Clumsiness

[gustavofring]

Whenever there's social pressure on me, I turn extra clumsy. You try your best to act casual and nonchalant, and then whoooop, your hand makes a spastic movement and there's tea or beer all over the table and then there's that dead painful silence where everyone is looking at you, in a concerned way. It's happened so many times that people must have come to be used to it from me by now. Sometimes I wonder if I have some sort of motoric retardation but then again it rarely ever happens in private situations, so it must have something to do with social anxiety.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

I dropped my full glass of lemonade a few minutes ago. But I am not in a social situation...unless this site can be considered one. Maybe it is anxiety in general, but I am very clumsy. I have a lot of little accidents...

 

[BlueDays]

Whenever there's social pressure on me, I turn extra clumsy. You try your best to act casual and nonchalant, and then whoooop, your hand makes a spastic movement and there's tea or beer all over the table and then there's that dead painful silence where everyone is looking at you, in a concerned way. It's happened so many times that people must have come to be used to it from me by now. Sometimes I wonder if I have some sort of motoric retardation but then again it rarely ever happens in private situations, so it must have something to do with social anxiety.

I have that exact problem too gustavofring. Like you it only happens in social situations when I am anxious :/
Do you find the harder you try to concentrate on not dropping or knocking something, the more it happens? After I have done something clumsy, that only makes me more jittery and anxious that I will do something worse.

 

[Ten]

let me tell you that there's nothing wrong with you. The problem is focusing on other things other than what you're doing. Stop all the thinking, work on being calm. I used to be incredibly clumsy until I just worked on living more in the current moment rather than all the thoughts flying everywhere all the time. Center yourself.

 

[this_portrait]

Clumsiness can happen often when you're nervous because you're so flustered that it's hard to be calm and pay attention to your movements. I've had my fair share of clumsy situations, mostly from when I was a kid interacting with my peers. Ten makes a good point about trying to stay calm. You might want to try taking deep breaths. I find that those help a lot.

 

[Srijita52]

I'm clumsy in general, but I find when I'm nervous I just start to act super clumsy lol. I agree with ten taking deep breaths can really help also try not to think how things can go wrong I find when I try to fix my clumsiness it just gets worse.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Lol i get clumsy too. Today i had trouble pulling out a chair like it's either too close or far from the table. I had to keep moving the chair and it kept sqeeking back and forth and i ended up sitting too far from the table. So i had to move the chair closer and got someones purse stuck. It should be simple but clusminess makes it hard.

 

[gustavofring]

Often I find when I attempt to take deep breaths to relax, that's when I feel the "anxiety feeling" really kicks in, in the stomach/chest (the burning sensation). I think it's because I am thinking about battling anxiety while doing it. Maybe I do it wrongly?

 

[coyote]

it's like thinking about not thinking about not thinking about not thinking....

you can' think about it

you just have to stop thinking

and instead concentrate on doing

 

[Shyangel]

I'm so bad with this. I'm a complete train wreck of clumsiness in social situations.
Everything I do comes off as weird and results in something going wrong. Falling to the ground, tipping over, flying every where. You name it. One day I'll have social interaction that's not insanely awkward and causes horrible mess and embarrassment. I'm holding on to that dream, thank you.

 

[Hoppy]

I always thought I was clumsy until I realised I only experoienced it much worse when I'm with other people.

If something happen when I am alone I just ignore it.

And some people overreact when you do something not absolutely correct. That is why I've developed the 2 meter rule for some people. If I'm busy, you stand 2 meters away from me, because the moment I drop something they start interfering.

 

[mikebird]

it's like thinking about not thinking about not thinking about not thinking....

you can' think about it

you just have to stop thinking

and instead concentrate on doing

This is happening to me, right now. It's bad. It's not necessarily social. Some of the biggest pressure seems to have affected me when heading the the office in the mornings. I get shaky fingers. At last I can trust my typing skills, but sometimes it is a bit evident; I have to edit my characters. Dressing up to start a morning has been successful, after a bit of panicking at home.

Doing up my buttons and tie gets stressful. I try deep breaths. Generally I get there. It's about calming down. Yesterday I had a meeting. Since my last 3 months of rehab since epilepsy siezure, I wore t-shirts - hard enough to get them the right way round. I struggled with my belt, but it seems to be in order. Using my favourite clothes seems to help.

Not a regular interview, yesterday, I went to see a personal career advisor. It was the first time for months that I had incredible trouble - cufflinks OK, but buttons unwieldy. I ended up with the top few open, wearing a casual shirt. The effort getting the others done was almost beyond me. I had big trouble finding the office. 30 minutes late! We had another slot this morning, but I had no confirmation response, thinking I'd been given up on - maybe my appearance, tardiness, and my way of bumbling through conversation.

Just now, I gave up after doing just one button, and accepting I'd not be capable. I even got stressed just undoing the button, and I used to have trouble getting out of my shirts after work! No chance with a tie. I wonder if strong coffee might help, or not taking my tropical cocktail of pills, leaving that until returning, as I do with the gym.

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