All this will pass...

[theslowesthand]

I believe that all this life c*ap stuff will one day end, either upon death or sooner (whichever comes first). One can keeping trying their best to be happy, but if it doesn't happen, then it doesn't happen. There's no guarantees in this life about anything (nor is there a refund)

So all you do is WAIT .. and WAIT, and WAIT WAIt WAit Wait wait..............
And even after WAITING, nothing changes!
It keeps repeating as such
... --> try --> wait --> hope --> wait --> try --> wait .......
And one needs infinate patience in this "waiting game" of life

Personally, i'm getting sick of waiting, year-in year-out, decade-by-decade. Endless broken promises to myself. Nothing EVER happening, nothing EVER changing (well, nothing of any real significance anyway). A stream of various projects, philosophies, therapies - all ending in the same miserable present.

Cheers .. here's to the future!!

 

[anxiety1408]

I believe that all this life c*ap stuff will one day end, either upon death or sooner (whichever comes first). One can keeping trying their best to be happy, but if it doesn't happen, then it doesn't happen. There's no guarantees in this life about anything (nor is there a refund)

So all you do is WAIT .. and WAIT, and WAIT WAIt WAit Wait wait..............
And even after WAITING, nothing changes!
It keeps repeating as such
... --> try --> wait --> hope --> wait --> try --> wait .......
And one needs infinate patience in this "waiting game" of life

Personally, i'm getting sick of waiting, year-in year-out, decade-by-decade. Endless broken promises to myself. Nothing EVER happening, nothing ever changing (well, nothing of any real significance anyway). A stream of various projects, philosophies, therapies - all ending in the same miserable present.

Cheers .. here's to the future!!

Oh god, You definately need to read the book "the power of now" why are you talking about the future and waiting so much... ? The past and the future is an Illusion your always gona be in the now, Is there ever a part of your life that isn't going to take place in the 'now' what are you waiting for? Dont cling on to the hope of something happening because you have personally got to do something, your waiting for yourself to act ''now'' at some point Is Illogical. Your life is not what your making it out to be its your life situation call it that, its not your life.

 

[RelentlessHamster]

Hey!

of course and that's a very good perspective, just keep on fighting soldier and you'll achieve what you desire, sometimes you might not be aware of certain small yet important victories that you've accomplished, every day we're alive is itself a victory and keep up!

 

[Acegame]

Thats the spirit....

No but seriously, if you sit back and wait with this condition, nothing is gonna happen for sure. In order to get over it we have to get out there and everybody here knows that but is afraid to. And sitting at home and wait and taking no action feels really bad and thats why people get depressed. At least I do...and than all kind of negative thoughts and "insights" pop up into your mind (like this one of yours).

I heard someone say once that thinking positive is actually not realistic or normal behaviour. Look at all the s**t happening in this world. But people do it to feel better. And i think he is true. But anyway, although thinking positive is not always realistic or normal, there is more chance of changing anything than by thinking negative. So why not try to ignore EVERY negative thought and change it into a positive.

 

[anxiety1408]

Thats the spirit....

No but seriously, if you sit back and wait with this condition, nothing is gonna happen for sure. In order to get over it we have to get out there and everybody here knows that but is afraid to. And sitting at home and wait and taking no action feels really bad and thats why people get depressed. At least I do...and than all kind of negative thoughts and "insights" pop up into your mind (like this one of yours).

I heard someone say once that thinking positive is actually not realistic or normal behaviour. Look at all the s**t happening in this world. But people do it to feel better. And i think he is true. But anyway, although thinking positive is not realistic or normal, there is more chance of changing anything than by thinking negative.

Yup negative thinking can make nothing better, Its only bound to get worse, Whereas positively there is a possibility of things getting better, looking at situations from a different perspective and not the usual self destructive thoughts..

 

[DanFC]

Yup negative thinking can make nothing better, Its only bound to get worse, Whereas positively there is a possibility of things getting better, looking at situations from a different perspective and not the usual self destructive thoughts..

I'd rather see the world with clarity and live in despair than to blind myself to truth and live in bliss.

Of course, that's not necessarily saying that the "self-destructive thoughts" are the correct representation of realism, but I think many times the pessimist sees what the optimist chooses not to.

 

[slowmotiondaydream]

I'd rather see the world with clarity and live in despair than to blind myself to truth and live in bliss.

agreed.. well said

 

[anxiety1408]

I'd rather see the world with clarity and live in despair than to blind myself to truth and live in bliss.

Of course, that's not necessarily saying that the "self-destructive thoughts" are the correct representation of realism, but I think many times the pessimist sees what the optimist chooses not to.

So what your saying is you'd rather live in despair when you have a choice not to? you would out of your personal choice do that? You can let the situation be and think positively about it or complain about the situation think negatively , You see the situation is there , how you percieve it is another matter.. thinking positively/negatively about something doesn't change whats happening but it can allow you to feel at peace within yourself if you want to that is..

 

[RelentlessHamster]

I see the world in a realistic way but I also choose to see the good things about that very same reality, living in despair? that is surviving not living. If we only focus on the bad things we can't help to despair.

anxiety1408 is right our opinion won't change things but if we're positive we'll have higher motivation and face things reassured that not everything is as bad as it seems.

