Depressed

[cowboyup]

I am sorry you're feeling so depressed.
I can actually say I know the feeling. Not specific to your situation, but general depression.
It's not been good day/weekend for me at home and I think I should go get some sun...and like others have said here, going out, getting some fresh air, going for a walk, does 'temporarily' ease the blues a bit - I can't speak for everyone but for me it helps. Seems for others it helps too.

Is there any hobby you are interested in? Movies or TV? maybe even temporarily getting your mind off how sad and depressed you feel you can divert your attention to something 'lighter'

Have you been to a doctor for your depression?

I hope you get feeling better.

 

[ella_missing]

Nothing is interesting. Not even the few things I was doing (watch tv,read a book,a short walk)

 

[hidwell]

I think what Phocas is saying is by breaking your routine it gives your mind a chance to get out of your head. And therefore you might find life more interesting and worthwhile.

 

[ella_missing]

How do you break a routine that almost doesn't exist?

 

[Subpop]

Hi ella missing. It is hard to imagine how you are feeling......hard in that anyone who has been depressed probably would rather forget how it feels.

Do you think you could call and make an appointment to spend a bit of time with a Doctor, like a General Practicioner, not necessarily a Psychologist/Psychiatrist? Would it be possible for them to visit you where you live?

I am speaking as a fellow human who has had depression, it may seem so hard but it is really really really important that you try and speak to someone about your situation, even a telephone or online counsellor if you cannot get into see a doctor.

I am pretty confident that if you want to write your thoughts here people will respond, as they already have.

 

[ella_missing]

Thank you Subpop. What could I say to a general practicioner? I am seeing a psychologist already.

 

[Subpop]

Can you speak with the psychologist? I suggested a GP as sometimes it can be very difficult in some places to obtain a referral to a psychologist in a reasonable amount of time.

More importantly for you, do you feel comfortable talking to your psychologist and do you feel like they are helping you?

 

[theslowesthand]

I think that most of the depression is caused by a discepancy between what is real, and what you believe (& want to be) real. The internal battle involved between these two things creates extreme frustration, and eventually, depression. And so the REALLY HARD life lessons of depression begins.

Brain chemicals can be involved also (eg an imbalance of neurotransmitters).

And the depression seems to "amplify" the negative aspects of everything, and therefore also the severity/degree of bad feelings. I always found the feelings of anxiety, hopelessness, dread, etc (ie the most fear-based feelings) were the main bad feelings experienced during the depression.

I found i was constantly on the "lookout" for something that could "save" me. Every day of depression, i actually did find things which "inspired" me, or "saved" me, at least for that moment. They made me feel that everything is actually okay, or will be okay (ie they helped to soothe my fears).

 

[ella_missing]

I feel comfortable with my psychologist.
When I'm depressed I get in emotional eating,which eventually makes me feel worse. I begin with a plan ( thinking I can have only fruits or veggies for the day) but I fail. I'm a failure at everything.

 

[planemo]

i'm sorry you're depressed. i'm pretty depressed myself.

for me certain things have helped and others haven't.

watching tv, listening to music, playing games etc. helps initially but once you're finished with it and once it stops distracting you, it wares off and you're kinda back to square one. the last thing you want to do is listen to sad music and watch depressing stuff on tv.

walking has helped. i walk in my backyard since i'm too scared to do it public. its helped with my general health and any exercise is very good. if it's possible to go to gym, then i would suggest it. staying inactive makes things worse.

try to get up earlier if its possible. don't stay in your pyjamas the whole day for example. that's what i tend to do a lot, and it doesn't help. even if you're not planning to do much get washed and dressed and you're more likely to say 'yes' to wanting to go out if the opportunity comes.

do you have any pets? if you don't, get at least one. its helped me a lot, as i find something or someone else to focus on besides myself. pets also provide love and affection.

try to read as much as possible. reading is far better that sitting in front of a tv.

try to do work around the house. work provides accomplishment at the end so its far more rewarding.

try to write down your feelings in a journal or a blog.

if its possible to leave the home, than i would recommend it. anything like shopping, easting out etc changes the monotony of home.

if you drive, take a drive in your neighbourhood for an hour or so. and if you can't drive ask someone do drive you around. driving helps reduce the feeling of being stuck in one place.

drink tea and take a bath regularly. try to stay away from too much coffee and choose a bath over a shower as its more relaxing.

i really hope this helps.

 

[jaim38]

I'm depressed. I hate that class. It was an elective but I'm failing the assignments. The teacher wasn't as interactive or helpful as I thought. It looks like there are 3 assignments, of which I failed 2. Now my hope rests on the tests and team projects. I need to ace those. As long as I make a B or above, I'm good to go.

 

[FeartheGreat]

Hang on man. I'm sure some good fortune will blow in your direction. It just takes a little longer for us.

 

[ella_missing]

Didn't i wait for long?

 

[Scrobes]

hello ella

I can relate to you I think. Do you like listening to music? Do you play any instruments? I think one idea might be to try and inject some creativity into your life, no matter how small. Drawing anything at all, even just doodles. Writing; and it could be nonsense, fiction, or nonfiction. Or taking photos of life outside around you. If you play an instrument maybe try to do that, and lose yourself to it. It might take some time to get momentum, you won't be going at top speed when you first start exploring your creativity, you will accelerate to that eventually over time. Hope some of that helped.

 

[Unspoken]

I feel comfortable with my psychologist.
When I'm depressed I get in emotional eating,which eventually makes me feel worse. I begin with a plan ( thinking I can have only fruits or veggies for the day) but I fail. I'm a failure at everything.

This sounds like a hard plan, especially if you're a stress eater like yourself (or me). It would probably be easier to plan out a more satisfying meal that's still healthy, because just fruits and veggies sucks.