Appearances

[this_portrait]

Do you spend time on how you look to others? I don't mean your body language or anything like that. I'm talking about your appearance, such as hair, skin, clothes, etc. Do you spend considerable amounts of time on it?

I find that I spend more time on my appearance during the school year than I do when I'm at home. I dress in my own fashionable clothes, wear makeup, and if I have any acne/acne scars, I use concealer on them. When I go to class in my sweats and/or hoodies, I feel embarrassed, even though there are tons of other people on campus who walk around like that all the time.

Part of me does this as an attempt to get a boyfriend; but mostly I just want to look decent around people and not look like a slob.

Does anyone else feel this way?

 

[overcome.]

it's good that you take pride in your appearence, people should, it's self respect. i always try and make sure i look good, i think i wear decent fashionable clothes, take care of my hair, skin, teeth, etc. plus workout 4 times a week normally with weights, so i'm quite confident with my physique which goes a long way.

i'm a spiritual person, i believe in the law of attraction, and that visualisation is a powerful thing. visualise yourself looking good, finding that special person that can become a boyfriend to you. if you carry yourself as a positive person who cares about others, wants to help people, then i believe that's what you will attract towards you in the long run.

 

[neko]

I spend a lot of time, according to my other half. He always sighs at the hours it takes me to get ready and this is just to look okay compared to other women. I don't feel as feminine and I think I suck at doing makeup and hair... It's so depressing to go out sometimes.

Plus I'm stuck in some kind of self confusion about the appearance I want to give out. One side of me wants to go crazy with my clothes, flashy colours, fishnets... The other me wants to be feminine and classy. I have no idea anymore. X_x I'm even wondering if I'm not too old to want to go crazy and I should just grow up to look like a decent 19 yrs old (I'm going on to 20 in October). There's this me that screams inside that I'm not "normal" and maybe I shouldn't care about anyone else and just do what I want but I'm scared of it.

My skin is impossible to keep nice. I tried so many different things and they always end up making my skin either super dry or oily. That's without talking about the spots. My teeth are off white even if I take good care of them... It's so effing annoying to do all those things without getting the results I want.

But anyway, I do understand you for wanting to look decent and even the bf part, I mean I did want to be noticed too before.

 

[2Crowded]

I try to look decent...but im not to fussy about it cause im a dude...& im not trying to attract a female so I dont go crazy with it..I just keep clean & tidy & wear clean clothes.

 

[mmmm]

I'm the opposite. I have to downplay my appearance to make people not notice me and want to talk to me! hoodies and cargoes are formalwear dammit.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

I spend about twenty minutes in front of a mirror before I go out. I also have dark circles beneath my eyes, so covering them up properly can take a bit. But it's not like I pile on the make up, I'm just very careful about it.
I only wear skirts/dresses when I'm seeing large groups of friends, because it's just more dressy and I have some wonderful stockings.
While at home, I'll just wear whatever, and seeing a small group of people demands a slightly less time consuming process for appearances.
Maybe that's typically feminine, but a lot of it just has to do with low self-esteem.

 

[iamthenra]

In all honesty, I have let myself go. For the last 3 years, I don't do anything to help my appearance. I am clean, I take daily showers and brush my hair, teeth etc.. I never exercise and as a result I have a round mid section and man boobs. When I wear clothes, I pick clothes to blend in with the rest of the people around me. I just figure there is no point in trying to improve my image, when I don't stand a chance with the ladies anyways...

 

[mikestar]

I dont like change so it is quite hard for me to wear different clothes. I've worn the same sort of thing for years,jeans+sweat top with brand name and skater shoes.

I have tried wearing a hoodie and a neat shirt before(not @ same time) but it just dousnt seem right on me. I think people would just laugh and think "he trying to blend in but he just isnt normal to wear that,he looks so stupid"

As for face appearences I have been known to take a mirror out with me in public,checking my hair and spots. Some call me mad and gay but hey I dont like it either.

 

[zlench]

I just tend to wear casual clothes.

