Are some people not meant to have friends?

[ciel20]

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[InDeepshit]

some people just aren't very likable. they're selfish.. self absorbed... unwilling to be flexible for others.. ::
so not everyone can make them as easily.. almost impossible

 

[Apple Strudel]

Not meant to have friends....that depends. If you are sociable and yet can't make any friends, I mean like really close and everything, then it could be your attitude or you could be building up walls by accident and this could lead to many lack of friends possibilities.

 

[PennyLane]

Can I ask why you deleted the original post? I read it and I have the opposite problem to you..every so often I make a really good strong friend and it seems to last over distance and time...but im awful at just having acquaintances. It seems im only capable of being a best friend or nothing else...as I can't get comfortable to with people that are just regular mates!

 

[thor01]

I don't have anyone I see in real life I could call a proper friend. Its not good. I've never come across anyone on the same frequency. Sometimes it does feel as if I'm made to not have them. I wish I did have at least one. That's all I ask for.

 

[ciel20]

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[this_portrait]

I can't seem to make much of any friends because I don't allow myself to get too close to people. So I'm stuck just having acquaintances. =/

 

[PennyLane]

What worries me is often I presume I can't make friends becuase Im shy and not very open but then even when I try and be friendly and have confident days nothing changes....so maybe I am just weird and rather than the SA causing me to not have friends...the inability to have friends based on my personality has caused the SA (hopefully that makes sense )

In short I often think maybe people don't like me regardless of SA.

 

[5020]

Yea thats what feel pennylane. Is SA really the cause or just the sympton... And what do you guys man by aquintices. People you know of or actually hang out with. Cos i have like one maybe two friends and like one aquantience. Good times all round

 

[zlench]

You can choose to have friends or be alone. I have had friends but I have shut them out of my life due to my SA which I have regrets about because it does really suck being along all the time but I know that I just have to make a call and it change all of it but don't because I choose to be alone most of the time which just isn't healthy

 

[Anomaly]

I think it's few vs many instead of none vs any.

 

[AlleyCat]

I seem to be able to make good friends online, but I really struggle with making friends in the offline world. I'm able to let people get to know me and be myself more easily when I'm hiding behind my computer screen. I wish it was as easy for me in person.

 

[Rxqueen]

I don't think anyone is not meant to have friends, but sometimes social issues hinder whether you can make friends or not. Humans are inherently social beings, so the idea that someone could be made not to have friends is unlikely. That being the case I have problems making friends myself but I don't put it on my personality but rather my psychological issues. I've had pretty bad depression over the past few years and because of that I've blocked some people out, if I didn't do that than I'm sure making friends would be possible. On the other hand maybe I'm just not destined to make long term relationships. Idk...i really just confused myself...

 

[reslo]

yes and they're called lepers.

other than that, if you've got accquaintances, that's great. You at least have a name- how about inviting them to go hang out and do something?

 

[ciel20]

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[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

Narcissists usually can't make friends.
Schzoids don't really want friends...

And some people find it difficult to open up. Getting past that problem would allow them to.
Also working on social skills is VITAL for a lot of the people here with friend-making issues.