Depressed

[ella_missing]

days are the same.
I can't do much. Wake up,tv,take a bath or stay in bed. Nothing interesting.
I don't have friends and I don't think I care anymore.
what else can i do?

 

[Valhalla]

Try to hang in there the best you can, and see what will happen next.

 

[ella_missing]

can something better happen for me?

 

[neardeath]

can something better happen for me?

We all hope so. I am in the same place. I like to think that something good is going to happen that I won't want to miss. Today, though, crying in the shower already. Totally overwhelmed. So we hang in there together.

 

[laure15]

Do you have passions you would like to pursue? Something that sparks your interest that you're thinking of dabbling in? Pick an activity from your list and have fun doing it.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

Ugh! I don't know what to do myself. Even my passions are not enough.................just don't care. Very bad place to be in!

I hope things turn around for you.

 

[IntheLabyrinth]

I am sorry you're feeling so depressed. That is a horrible feeling. Maybe you can try a different therapist and meds. It may help.

 

[kihira]

days are the same.
I can't do much. Wake up,tv,take a bath or stay in bed. Nothing interesting.
I don't have friends and I don't think I care anymore.
therapy Yes
meds Yes
what else can i do?

can something better happen for me?

I suggest doing something out of your usual routine, break the cycle of the same things happening each day. Go for a walk somewhere nice, visit a museum - I find that even if it doesn't appeal to me at the time, once I get out there, a little bit of magic happens that makes the effort worthwhile.

 

[ella_missing]

Do you have passions you would like to pursue? Something that sparks your interest that you're thinking of dabbling in? Pick an activity from your list and have fun doing it.

No,nothing is interesting. Some things I can't afford or it's also difficult to do . Mostly, I just don't feel like doing anything

 

[ella_missing]

I suggest doing something out of your usual routine, break the cycle of the same things happening each day. Go for a walk somewhere nice, visit a museum - I find that even if it doesn't appeal to me at the time, once I get out there, a little bit of magic happens that makes the effort worthwhile.

and what to do exactly? If I go for a walk,then what? Does it change something?

 

[kihira]

and what to do exactly? If I go for a walk,then what? Does it change something?

My doctor suggested regular walking for my depression, especially in daylight/sunlight, as it can help to improve the brain chemicals that are responsible for depression. I choose interesting places to go, so there's always something to look at.

 

[Remus]

^ I find getting back to nature always improves my mood.

 

[Plan9]

and what to do exactly? If I go for a walk,then what? Does it change something?

Well it gets you into the world and seeing thing from a different pespective, makes things a little less opressive. Thats what I've always found any how.

 

[theslowesthand]

When severely/chronically depresed, i found even walking in nature didn't barely help at all (ie didn't feel any better), and it sometimes made it even worse. It didn't change my overall perspective at all, as the depression followed me everywhere i went, tainting everything i saw & experienced. In those times, NOTHING could shift the overwhelming sadness & despair of the depression i were in. (Sorry to be negative, just telling it how it was for me).

 

[ella_missing]

When severely/chronically depresed, i found even walking in nature didn't barely help at all (ie didn't feel any better), and it sometimes made it even worse. It didn't change my overall perspective at all, as the depression followed me everywhere i went, tainting everything i saw & experienced. In those times, NOTHING could shift the overwhelming sadness & despair of the depression i were in. (Sorry to be negative, just telling it how it was for me).

You're not negative to me. It is real. I could put an efford and try to go for a walk but I know it won't make me feel better.
was there something that helped you?

 

[theslowesthand]

I could put an efford and try to go for a walk but I know it won't make me feel better.
was there something that helped you?

If i recall correctly, in all my depressions, there was no "quick-fix" solution. I just had to go through the suffering really, get through it as best as i could manage (which wasn't very good at all imho!). Every one is different, so i cannot give much in the way of specifics, but i think the general things that sort of maybe helped a bit, were:
- get heaps of sleep & bed-rest (eg stay for days in bed)
- take anti-depressant medication (i had been off it for several months; only a day/so after taking it again i felt sig better, weren't near as depressed)
- go over your thoughts/beliefs about life (ie try to rationalize/accept things)
- have as much gentle/peaceful/positive words or affirmations every single day (to help combat all the negative thoughts/feelings; this is perhaps the most important one i believe)
- write everything down
- keep "hammering away" at the depression, day-in-day-out, week-in-week-out, month-in-month-out (as IT will certainly not relent easily, so neither should your efforts)

I probably need to get back into all this depression stuff again, as right now i am feeling on the cusp of returning back down into the black abyss (practically have been there for past few days in hell). But it's fine, as i believe that this suffering has important messages hidden within it. As long as i keep finding diversions, the pain will remain. I need to start some serious work on confronting it now...

 

[ella_missing]

I keep thinking that if I was dead I wouldn't feel so desparate,sad,in pain,alone

 

[theslowesthand]

I keep thinking that if I was dead I wouldn't feel so desparate,sad,in pain,alone

Well i can't debate that (i mean, i can't affirm nor deny that .. neither can anyone else)

You know, i have realized that i know SO MUCH about all this kind of stuff (& i have collected SO MANY files & such from web over the years). There really is SO SO SO MUCH to learn about pain, depression, life, etc. It's hard to know where to START with it all! (hehe). I mean, in spite of the QUANTITY of info i have amassed, it is kinda tricky to say the least to know which to try to follow first, what the A..B..C steps are, etc. Humans are very complex beings, so i guess that's no real surprise that it's tricky to find a "process" that works for any particular person, myself included (& i KNOW all about myself!! lol)

But i can help you out, if you wish, as i've been in very similar mental states for many years now (~20 years of). As i said, i have collected an ASTOUNDING amount of stuff on (eg) depression/suicide. Lot of good stuff amidst it. But i haven't really studied how to HELP people (such as yourself), as i'm more a "systems" person, rather than interpersonal (but am working on it)

For now i will leave you with a few tid-bits off the top of my head:
- Attachment = pain (incl attachment to idea of "yourself" as a separate, ever-lasting entity)
- Pain is primary, depression/.. is secondary (a symptom of pain)
- Death is only physical; life (for you) continues on before birth & after (physcial) death
- When we die, it has barely no effect on "Life" .. as each of us is but a tiny manifestation of life. But as humans, we tend to believe that we are the centre of life & consciousness - that is not so

 

[ella_missing]

I don't feel better.

 

[IntheLabyrinth]

I think one thing that has helped me is changing my diet and getting lots of exercise. It won't help over night, but after a while I think it will. I cut out almost all caffeine (except tea), red meat, and sugar. I eat lots of vegatables, fruit, and fish. I still have don't have much in my life to be happy about, but I don't seem to get depressed much anymore. I have no proof that it was the change in diet, but I believe it helped me. I hope you start feeling happier, and that you don't attempt suicide. Things will likely get better someday soon.