 

[AlleyCat]

I've always been a jeans and t-shirt kind of girl. I'm pretty casual and simple when it comes to clothes unless it's a formal occasion.

 

[WelshOne]

I like to wear nice clothes, and I shower, wash and brush my teeth... but I do nothing with my hair (I just keep it short.)

Oh yeah, I suppose I go to the gym... but in the last 5 months I haven't seen a huge difference in my appearance so I'm losing faith in that.

 

[klytus]

I don't really care about my looks. Usually I sleep and live in the same clothes for weeks. Apart from standard bodily hygiene (shower every day, brush my teeth, etc.), I don't do much, if anything. I am physically weak.

 

[pufferfish]

i spend a considerable amount of time & money. one of my compulsions causes me to change my clothes over and over again in the mornings. i'm not sure why. i have really bad self esteem and never think i look good enough. i straighten or curl my hair, i wear makeup and i wear stylish clothes. it's really just a cover-up though, to hide the total mess inside. haha...
i think it is important to take care in how you look to others. if you like it or not, your appearance means a lot in this sick and crazy world. unfortunate... ):

 

[Moonie]

My appearance is something that is important to me. As a painfully quiet person, my appearance is usually the only thing that gets me a little bit of attention, sadly. So, if my looks go, I have nothing to rely on.

I'm not overly crazy with my appearance, though. I don't have to put on makeup everyday or wear super fancy clothes. I'll straighten my hair a few times a week, wear some eye makeup, wear nailpolishh,wear form-fitting clothing, exercise.

I have gained almost 20 lbs, though, so it has been depressing me. I'm starting to look ugly - on top of my bad personality.

 

[overcome.]

Oh yeah, I suppose I go to the gym... but in the last 5 months I haven't seen a huge difference in my appearance so I'm losing faith in that.

if you'd ever like any advice on anything related with that, i can help you out any way i can. just send me a message or something

and AlleyCat, jeans and t shirt is pretty cute, sort of the 'girl next door' look, no need to always be formal, best to be comfortable with who you are and therefore how you dress.

 

[Lorraine Manca]

I pick out clothes for the way the feel. Im weird about textures. As a result, the way i dress never seems to look quite right. I also tend to wear the same clothes everyday if i dont catch myself doing it. its so embarrassing to look down and realize you've worn the same thing four days in a row! im getting better about it though.

 

[Jannah]

I don't care too much for fashion and wearing what everybody else is wearing. But I do make sure I am clean, well-shaven, and my clothes fit just right. I don't care to wear anything to flashy or have my hair gelled or trimmed because I simply like having my hair slightly grown and dry. If I were to wear name brand clothing and shop in the stores everybody else was shopping in I'd feel superficial, and I am totally against that. When I see people who are so obsessed with there looks, I say to myself " they are such tools", the way I see it is they haven't evolved yet as human beings and have a lot more maturing to do. I am not saying people should not care one bit about how they look/are dressed, but to not put the up most importance on it, moderation and balance works for me.

 

[JCS008]

I'm not too into my looks. But I do keep in shape mainly for health reasons and I just tend to have more energy when I'm in shape. The same goes with personal hygiene. Of course no one wants to be around someone who smells, but I mainly do it because I just feel alot better when I shower in the morning and feel clean. Not to mention a shower in the morning does wonders in waking you up.

With clothes, I just try to be presentable and mainly dress for the occasion. The important thing is that the clothes are comfortable. It doesn't really have to be name brand, just something comfortable and presentable. I have no shame in shopping at outlet stores.

 

[this_portrait]

Not to mention a shower in the morning does wonders in waking you up.

Indeed it does!

 

[Blue Teardrops]

I like to blend in and feel comfortable, so I just tend to wear casual clothes. Make-up wise, I don't tend to wear makeup except for when I go to class or am around a bunch of people. I tend to feel self-conscious when I wear sweats and all but being a stressed-out college student, sometimes I just can't help but be a slob.