That is exactly what I am talking about though man....exactly! I have been bullied and treated ****ty too mainly by my brother when I was a child. He would critique every ****ing thing I did, if I chewed to loud he would yell at me. If I expressed an opinion he didn't want to hear he would beat the **** out of me. If I had friends over at my house he would mock me to the point where my own friends would join in on mocking me. I was called every name in the book. Almost every day of my childhood was like this. And I used to blame him every day.
Then I found out that he was abused physically and verbally by my father, like I was. He was as insecure as me and he took it out on me. I understand that now and I do not hold on to that resentment...it only hurts me to hold a grudge. He had no clue I was mad, sad or whatever and the only person it affected was me....it ate me up inside...
I sympathize for people that feel the need to be dick heads because there is a reason they are like that.There is something that has happened to them and caused them to take their insecurities on people like me and for me to take it personally is ludicrous, it has nothing to do with me....it has to do with their issues.....Anger and resentment accomplish nothing and neither does playing the victim and asking why me? When I learn to empathize, get out of myself and not be so selfish by always wondering why me then I feel better.....When I see the true love I have for myself through other people (as hard as it may be) I feel at peace....I feel at one.......or I can continue to sit on a pity pot, complain about life and watch my problems stay the same....
I don't buy into the "nurtured environment is always the cause of problems." My parents were great parents, and I'm still screwed up.
A good example is the unabomber. That dude had a perfect life, great parents, top of his class, well-liked, most likely to succeed in his high school class. Guess what? He decided to blow stuff up and hurt people. Nurture didn't do jack for him. He was a born prick. It just took him longer to show who he was to the world.
I don't feel sorry at all for the jerky guy who walks by me and calls me a pu--y. That guy is just a born jerk. Some people are just born losers, and he's one of them. He's that way by choice. Some people are just mean people, just like some people are just nice people. We are who we are.
Nobody is telling you to complain about anything.
Don't expect me to feel sympathy for some guy who feels the need to bully people, though. Bullying is something that can be controlled, especially if the one doing the bullying is college aged or older. I refuse to feel sorry for a bully that is responsible for their actions, which they are.