Are you misunderstood?

[lilmutegirl]

When I do talk, I find that I'm often misunderstood. Even when I try to clarify a situation, people still don't get it, which is frustrating to me and them. This is one reason I don't talk much. Anybody else encounter this?

 

[chibiXphantom]

all the time. i often have to change what i say over and over, then i get frustrated, and then my words end up a jumbled mess of confusion. especially when im trying to explain something or give directions.
or ill say something and people will take it entirely wrong. people sometimes think im being rude or something because they didnt get what i was trying to say and they took it wrong.

 

[Hellhound]

It's happened with family and some therapists.

 

[Lowlight]

Animals Please Don't let me be Misunderstood. - YouTube

 

[knowledgeofself]

very often, people sometimes make their own conclusions as I don't explain properly.

 

[JuiceB]

I often have a hard time conveying my thoughts and feelings too. I'll go out of my way trying to say something without being offensive and say something stupid anyway. And I have a hard time putting my thoughts into words. My conversation skills are severly lacking.

 

[Foxface]

Same here, becuase of my social.communication skills are poor. I especially can't explain things, I have 10x the knowledge then I try to explain, so it comes out vague and stuff.

People don't understand me becuase my mind works differently then others. I have Autism (Asperger's Syndrome), I think different and and see things dfifferently then others. It;s hard for people to understand me, and hard for me to understand them. I try.

 

[Etbow23]

Yes I do feel misunderstood often times. But a lot of times I don't speak because I feel embarrassed afterwards or like no one cares/listens to what I say. I worry about being judged. That's why I hate classes that require participation as a grade. Most BS thing I've ever heard of! You can participate by listening to a discussion, too.

 

[BlueDays]

Yes, I experience this a lot too.
My nervousness often makes me say something in the wrong tone of voice or the wrong sound level, and therefore it is taken wrong way that was intended. So then I try to explain it further trying hard to use the right tone of voice, but then It sounds even worse due to me worrying about it being misunderstood the first time.

 

[coyote]

i'm most frequently misunderstood when posting on internet forums

even though i try to be as clear and succinct as possible to avoid confusion

people often assign emotional intent to my writing that was in no way intended

i can only assume that it comes from assumptions they harbor about the world

i'm still getting the hang of the emoti-face doohickies %^@

 

[Labyrinthine]

I talk really quickly sometimes, which leads to people asking me to repeat. It's all downhill from there.

 

[Kat]

yeah, by some people I'm a bit inconsistent with how I am sometimes though, sometimes I can seem a bit social or calm and other times I'm the complete opposite.

 

[vitalis]

For what's being expressed here there seem to be two ways for people with SA problems to be misunderstood: because we have few social skills and it's hard to express so we do it the wrong way (getting nervous, wrong speed and/or word choices, etc); or also because we have few things in common with the interlocutor and so he/she doesn't understand the points we're making.

 

[GraybeardGhost]

I speak softly and carry a big vocabulary, so yes, I often find myself misunderstood. In a crowded or noisy situation, people frequently are unable to hear what I say, so they hear what they want to hear and assume that that is what I have said. If someone asks me to repeat myself or speak louder, it usually does little good, as in certain moods and/or situations I am constitutionally unable to raise my voice. Piss me off and I'll make your ears bleed, but otherwise I'm a church mouse.

Also, I tend to use big four-dollar words and archaic expressions, which, along with my dry, dark, and sometimes even morbid sense of humor, are apt to confuse the bejesus out of anyone who actually manages to hear what I say. Some people understand me just fine—I think they build up a tolerance with exposure—but others, perhaps most, seem baffled, especially younger folks and those with less educated or more pedestrian minds.

 

[vj288]

Yes, I do feel misunderstood a lot. Often I just feel like I'm on a totally different page as everyone else, and no matter what I say it will be taken in a way that would is not what I really mean at all. And while I know what I mean I have a hard time explaining exactly what that is though, and if I can explain it because the people I may be talking to are just on totally different wavelengths as me it doesn't make sense to them anyway.

I really hate it too, for some reason I want to feel understood (and accepted) by everyone I guess. I don't want to anger or upset people, or cause conflict or viewed negatively for a inaccuracy about myself. A lot of times it makes me not want to say anything at all because I think I would be misunderstood and I don't think I'd be able to explain myself and would leave the people I am talking to with an inaccurate image of myself. Or when do decide to say something I may go into great detail to explain myself which in the end is fruitless because I just do not explain myself well.

 

[Meggy0001]

Yes, I then spent a while trying to explain what I really mean and then I end up getting flustered and embarassed and it just gets all jumbled up till the point I'm like 'never mind' :/