sullyS25
Well-known member
In my past six months of personal growth I have realized how selfish I can be and have related it to the anxiety I feel in social situations. When I first heard the idea of being selfish I thought it was total BS and everyone else was selfish, I have come to realize that this really is not true.
In social situations when I am so afraid of how others will perceive me I think this characteristic is the strongest. I am only thinking about myself and how others will react to me or what they will think of ME. I am not concerned about how others are doing or what else is going on in their mind unless it comes back to me. This may sound completely off to a lot of people but I believe this is the root of the problem. I am so concerned with myself and how others view me that everything else is crowded out. I fail to realize when I am speaking in front of a big crowd that a good amount of them are probably not paying as much attention to me as I think and in most cases are more concerned with whatever is going on in their lives. I assume they notice everything that is going on with me like a red face from blushing or a trembling voice when that probably is not the case.
I feel it is a good practice to remind myself of this every time I am feeling insecure or anxious in social situations because it really does help the symptoms that go along with social anxiety. Maybe I am completely wrong and a lot of you all will disagree but personally, this realization has really helped during this period of growth.
In social situations when I am so afraid of how others will perceive me I think this characteristic is the strongest. I am only thinking about myself and how others will react to me or what they will think of ME. I am not concerned about how others are doing or what else is going on in their mind unless it comes back to me. This may sound completely off to a lot of people but I believe this is the root of the problem. I am so concerned with myself and how others view me that everything else is crowded out. I fail to realize when I am speaking in front of a big crowd that a good amount of them are probably not paying as much attention to me as I think and in most cases are more concerned with whatever is going on in their lives. I assume they notice everything that is going on with me like a red face from blushing or a trembling voice when that probably is not the case.
I feel it is a good practice to remind myself of this every time I am feeling insecure or anxious in social situations because it really does help the symptoms that go along with social anxiety. Maybe I am completely wrong and a lot of you all will disagree but personally, this realization has really helped during this period of growth.