Hello All,
I am new to the forums and lately I have been trying to put my mind to becoming more assertive but I always feel like I am being rude or pushy if I stand up for myself. I really dislike people who seem impolite and discourteous and Im afraid that I will feel or appear very aggressive, rather then assertive.
Also in my mind being an assertive person is being very outgoing and vocal, whereas I am more hopeful to just carry a sort of strong almost "dont-mess-with-me" (in the nicest way that could come across) aura about me. Any ideas on how to convey that...erm attitude? I guess I think that assertiveness is like putting people in place when they are unkind to you, or telling them to cut it out. And I feel like that is too scary for me?
Any ideas on how to become more assertive?
I am new to the forums and lately I have been trying to put my mind to becoming more assertive but I always feel like I am being rude or pushy if I stand up for myself. I really dislike people who seem impolite and discourteous and Im afraid that I will feel or appear very aggressive, rather then assertive.
Also in my mind being an assertive person is being very outgoing and vocal, whereas I am more hopeful to just carry a sort of strong almost "dont-mess-with-me" (in the nicest way that could come across) aura about me. Any ideas on how to convey that...erm attitude? I guess I think that assertiveness is like putting people in place when they are unkind to you, or telling them to cut it out. And I feel like that is too scary for me?
Any ideas on how to become more assertive?