At times I feel completely absent of "social energy"

JosephG

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When I'm feeling low or just periodically I can feel like my "social energy" has been completely depleted. Like I'm too lazy and there's not enough energy to even attempt to make conversation, reply to a text etc
It's like I become socially lethargic and I also feel physically tired and energy-less. It's a lot worse when I am tired/not had much sleep and often occurs after I have had a good period of socialising.
Is this a common thing people experience?
 

dottie

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i think it's a sliding scale. some people experience it more than others. just like anything else human, right?
 

madmike

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I remember when i was younger, whenever i had a sleepover or stayed the night at friends houses for their birthdays, etc, i'd feel sort of depleted the next day. It was more of a sadness than tiredness though, and i'd usually be alright again the next day. Nowadays i don't notice it so much, in fact i usually feel really good after a night out or a catchup with old friends, partly relieved that it's over and partly happy and buzzing from the social interaction, but not so much lethargic. I think i've just gotten more used to spending time alone (which isn't necessarily healthy!)

The apathy for me usually comes after a long period without doing much/having much social interaction. You should try to stay motivated when this happens, indulge in some activities you enjoy doing as well, i generally read a book or study (yes, i enjoy studying lol) but just do anything that helps you 'zone out'. With me its generally thinking too much/too negatively that wears me out...
 

mr.jimbo

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i believe so. i experience the same way you do. i say effortless things to pass through with little words. at times, i dont feel like talking to anyone at all because the way my body, mind, and soul is functioning.
 

trickynix

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I've experienced this many, many times myself. It all depends on the person, but I would say that for some people, yes.
 

Phoenixx

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I get this too, and lately it's been occurring more often than I'd like. I get this feeling especially after hanging with friends or just socializing for long periods. It's like I feel emotionally exhausted, and then I just don't want to talk to anyone and want to be left alone for quite a while.
 

Deus_Ex_Lemur

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I get this too, and lately it's been occurring more often than I'd like. I get this feeling especially after hanging with friends or just socializing for long periods. It's like I feel emotionally exhausted, and then I just don't want to talk to anyone and want to be left alone for quite a while.

Yeah. Like now - I can barely reply to this and have more to say. But basically sums it up... its because expend so much energy than other ppl not relaxing, worrying, self-conscious thoughts, negative, etc. All takes away energy. Also Im sure like physical stamina, like cardio, like anything. Dont do a lot of it, when do it, just feels much more taxing.
 
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Dayvan

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I can relate to this completely. In high school I would occasionally go to a friends house (reluctantly), and by the next day, I was emotionally spent. I just wanted to go home to sleep and be alone and "recover".

I still do this, to a degree. If I meet a friend for the day, I would never, ever see them again for some time, it's just too much.
 

JosephG

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I wish there was a way of combating it. I feel limited in a way.
Like today I was exhausted and just couldn't muster conversation. A girl I absolutely adore (she's gorgeous) sat opposite me and started talking to me and I could tell she was interested. But instead I just sat there - nervous and not making conversation. There goes my chance... ;/
 
For introverts, socialising depletes energy, if we have none to use then socialising seems an impossibility. At work, I will frequently skip the staff morning/afternoon break and go for a walk outside to recharge.
 
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