Argh! I need some advice...
- Thread starter columnmn
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Have you managed to work through it and how? Would be interested to know.. If anyone else has any advice, please do tell..
Burntfaceman
Active member
Hey columnmn 
I dunno if this will help but have you tryed not thinking about how sick you might get and focusing on something else?
maybe if you are talking to a girl try really hard to focus on the conversation or something else? like maybe chew gum and think about it?
I dont really know much about your problem so sorry if this sounds really stupid but maybe if you try not to worry about it and focus on anything BUT the problem it might help??
GOOD LUCK mate
hope all works out.
I dunno if this will help but have you tryed not thinking about how sick you might get and focusing on something else?
maybe if you are talking to a girl try really hard to focus on the conversation or something else? like maybe chew gum and think about it?
I dont really know much about your problem so sorry if this sounds really stupid but maybe if you try not to worry about it and focus on anything BUT the problem it might help??
GOOD LUCK mate
hope all works out.
columnmn
Member
Well this thread was dug up from a while ago.
That was probably one of the lowest points in my life when I was writing that. When my anxiety was probably at the worst. I just read threw it again, and I'll finish off the story. Nothing ever happened with the girl, but probably a good thing looking back. I think it came to a conclusion when she was pretty much asking me out, and I ran away (probably more of a quick walk, but it felt like running). But thinking about it she was a bit slutty, and it probably wouldn't have lasted.
But from there I did pick myself up and move on.
I met a girl who suffered from very similar problems, and I managed to talk through them with her, and she helped me through them, and I helped her through them. Just basically realising that I was fighting the anxiety rather than my own nerves. It was a start. And from there I pretty much moved on. Nothing really happened with the girl with similar problems (she had a BF), but she helped me deal with my issues and move on.
And a few months later, I met another girl online (who lived in another state), and we started talking, and getting to know each other better. And after a few months, she came to visit me, and I didn't throw up. The urges were there, but I took deep breathes and calmed down. I went to visit her, and still no throwing up.
Well, another few more years later and we're married, living in her state, have a very cute puppy and kitten.
The anxiety will probably never truly be gone, it still comes back every now and again, but never to the severity that it used to, and a few deep breathes and its gone completely. Realising what it was, and how to deal with it made the world of difference, and having like minded people to help amazingly too.
To anybody suffering from what I was, know its not a life sentence, and there is a very good light at the end of the tunnel.
That was probably one of the lowest points in my life when I was writing that. When my anxiety was probably at the worst. I just read threw it again, and I'll finish off the story. Nothing ever happened with the girl, but probably a good thing looking back. I think it came to a conclusion when she was pretty much asking me out, and I ran away (probably more of a quick walk, but it felt like running). But thinking about it she was a bit slutty, and it probably wouldn't have lasted.
But from there I did pick myself up and move on.
I met a girl who suffered from very similar problems, and I managed to talk through them with her, and she helped me through them, and I helped her through them. Just basically realising that I was fighting the anxiety rather than my own nerves. It was a start. And from there I pretty much moved on. Nothing really happened with the girl with similar problems (she had a BF), but she helped me deal with my issues and move on.
And a few months later, I met another girl online (who lived in another state), and we started talking, and getting to know each other better. And after a few months, she came to visit me, and I didn't throw up. The urges were there, but I took deep breathes and calmed down. I went to visit her, and still no throwing up.
Well, another few more years later and we're married, living in her state, have a very cute puppy and kitten.
The anxiety will probably never truly be gone, it still comes back every now and again, but never to the severity that it used to, and a few deep breathes and its gone completely. Realising what it was, and how to deal with it made the world of difference, and having like minded people to help amazingly too.
To anybody suffering from what I was, know its not a life sentence, and there is a very good light at the end of the tunnel.
EscapeArtist
Well-known member
^ What an inspiration you are you guys are absolutely adorable together. I'm glad it's worked out so well for you!
you guys are absolutely adorable together. I'm glad it's worked out so well for you!
Aussie_Lad
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She's gorgeous, you have done well my friend.
Burntfaceman
Active member
Dude i couldnt be happier for you
You are an inspiration to us all
Btw GRATZ on ur marriage
You are an inspiration to us all
Btw GRATZ on ur marriage
U
userremoved
Guest
You just gave me hope too. It's good to see things work out for people with our problems. Thanks for sharing.
columnmn
Member
The good thing about anxiety is that its in your head, I remember how helpless and useless it made me feel, but it was all completely in my head. And since its in your head, it can be worked through and beaten.
Some of the best ways I did this was talking through it with girls (through the net at first, but moving onto in person), explaining the anxiety to them, I used to be paranoid that they'd think I was weird, but when they knew that it might happen, it made it far easier on me because I was less paranoid about it, and it took the self destructive pattern away.
Hell, these days I work in a residential college (as a chef), so we feed about 230 uni(college) students a day, and about half of those are attractive females. I'd have never been able to do that job before, but now its really easy.
Some of the best ways I did this was talking through it with girls (through the net at first, but moving onto in person), explaining the anxiety to them, I used to be paranoid that they'd think I was weird, but when they knew that it might happen, it made it far easier on me because I was less paranoid about it, and it took the self destructive pattern away.
Hell, these days I work in a residential college (as a chef), so we feed about 230 uni(college) students a day, and about half of those are attractive females. I'd have never been able to do that job before, but now its really easy.
Rembrandt Broam
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What a wonderful story, and the two of you make a such a lovely couple. Congratulations!
WOW!! What an amazing and inspirational story indeed!!
You two look soo wonderful together!!
Thank you soo much for posting with feedback!!!
I am too sleepy and tired to post much more, just wanted to say: THANK YOU!!
Have you thought about having it published in a magazine or website for SA sufferers? Or people with dating phobia or such...?
Wishing you lots of wonderful years together!!
What an amazing and inspirational story indeed!!You two look soo wonderful together!!
Thank you soo much for posting with feedback!!!
I am too sleepy and tired to post much more, just wanted to say: THANK YOU!!
Have you thought about having it published in a magazine or website for SA sufferers?
Or people with dating phobia or such...? Wishing you lots of wonderful years together!!
columnmn
Member
I didn't know there were any SA magazines. I'm happy to write it out with more detail, more background and make it more of a story (I've already had a few short fiction stories published), its really very easy writing out that sort of stuff.
I'm happy to try and help out people, if I didn't find out more information about it myself, then I probably be in the same situation I was in. What sort of places publish those sorts of stories?
I'm happy to try and help out people, if I didn't find out more information about it myself, then I probably be in the same situation I was in. What sort of places publish those sorts of stories?