Did any of you in here used to be somewhat popular?
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BlueDays
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^Me too.
I hate the way this world is run too much to "fit in" with the status quo that popular people have to live by in order to become popular.
doubtmyself
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I can relate to the OP because I was good at football too in high school. I didn't have to approach others because of my status. Enjoyed a brief feeling of what it m ust be like to be a rock star. Popular with girls but too stupid to read the signs let alone get to second or third base!
Went to college and suddenly became a nobody because I stopped playing football due to injury and then wasn't good enough anyway! This was a shock I realised my poularity was very conditional and my only real friends were a couple of nerds similar to myself. An invaluable life lesson as it taught me to not chase after superficial things. Good friends don't look to you to boost their status!
Went to college and suddenly became a nobody because I stopped playing football due to injury and then wasn't good enough anyway! This was a shock I realised my poularity was very conditional and my only real friends were a couple of nerds similar to myself. An invaluable life lesson as it taught me to not chase after superficial things. Good friends don't look to you to boost their status!
MikeyC
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So you were popular yet socially awkward? That interesting. I guess a lot of people looked past that.
nafadda
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yes..and it's not all it's cracked up tp be.
I could be in a room full of people and i kept wishing i wasn't and that i didn't have to smile and act a certain way and dress a certain way and make small talk that i really could care less about...
so after many years of doing just that I OD'd on people and became a recluse and to be honest I think this is a MUCH better place for me.
so remember sometimes when you see a person that looks happy and popular..looks can be very decieving..that person may just be dreaming of NOt being who they are acting like thay are
I could be in a room full of people and i kept wishing i wasn't and that i didn't have to smile and act a certain way and dress a certain way and make small talk that i really could care less about...
so after many years of doing just that I OD'd on people and became a recluse and to be honest I think this is a MUCH better place for me.
so remember sometimes when you see a person that looks happy and popular..looks can be very decieving..that person may just be dreaming of NOt being who they are acting like thay are
Yeah dude, you nailed it. It's strange how you take popularity for granted when its based on something so superficial. But looking back, I think that deep down, some people knew my popularity was superficially based on playing soccer. I just didn't have the popular look or personality naturally. That probably explains why in High School I enjoyed popularity at parties with our students, but when we went to parties at other schools nobody really gave me attention or started conversations, despite knowing who I was. It's funny that you're from Alabama because I actually lived in Birmingham for my HS years. I'm originally from New York, and I always felt like the Southern iconic gentleman engrained in the minds of the superficial girls down here always ruled me out as a suitor (I'm half white/east indian).
ilmatross
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although your entire post was eloquent and well put this sentence is a beautiful representation of my lifes struggle
Aletheia
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coyote
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Re: alcohol helped
i have found that it's often very easy to keep people at a distance by being outgoing and talkative - it's like wearing camouflage or a disguise
and if you control the conversation, you can make sure they can't get too close and discover things about you that you don't want
them to know
like nafadda said, just because someone appears calm and poised and gregarious on the outside, it doesn't mean they're not quivering in fear on the inside
So you were popular yet socially awkward? That interesting. I guess a lot of people looked past that.
i have found that it's often very easy to keep people at a distance by being outgoing and talkative - it's like wearing camouflage or a disguise
and if you control the conversation, you can make sure they can't get too close and discover things about you that you don't want
them to know
like nafadda said, just because someone appears calm and poised and gregarious on the outside, it doesn't mean they're not quivering in fear on the inside
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AsTimeBurns
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Not really. At primary school I had quite a few friends, but when we moved up to secondary school they started with all the drinking and drugs and they sort of phased me out since I didn't care for that. Made other friends at secondary school, and I certainly wouldn't say I was horrifically unpopular, I had at least a few I could hang around with.
But as soon as I left school and went to university I become totally solitary really. Partly down to my lack of confidence because of my appearance and partly down to some bad luck, e.g. when I started there i was in a shared accomodation with 2 girls, 1 was never there and the other had loud parties until 5AM every night with tonnes of people round, so I never got any sleep. Another e.g. we spent a whole day doing ice-breaker/bonding activities at the start of my course to get to know your group who you'd be working with all year, and at the end they said they'd put me in the wrong group, so I had to move to one with people I hadn't just got to know. Little things like that always seem to go against me.
But as soon as I left school and went to university I become totally solitary really. Partly down to my lack of confidence because of my appearance and partly down to some bad luck, e.g. when I started there i was in a shared accomodation with 2 girls, 1 was never there and the other had loud parties until 5AM every night with tonnes of people round, so I never got any sleep. Another e.g. we spent a whole day doing ice-breaker/bonding activities at the start of my course to get to know your group who you'd be working with all year, and at the end they said they'd put me in the wrong group, so I had to move to one with people I hadn't just got to know. Little things like that always seem to go against me.
028ellie81
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I am still waiting on becoming popular. I live in hope that someday people will discover my fantastic qualities and want to befriend me lol!
MollyBeGood
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I was really popular for awhile then it got so exhausting trying to keep up a facade of caring if people liked me all the time, so I gave it up and gave into my true personality which is the opposite. I hated all the attention from being popular. I prefer to be alone or with a few close friends and that is it.
ohheybbyitscorixx
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I wasn't really popular. But a year after high school I realized everyone in school knew who I was. People would say hello to me on the street and stuff, and I don't even remember them. I was known around my school to have a lot of "issues" and people would spread messed up rumors about me. I know there were rumors about me being pregnant, stabbing a person and being in jail, beating my mother, being a lesbian, and having sex with this one guy (3 people lied about that). Ugh, people are cruel man. But after a while I was known as the "girl who never went to school." I literally only went a few days every 2 months or so. So, I supposed when I showed up and then left right after people wondered who the heck I was...hah! Most of those people who made fun of me had bad home lives, and I understand why they bullied me. It's quite sad...at least I left my home. Most of them will never leave theirs....or they have children and do the same thing their parents did. I feel lucky in a way...
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