I know that things can get better for people. I think the road to your happiness lies within you and that everyone has a different path in life."people say i was going the wrong way in life, but really, i was just going a way of my own" Certain techniques work for some people and not others. I got better over time and I refer to my past as my "Crazy Days" because compared to now, I'm doing much better. And I have hope that in the future that, yes, I will be able to look back at even these times, shake my head and say, "Wow-what was I thinking?" and be happy that I've gotten out of that darkness and into more light.believe in yourself. Believing in what feels good and what feels right for you. What makes you happy? what makes you less stressed? self talking to yourself? Practice relaxing? Watch a Funny Movie? Write a poem. Surround yourself in all things that are good-being mindful that your activities aren't harmful to anyone- because when you feel good-it's like that wonderful breath of fresh air.. and when you feel yourself moping and getting sad-try to catch yourself and talk yourself out of it. Keep busy. But eventually you may get exhausted from all the self talk, so yes, sometimes when your sad and feel like being moopppy and whinny--do it.. let yourself feel your emotions--because negative feelings are normal, we people just use them diffefrently and excessively and in a different context than some others.. but let yourself know that these negative feelings are temporary. that you won't always feel this way forever-because moods constantly change.
As long as you keep trying.. As you keep wanting help..as long as you keep getting back up when your down-and I know it's hard--believe me we're all in this together--but when you come around from being in that dark place for so long--feels good doesn't it?.... so as long as you eventually climb back out of the cave and keep going---you're going to learn and your going to grow and things will get better for you. Just remember to tell yourself deep down inside your negative emotions are temporary-- even if on the surface you want to give up and you don't believe your own words- just say it. Force yourself. Tell yourself that you won't give up on you...you won't!..and even if you fail that one time or twice-don't beat yourself up over it, because then your being unproductive. It's Okay to get a little mad at yourself, but only in a good way.. Give yourself a reality check. Tell yourself to smarten up and get out there. Life isn't going to wait for you and your not getting any younger. you deserve to be happy like everyone else!!
And when you are down don't tell yourself that your sick of fighting either. Why fight? Why do we always call it "fighting"? Fighting is such a negative term and it makes life not worth living. I don't want to sit here knowing I have to "fight" my whole life. How stressful. I hate fighting. The most fighting I like is on UFC and that's enough for me. and if someone tells me I am, then I'm going to imagine myself as a video game character or as a Dungeon's and Dragon's, human fighter, with lots of experience and one day I'm going to beat that game, no matter how many game overs I get..
but no.. No. let's not say fighting..Let's say we're Engaging.. Engaging in our lives.
And therapy, in whatever way, shape or form whether it be self help or in group meetings--therapy is research. Searching for knowledge to help ourselves understand our thoughts, this world, and how we fit into it all. It's engaging in opportunities to broaden our minds to knowledge and wisdom that will make sense, help us to understand which in turn eases our minds, and makes us feel good about ourselves. therapy is like a recipe book for the mind.
one of the most wonderful feelings is that moment when your mind clicks and you say to yourself "WOW, I GET IT. It makes sense" When your eyes "open" and you get that sense of understanding and accomplishment. Aim for those!!
and train your mind to say that your issues are opportunities. and don't use the words, "I can't" if you feel you must say something then I suggest saying "I'm having a hard time with.." because you can. your brain just lies to you and tells you it can't. Tell your brain who is boss. YOU!
We're all very strong people. Look at the **** we have to deal with.. in the outside world and in our own. We're good people,and we're strong!! We're going to grow and learn and get better every day and every year. you'd better believe it.