GoBlue72
Well-known member
Well i guess a "well done" is in order!. Don't know how you did it, but you did. I think (just a theory) that when a person becomes able to be in a "relationship", that person has become more "healthy" overall than before (such as better self-esteem), and especially if they actually manage to form & maintain one. This is because being alone/isolated/antisocial/etc all the time is not a very healthy way to live, and it signifies ill-health in a number of areas.
So, here's to your continued good health!
Speaking of confidence, I have it in abundance ... but just not when it concerns people and women...
That's a good site, one of my favorites - possibly one of the best for dating & what-not (IMHO)
Nice job, Daft. I didn't have my first date until right around that time. And it was a blind date I think, since I am still anxious to approach women and dating sites were still thought of as pretty sketchy. Smallestloser, I kind of agree with your theory. I don't buy that whole "you need to be good with yourself to be in a relationship", for the most part. I think when you get further along and things get deeper, that's probably true. But if you are only starting out or dating someone with similar types or number of issues it CAN increase your self-esteem. My thinking is, "okay, so you shouldn't do this or that", but that doesn't stop it from happening or people from doing it anyways. How many times do you hear not to date coworkers? Yet, I'd say a great number of people meet that way(whether or not it pans out).
After a couple years of unsuccessful first dates, I eventually dated a girl for four months(my all time record!). I broke things off with her, and have hit a dry spell the last few years. But lately, I've been doing a lot more than ever socially, after having a pretty down time in my life. My friends have even noticed the changes, as I'm trying to talk to more people and meet more women. I talked with a girl for a couple hours last night, only to get her number and learn she was already seeing someone. But hey, it's something to build on.