Any SA sufferers who feel entitled to great things?

[Tomasso]

I feel like I'm a strange case.

I have social anxiety and no friends but for some reason I feel entitled to great things in life. And no, not just having something like a good life, but grandiose things like power, money and beautiful women. Inside my head I am an arrogant, cold and bitter person. Internally I hate my life and world I live in, I secretly want to destroy it if I could. But I would never show this externally.

Does anybody else feel this way or similarly?

 

[The Lost]

I don't feel as if I deserve such things, myself. I'm just one of a sea of people, who have to work towards achieving those great things. SA takes a lot away from life, but that doesn't mean we deserve greatness at the drop of a hat, imo.

 

[Tomasso]

Yeah, I agree that you don't deserve greatness unless you work for it either, and that's why I'm a very hard worker.

But right now, it seems like inside I act as if I am already a great person when the reality is that I'm only a college student who wants to be great.

The problem is that I can't really externalize my internal perception of who I want to be because of my SA.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

Sounds kinda like narcissism, which is weird because one would think that SA and narcissism are almost contradictory. But perhaps low self-esteem and SA are not always comorbid. Is that even possible?

 

[Tomasso]

Sounds kinda like narcissism, which is weird because one would think that SA and narcissism are almost contradictory. But perhaps low self-esteem and SA are not always comorbid. Is that even possible?

It's an internal narcissism. I have social anxiety and I want friends but I am also very, very shallow when it comes to making friends. It's kind of sad but unless somebody is a good looking female I don't want to be friends with them. For some odd reason, the only thing that makes me feel secure is being around good looking women... I judge others harshly in my head and I don't like it... but its who I am.

 

[Kiwong]

Nothing grandoise for me, I would settle for peace in my life. My life isn't too bad at present. Sometimes I fear that I am currently in the eye of a hurricane and another storm may be coming where I will crash back into the dark days I fear.

 

[Iluv]

I've always wanted things I knew I was never going to get. I want happiness and things for myself but never money & cars and materialistic things.
You're entitled to being happy, not having a nice car.

 

[Clown]

I know how you feel , have feeling exactly like that : that im not supossed to do some 9-5 job but more some king ruler of the world thing, being rich and all that sort of stuff, but my little dream have vanished away because the hope of getting better gets less and less by the day

 

[Diend]

I dont feel "entitled" but I feel like even if I don't have the social skills to make me happy, I still shouldn't give up on life. The only thing I fear is "regret"...that is, if I had an opportunity to improve my socializing skills, but I failed to do it because of laziness, fear or being an ingrate (for that golden opportunity).

I think your feelings are natural. They occur because you feel that in your life, you have been unfairly given a disadvantage that the vast majority of other people in life haven't been given. I say that because I've felt the same way many times in the past.

 

[Tomasso]

I dont feel "entitled" but I feel like even if I don't have the social skills to make me happy, I still shouldn't give up on life. The only thing I fear is "regret"...that is, if I had an opportunity to improve my socializing skills, but I failed to do it because of laziness, fear or being an ingrate (for that golden opportunity).

I think your feelings are natural. They occur because you feel that in your life, you have been unfairly given a disadvantage that the vast majority of other people in life haven't been given. I say that because I've felt the same way many times in the past.

I agree. I just feel the world I deserve my head is so much greater than what I can realistically achieve. So I will end up always chasing a reality that I can't have with my social skills.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I kind of feel like the world owes me something for my suffering. That might sound ridiculous but its honestly how I feel. It almost seems as if everyone else has everything handed to them on a silver platter.

http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/the-world-owes-me-37241/

Sounds kinda like narcissism, which is weird because one would think that SA and narcissism are almost contradictory. But perhaps low self-esteem and SA are not always comorbid. Is that even possible?

It's not full-blown narcissism, but it is narcissistic thinking.

In clinical psychology and psychiatry, an unrealistic, exaggerated, or rigidly held sense of entitlement may be considered a symptom of narcissistic personality disorder, seen in those who 'because of early frustrations...arrogate to themselves the right to demand lifelong reimbursement from fate.'

Entitlement - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

[Tomasso]

http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/the-world-owes-me-37241/

It's not full-blown narcissism, but it is narcissistic thinking.

Entitlement - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

This is interesting. I've never considered myself to be a narcissist but I do carry some traits. I did some reading and I feel like I am simply a narcissist who has lost his narcissistic supply. I am a sick human being.

 

[deleted #89]

This is interesting. I've never considered myself to be a narcissist but I do carry some traits. I did some reading and I feel like I am simply a narcissist who has lost his narcissistic supply. I am a sick human being.

Sounds more like you are victim minded ......remember that the world doesn't owe you anything. You create your world.

 

[Nathália]

When I see the word entitled that word gives off the impression that I deserve way more than other people in this world. That I am above them and should be seen as something more, like an arrogance. Then the phrase "great things" are thrown in. Great things like we should wear a card around our necks and be able to skip to the front of the line? When I see think of entitled I also think of someone just sitting on their derriere waiting for something to fall out of the sky because it belongs to them no matter the circumstance. So maybe that's why people are pulling the word narcissist up?


Then, I do not want to walk around and life getting things handed to me, it would make me feel lazy and ignorant. Although I do feel that many people who suffer deserve help to get on their own two feet and support but that does not mean we should parade them though town like King and Queen. What have they done to get there? If you want "great things" you have to work for them yourself. I got ambiguity from this post.