Are we simply less resilient, mentally?

[Diend]

I asked my friend how he would feel if he was haunted by bad memories etc. He said that being haunted was a "choice". He said you choose to do something, and not succumb to feelings or impulses.

 

[Section_31]

....im not entirely sure i agree with him...

you cant CHOOSE whether or not somthing upsets or bothers yuo, but you CAN choose how you react to it.......but sooner or later feeilngs need to be dealt with, and if it isnt in a positive manner, they force themselves out in a destructive manner...but i dont think that has anything to d with S/A per se...lots of people who dont have these issues are still haunted by things...

 

[MNM322]

yes and simple everyday things can set them off.

 

[Gray Lantern]

I remembered reading somewhere that there was once a man with virtually perfect memory... as in he didn't train or become a memory athlete or anything like that.. he just is naturally that way.

He killed himself because he cannot unsee or forget certain horrors he had seen in a war. I think maybe the key is in the strength of memory, our genetics, upbringing and many other things... So no, I do not agree with your friend completely.

 

[laure15]

There are some things that people don't forget, such as deaths, assaults, murders, and other types of trauma. The stronger the trauma, the more haunted we are by memories of that trauma.

 

[Lea]

Your friend can´t know unless it happens to him as well, therefore I think there is no use asking him. People are very smart at giving advices, thinking they would manage better, but it´s because they have never been in the same situation. At most in a similar one, or what they think was a similar one. It happens often that 2 people talk about something, yet each of them has on their mind a different thing. We as people would like to know answers to so many questions, so we keep on asking people around. Which often leads to misunderstandings and disappointments, because if we think deeply about it, nobody can know. I have once concluded, that if I can´t advise or help myself, nobody else can, as I am the one who knows myself best and therefore can advise myself best. But still even though I know myself best, I don´t know a whole lot about myself! This remaining 95 % rest knows only God, that´s why I always say if I met God, I´d grill him for answers .