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Does anyone else experience this? I met with people from a similar forum to this and after having a lovely day out none bothered to keep in contact with one another. Instead they go back to the forum to moan about their lives again. Why are most people so two-faced and selfish.
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Does anyone else experience this? I met with people from a similar forum to this and after having a lovely day out none bothered to keep in contact with one another.
Are the people on the forum publically admitting they're not contacting others anymore or does their posting new messages on the forum make you automatically assume that they aren't contacting others they've gone out with anymore? Sorry, I'm confused...unless you're referring to only people you have gone out with that don't want to keep contacting you.

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Why are most people so two-faced and selfish.
I agree it's disgusting, but it's the plague of our species. Anyone that says they aren't selfish is not in the right environment. We all have our own personal temptations that when under the right circumstances we turn selfish/self centered.
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I agree it's disgusting, but it's the plague of our species. Anyone that says they aren't selfish is not in the right environment. We all have our own personal temptations that when under the right circumstances we turn selfish/self centered.
Are you sure? I was under the impression that social dynamics usually tends to work out as a level playing-ground.

Folks say what they mean, and mean what they say. It's often that simple.

No such thing as social "leagues" or divisions.

The cynical outlook does not often show up in the actual reality. And so on.
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Does anyone else experience this? I met with people from a similar forum to this and after having a lovely day out none bothered to keep in contact with one another. Instead they go back to the forum to moan about their lives again. Why are most people so two-faced and selfish.
If it's a forum like this, it may not be a lack of opportunity that makes them lonely, but rather they find going out with people to be stressful and anxiety-filled. I know it is a catch-22 I've ran into in the past: I feel lonely sitting alone at my house, but then when I am out with people I feel so nervous and uncomfortable that I just wanted to leave and be alone in my house again. I'm not saying that is a good excuse to sit at home and feeling bad for oneself, but I can understand where they may be coming from.
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Are you sure? I was under the impression that social dynamics usually tends to work out as a level playing-ground.

Folks say what they mean, and mean what they say. It's often that simple.

No such thing as social "leagues" or divisions.

The cynical outlook does not often show up in the actual reality. And so on.
Chances are I may have overgeneralized with my last statement.
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Maybe they just didn't click with each other. Simply being around people isn't enough to cure loneliness. If they're not the right people, maybe it's not worth hanging out again.

Or maybe it is just too uncomfortable and anxiety-inducing to go out again. Maybe it's too stressful to just pick up the phone and make plans.

I bet there are a lot of possible reasons for not keeping in contact. I get lonely too but I can't just snap my fingers and have friends to hang out with. I don't just want someone to fill the space and pass the time with. It has to be worth spending time with them.
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In reply to your concern about selfishness or lack of effort, I can answer from a personal angle: unfortunately I have gotten comfortable being alone from spending so much time alone. I wouldn't be surprised if that plays some part in the issue you're experiencing.

But I wouldn't be judging of them either. It may seem selfish, but anyone who isn't wanting to push themselves to build friendships is hurting themself more than anyone else. I know that from experience.
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