But I'm too.........

[MikeyC]

Well, 6 months to one year is tolerable here, 2 years a bit unusual but eventually can be accepted... but if anything more there's gonna be people feeling sorry for the guy and making you feel like crap. I think people are more judgmental here... I'm gonna get out of this country again!... someday!

I'm sorry that happens there. :sad: He missed out on an opportunity with a cool girl because of silly ideals.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Sh*t! This thread kind of struck a nerve with me too!! I can definitely relate to your feeling . I would get less approached by guys when I was younger due to the severe awkward vibes that I would emit around them, now that I'm older and more at ease I do get approached more but I always have to remind myself that I'm older and that if they figure my age they'll run away! Something like that actually happened to me in my last job. A 4 years younger guy who thought I was younger then him approached me. I thought he knew my age and it was all platonic until he told me once that we should hang out with his friends sometime after work. I told him I'd think about it and asked his friends age and consequently my age was brought up in the conversation... all of the sudden he was shocked and said he could never believe that I was that age and from that day no more e-mails came from him (he'd deleted me from his mailing list) and his behavior completely changed and became formal! Good thing that I thought it was all platonic from the beginning! I find this getting old concept to be even worse for women (at least where I live ).

Hmmm...that is interesting. I have dated guys younger than me more than once and my age never bothered them. My boyfriend right now is a whole five years younger than me. His family assume we are the same age Yeah, I also think this guy overreacted some. But I understand that it is usually more acceptable for there to be a more significant age gap between a guy and girl when the guy is older, by like even 10 or more years, but if the girl is a couple years older it is something taboo Age is just age. When people are compatible it doesn't matter. Well, it shouldn't anyway.

 

[theslowesthand]

I'm 40, and have always been a worry-wort about such matters (& everything in life). Never had a woman-friend, or even a friend who's a woman. But that doesn't bother me, as i'm completely sure it's all highly overrated.
Although my 30s were kinda wasted away in isolation, with almost zero social contact, i feel i have made significant ground "internally", so much so that i quite possibly might just skip the whole women/sex/relationship thing altogether, and simply continue to focus on the "higher" things in life, such as elevation of consciousness, preparing for death/afterlife/reincarnation, etc.

 

[gazelle]

I'm sorry that happens there. :sad: He missed out on an opportunity with a cool girl because of silly ideals.

Thanks Mickey

Hmmm...that is interesting. I have dated guys younger than me more than once and my age never bothered them. My boyfriend right now is a whole five years younger than me. His family assume we are the same age Yeah, I also think this guy overreacted some. But I understand that it is usually more acceptable for there to be a more significant age gap between a guy and girl when the guy is older, by like even 10 or more years, but if the girl is a couple years older it is something taboo Age is just age. When people are compatible it doesn't matter. Well, it shouldn't anyway.

Yes, true when two poeple are compatible age shouldn't matter... I think the fact that it's more accepted for women to be older where you live has to do with women having achieved more rights there and these rights having become internalized among society.

 

[coyote]

the older you get, the larger the dating pool becomes

 

[gustavofring]

Now, everyone is calling me Sir............I wasted my youth.

People call me Sir too, and I'm 27. Heck they called me that way when I was like 20 haha. It's nothing personal, I think. It's just a general polite thing to say to a (young) man. What else are they gonna say, "Boy"?

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Do you look young for your age? You could lie until she falls in love with you. That's what my uncle did and it worked for him.

 

[rosewood]

Well, 6 months to one year is tolerable here, 2 years a bit unusual but eventually can be accepted... but if anything more there's gonna be people feeling sorry for the guy and making you feel like crap. I think people are more judgmental here... I'm gonna get out of this country again!... someday!

wow, that seems pretty rigid and very narrow. what if you met someone you really liked and they just happened to be outside that age range?

 

[gazelle]

wow, that seems pretty rigid and very narrow. what if you met someone you really liked and they just happened to be outside that age range?

I suppose there will be a 70% probability that the guy's family will give a thumbs down on the relationship and if they do eventually get serious in the relationship, they'll probably keep it as a secret.