I stay out of drugs, alcohol, and any other substance, I see everything with clarity but am constantly trying to see some good in all things.

for example I drank 50% of glass of milk which was full, you will say that it's half empty I while will say it's half-full, do you notice the difference here?

 

[Illusions]

Yeah, thinking that all this will be over soon is what keeps me going. I'm slowly running out of patience though.

 

[RelentlessHamster]

Illusions, keep to good spirits, and your country is impressive and so developed that should motivate you to move on don't give up before trying

 

[anxiety1408]

I see the world in a realistic way but I also choose to see the good things about that very same reality, living in despair? that is surviving not living. If we only focus on the bad things we can't help to despair.

anxiety1408 is right our opinion won't change things but if we're positive we'll have higher motivation and face things reassured that not everything is as bad as it seems.

I stay out of drugs, alcohol, and any other substance, I see everything with clarity but am constantly trying to see some good in all things.

for example I drank 50% of glass of milk which was full, you will say that it's half empty I while will say it's half-full, do you notice the difference here?

Yeah same here I dont do drugs, neither do I intake alcohol, I try at all times to see the positive in things aswell. It makes a huge difference, like half full/half empty thing, either you work your way down or work your way up, I personally would rather be happy by thinking positively.. Theres no right or wrong guys Its what makes you feel good.. Negativity can never be good, you give up when you should carry on, you over analyze, you see all the bad in everything that happens.. now come on not any of these things will be of any good to yourself...

 

[sanitariumcalls]

Has anyone tried Daily Affirmations? Or keep a positive journal?

I realize that for many people its difficult to do either one, but I do my best to think of the good things, like my bill were paid on time this month, both my cats are healthy and happy, I cleaned up the house early in the day so I have the whole rest of it to relax!

Better yet, on the days I don't have a panic attack in school or on the bus, I treat myself! I'll get a yummy mocha on the way home or sometimes buy a pint of Spumoni and indulge after dinner.

I hope you feel better!

 

[anxiety1408]

Has anyone tried Daily Affirmations? Or keep a positive journal?

I realize that for many people its difficult to do either one, but I do my best to think of the good things, like my bill were paid on time this month, both my cats are healthy and happy, I cleaned up the house early in the day so I have the whole rest of it to relax!

Better yet, on the days I don't have a panic attack in school or on the bus, I treat myself! I'll get a yummy mocha on the way home or sometimes buy a pint of Spumoni and indulge after dinner.

I hope you feel better!

I tried the daily affirmation thing, It didn't really work for me, I was saying things over and over but deep down I knew them not to be true so it had no effect on me really..

 

[RelentlessHamster]

I've never tried that =) but perhaps lying to myself won't work

 

[DanFC]

So what your saying is you'd rather live in despair when you have a choice not to? you would out of your personal choice do that? You can let the situation be and think positively about it or complain about the situation think negatively , You see the situation is there , how you percieve it is another matter.. thinking positively/negatively about something doesn't change whats happening but it can allow you to feel at peace within yourself if you want to that is..

No, living in something akin to sorrow is the consequence, not the choice. The choice is to see what you think is truly there, whether it be positive or negative. What you "think", as you say, has little to do with what I'm talking about considering a non-absolute perception. You may think something is going positively or negatively, but it's one's choice to either ignore or embrace what you perceive. And that choice does change what happens, to an extent of your actions.

 

[DanFC]

I see the world in a realistic way but I also choose to see the good things about that very same reality, living in despair? that is surviving not living. If we only focus on the bad things we can't help to despair.

anxiety1408 is right our opinion won't change things but if we're positive we'll have higher motivation and face things reassured that not everything is as bad as it seems.

I stay out of drugs, alcohol, and any other substance, I see everything with clarity but am constantly trying to see some good in all things.

for example I drank 50% of glass of milk which was full, you will say that it's half empty I while will say it's half-full, do you notice the difference here?

I agree with you to an extent, but I think you misunderstood what I said. I said given the choice or living blind or not, I'd choose not to, even if the consequence is despair.

It's one thing to see the good in something; it's another to ignore the bad.

 

[RelentlessHamster]

well true and perhaps I did

I may be closing my eyes to my faults but I am not, I simply try to see me as a balanced being with good and bad traits, knowing I have to work on my bad traits in order to improve myself, we must aim for improving ourselves everyday.

I get your point, I prefer being realistic over daydreaming as well, because what good is to create a grandiose idea of who we're not, lie to people of how great we wish we were.

 

[spect01]

I like this post. I gave you positive rep.

 

[theslowesthand]

You definately need to read the book "the power of now"

I will be checking out that book for sure! (have often heard of it). That & other similarly-deep/heavy books (such as a book which my dentist suggested "The Celestine Prophesy", after getting an "earful" of my life problems!) are what i need to seriously investigate (as clearly MY OWN philosophies/ways are not working at all). I once again, just need to "get my B*M INTO GEAR" and DO IT!!!. Thnks for that

...why are you talking about the future ... The past and the future is an Illusion your always gona be in the now, Is there ever a part of your life that isn't going to take place in the 'now' what are you waiting for? Dont cling on to the hope of something happening because you have personally got to do something, your waiting for yourself to act ''now'' at some point Is Illogical

By "future" i am meaning my future "present-now's". What i am saying is that my current/present "present now's" are often very cr**ppy, and i want to change that. That is, i'm "unhappy", and wish to be "happy" (in the present, not future (or past))