dating confusion

LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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Him:Hey want to hangout sometime this weekend when youre not working?
Me: Yes, i'm off on Sunday

Todays Sunday. And he hasn't said anything? This doesn't really have to do with SA, but i put this in the relationship section :/ This means it's over? It would have been the third date, so probably is.
 
twiggle

twiggle

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LazyHermitCrab said:
....i guess it's better to call then text and he can just ignore the call if he doesn't want to hangout :rolleyes:
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Well he instigated the meet-up so if I were you I'd just go for it and if he wants to play hard-to-get that's a different matter entirely :)
 
sullyS25

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LazyHermitCrab said:
Him:Hey want to hangout sometime this weekend when youre not working?
Me: Yes, i'm off on Sunday

Todays Sunday. And he hasn't said anything? This doesn't really have to do with SA, but i put this in the relationship section :/ This means it's over? It would have been the third date, so probably is.
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That doesnt necessarily mean it is over. I see it as the dude playing games. Whatever you do, don't bombard him with texts and calls or I can assure you that it will be over. As difficult as it may be, I would just wait until he contacts you.
 
LazyHermitCrab

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twiggle said:
Well he instigated the meet-up so if I were you I'd just go for it and if he wants to play hard-to-get that's a different matter entirely :)
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He didn't confirm specifically Sunday though? So it should still be confirmed? If he ignores me then i will know i suppose... ::(:
 
LazyHermitCrab

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sullyS25 said:
That doesnt necessarily mean it is over. I see it as the dude playing games. Whatever you do, don't bombard him with texts and calls or I can assure you that it will be over. As difficult as it may be, I would just wait until he contacts you.
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Mm ok i guess this will be easiest since I won't have to do anything, difficult as the same time
 
sullyS25

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I mean it isnt bad to send him one text or to try calling but there is some reason you havent heard from him and it may have nothing to do with you. if he is interested i guarantee he will get back to you.
 
dottie

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what is the confusion? he invited you to hang out so clearly he wants to hear from you. just call him and ask if he still wants to hang out. are you going to wait by the phone in anxiety and anticipation all day? eff that. just take initiative, call him, find out if he is still down, and get on with your day either way. (even if he says no, so what? do something else but stop wasting your time worrying.) you are making a phonecall a way bigger deal than it needs to be.
 
LazyHermitCrab

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I don't think i'm in the good mentality to talk of the phone right now. One text? "Hey! Are you still up for hanging out this weekend?" -.-
 
sullyS25

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LazyHermitCrab said:
I don't think i'm in the good mentality to talk of the phone right now. One text? "Hey! Did you want to still hangout this weekend?" -.-
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Ya that would probably be fine and if there is no response I would not do anything until there is. Ive had girls bother the hell out of me with multiple texts and it annoyed me and I continued to ignore them.

As for Dottie saying it isnt that complicated because he initiated contact and it is obvious that he wants to hang out, that isnt always the case. Ive told girls I wanted to hang out before only to realize after I said it that i really didnt want to. Then those girls would call and text me like mad and i would not speak with them. As messed up as it is that is how we are as guys sometimes. We say things we dont necessarily mean and are turned off when we are bothered.

I am not saying that is the case with you LazyHermitCrab just telling you what i have done in the past. I think you are good with that text though.
 
LazyHermitCrab

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sullyS25 said:
Ya that would probably be fine and if there is no response I would not do anything until there is. Ive had girls bother the hell out of me with multiple texts and it annoyed me and I continued to ignore them.

As for Dottie saying it isnt that complicated because he initiated contact and it is obvious that he wants to hang out, that isnt always the case. Ive told girls I wanted to hang out before only to realize after I said it that i really didnt want to. Then those girls would call and text me like mad and i would not speak with them. As messed up as it is that is how we are as guys sometimes. We say things we dont necessarily mean and are turned off when we are bothered.

I am not saying that is the case with you LazyHermitCrab just telling you what i have done in the past. I think you are good with that text though.
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Thanks this helps a lot. I vow.. I will not say anything after that text ;) (Unless he says something)
 
LazyHermitCrab

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He wrote: Sure. Im doing some work around the house and i have hockey at 5. So after that ok?
Me: Yeah

I answered about ten seconds later and now i'm scared to meet him tonight. I don't even know what we are doing. I'm just going to try to be myself from now on and see what happens :zzzz
 
dottie

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sullyS25 said:
Ive told girls I wanted to hang out before only to realize after I said it that i really didnt want to. Then those girls would call and text me like mad and i would not speak with them. As messed up as it is that is how we are as guys sometimes. We say things we dont necessarily mean and are turned off when we are bothered.
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stop trying to confuse this girl. the difference is she isn't going to call or text him like mad. she is just going to call one time to find out what's up. is that so unreasonable? what is this, jr high?
 
LazyHermitCrab

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dottie said:
stop trying to confuse this girl. the difference is she isn't going to call or text him like mad. she is just going to call one time to find out what's up. is that so unreasonable? what is this, jr high?
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he's almost 26 and i'm 20 -.- and i did text him once so it's good thanks !!!!
 
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