any of you have difficulty making decisions

[CrazyGirl]

When it comes to making decisions, I always second-guess myself if I'm doing the right thing and have a tendency to pass responsibility onto others when unsure of myself or seek reassurance. I have no problems making simple, basic decisions as to making plans for the day and such, shopping etc.

It probably stems from having an overprotective, controlling mother growing up making 90% of parenting decisions and discipline while my dad passively stood on the sidelines.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Yes, I do. I struggle to make even small decisions, such as, what kind of cake do I want to eat for dessert? Tonight I went to the grocery store with my boyfriend, and it took me like thirty minutes to finally decide. My problem comes from all the available choices... I want to make sure I pick the best option. I have read about "maximizers" before, and I identify as one. I hate being so indecisive. I just want to pick and move on...

 

[MikeyC]

I struggle to make even small decisions

I'm with you right there. My friend and I have lunch and if he asks me where I want to go, I almost always say, "it's up to you." Lately I've been trying to make decisions under orders from my therapist but I still find it hard. I hate having to make them.

 

[lurknomore]

I've always had this problem, too. I think it's mostly depression related- feeling overwhelmed by even the tiniest decisions, but even when I'm not depressed, I still don't trust my own judgment and wait for others to reassure me or take the lead on things. At my most depressed, I could never decide what I wanted to eat at a restaurant, so I would just let whoever I was with order first, and "copy" their order- maybe with some slight modifications, like "no onion" or "no sour cream." When I stop to think about it, most of the major decisions in my life were really made by other people- like which college I should go to- or even getting to college- fortunately I had a class period in the guidance office my senior year, and one of the counselors flipped out when I said I hadn't applied anywhere and made phone calls to places to accept late applications, and once I got my acceptances, she outright said "You want to go there." Even getting married happened because I didn't want to hurt my ex's feelings, and I had such low self-esteem and so little experience (plus being depressed) that I went along with whatever he wanted. ::

 

[Vampayah88]

When it comes to making decisions, I always second-guess myself if I'm doing the right thing and have a tendency to pass responsibility onto others when unsure of myself or seek reassurance. I have no problems making simple, basic decisions as to making plans for the day and such, shopping etc.

It probably stems from having an overprotective, controlling mother growing up making 90% of parenting decisions and discipline while my dad passively stood on the sidelines.

This is so me. Every word.

 

[Fighter86]

Well it depends what kind of decision. Certain decisions I am swift and decisive (eg: relationships as I can quickly guage out how suited a person is for me) but others I might be slow and indecisive till the last minute (eg: choosing a job, what to have for lunch/ dinner).

 

[Shyangel]

I have a problem making the simplest decisions. Just this morning I was getting something to eat and I couldn't decide which ramen flavor to make. I was probably sitting there for 10 mins or more. It's truly ridiculous. I'm pretty much always indecisive. I've not had many difficult decisions, I so can't say I'm better at those either.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Not really.
I try to be rational about decisions but if neither choise seems to be 'more right'- I'll just pick one at random and accept the consequences.
No big deal for me.
The chances of me messing up as much as the people who raised me... are pretty small. haha

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

The chances of me messing up as much as the people who raised me... are pretty small. haha

Ah, yes, always a good reminder!

 

[Iluv]

Yeah, I really do. I'm not the best decision maker especially when it comes to difficult things I end up picking the wrong choice. I always feel as if I could have done better with my decision. So I usually let other people pick for me, but it becomes a bad habit.

 

[lilmutegirl]

When it comes to making decisions, I always second-guess myself if I'm doing the right thing and have a tendency to pass responsibility onto others when unsure of myself or seek reassurance. I have no problems making simple, basic decisions as to making plans for the day and such, shopping etc.

It probably stems from having an overprotective, controlling mother growing up making 90% of parenting decisions and discipline while my dad passively stood on the sidelines.

Yes, I have trouble making decisions-big and small. Sometimes I can be quick and move on, but most of the time I linger on the answer.

I think my indecision comes from the fact that my parents pretty much decided everything for me, so I rarely saw different options, and I'm overwhelmed by the responsibility of having to live with the consequences of my decisions.

 

[MrJones]

Sometimes, but I always try to do the right thing, the option that does the best to everyone. I pick the wrong one a lot of times, though :/