Are you afraid that the people see you your anxiety?

[LadyWench]

I used to. I still do a little bit, but not nearly as much. If I'm in public and having anxiety, the last thing I care about is what other people are thinking. Shocking, I know. Especially considering the fact that I obviously DO care what others think. At least when it comes to my physical appearance and such. However, if I'm having a panic attack in a social setting, my biggest concern is calming down.

 

[Logical Anxiety]

Yes, of course. But I've developed a coping mechanism over the years, because my face is almost always emotionless in public. But I still feel like everybody can see my anxiety, so I fidget alot. -_-

 

[Sial Axetder]

Yes, of course. But I've developed a coping mechanism over the years, because my face is almost always emotionless in public. But I still feel like everybody can see my anxiety, so I fidget alot. -_-

Same here.
Fingers must keep moving, tapping. Or must keep hands busy. Destroyed a tic-tac container. Hurt a little.

 

[LovelyAmor]

Yeah...for me it is easy at the beginning as well. It is when I get talking more in depth and worrying about running out of stuff to say that I get nervous. I don't think I have the most serious anxiety, but I know what you mean.

I'm also a sophomore in college....don't worry, you are not the biggest loser ever. Today, I was doing the dishes "for fun" at the house I live in, and a housemate made a joke about "oh, I can't imagine what your Saturday nights are like! they must be wild...." Usually she is nice, and I don't think she thought I'd take her seriously.
I know it's hard, but the less you call yourself a loser the better things can get. Even just eliminate the word, use something that's actually descriptive. I don't know, I'm okay being a loner, but I try not to call myself a loser.

Also, I used to go the library on weekends...it made me feel better to see other people alone who weren't "going out"....

To be honest, my anxiety isn't as bad as it used to be. It's gotten better but I still struggle. I don't really think im a loser, I was just in a depressed mood when I was writing that lol. :: The thing is, im NOT ok being a loner, because that is not my natural personality. It seems to me like you may just be a naturally shy or quiet person. But I know deep down inside that is not who I am. I always have this high social energy within that just wants to burst out. My anxiety has always been holding that back.

I go to the library on the weekends as well. I see so many other people there so I don't feel so bad. A lot of random people just come up to speak to me sometimes and a lot of people have told me that I am beautiful so that really makes me feel better. I just wish I didn't have to deal with this anxiety because then I would really be able to shine.

 

[Gerdje]

Yeas ago, I was afraid people would see it, now I know people see it.

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

The problem with me is that when I get anxious my face tenses up and I look upset. On top of it, I tend to glare at people when eye contact is made. I don't do it intentionally though. I guess I try too hard to have a normal facial expression and my face subconsciously tenses up? I really don't know, but I hate feeling like everyone thinks I'm unapproachable because I look upset.

 

[arsenalwa]

The problem with me is that when I get anxious my face tenses up and I look upset. On top of it, I tend to glare at people when eye contact is made. I don't do it intentionally though. I guess I try too hard to have a normal facial expression and my face subconsciously tenses up? I really don't know, but I hate feeling like everyone thinks I'm unapproachable because I look upset.

Yeah, absolutely. It's like you just can't control your facial expression when anxious, no matter how hard you try.