing. I try not to, but sometimes, I just feel so terrible about everything I've missed out on that I start feeling bad about myself & it gets to me.
 
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