Online Social life but no offline life...

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oNecoOlazN

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..it's really sad...i am so ashamed of myself...
in reality, i have like absolutely no social life..and the only person i talk to is my family..and right now im home almost 24/7...except when i go out to eat or something...

but online is different..guys talk to me, want to meet me..i chat and i actually have those so called "friends" i talk to...

im actually happy i get to socialize..but at the same time i feel utter pathetic and lame..and what would those onliners think of me if they did find out the truth?..omg....and what if my FAMILY found out..*shutter*
I have tried to quit socializing online..but i cannot do so b/c i desperately hunger for human contact (even if the only means is going online and befriending total strangers...*sigh*)


give me feedback...-_-;
 
Ashiene

Ashiene

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I have no friends in real life, but online I have friends. (492 contacts on windows live messenger) its very weird I think. but even online on messenger, i rarely speak to more than 15 contacts and ive forgotten who most of the other contacts are.
 
Ericisme

Ericisme

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I totally agree! I leave the house 1-2 times a month. But when I do I actually feel better afterwards, human contact just feels good, even though I talk to no humans except my mom when I leave. But I try to socialize online as much as possible, even though I'm kinda shy at that too. I'll kinda... tend to... watch people socialize online. Just watch people in a chatroom for several minutes and then leave. I usually only talk if there are very few people, but I get like scared and junk when there are more people. Well, online, my "friend" usually don't even wanna talk to me, I think I'm actually a stupid, annoying, retarded, or just rude guy, I don't know which ones though. I have a few "friends" online, but none in real life at all. I talked to my like 2nd and 3rd stranger in the past 2-3 years yesterday... -.-
 
Skatergirl

Skatergirl

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First of all, don't be ashamed. For many people it's hard to make friends in real life, and even more when you have social anxiety. Be happy with the friends you got online!
Maybe when you recovered from social phobia, u can meet them someday!
Wouldn't that be great? :)
I also have friends online, but I have friends in real life too.
I made friends with them when I didn't have Social anxiety extremely like I have now.
Maybe U can go to a therapist which can train your social skills, and make you feel more confident in social situations, like making friends. :)
Good luck to yah!!!!
 
Sloth

Sloth

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Im too afraid to make online friends.

I worry more about what people think by the words I type than me talking in person.
 
anomicdeer

anomicdeer

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Yup. Im the same way. I'm always home. I think I just realized that I can find people to hangout with but I probably still have to deal with people that arent actually my friends. Like, people I get along with but dont have anything in common. Thats only people in ONE of my classes and hopefully ill be graduating. I dont know but its my last year and im doing terrible and i would rather start all over then to get a GED or something. But anyways. I do enjoy being around people its just difficult for me sometimes because i dont know how to communicate well.
 
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LaLaLa

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I feel kind of guilty too and recently I'm starting to feel this SA even online. I used to be sort of okay and didn't care about the things I said online but now I'm getting more self conscious. I'm even starting to feel afraid of losing my online friends. Lol, I get pissed when some people log on MSN and they aren't there or just suddenly stopped talking to me. It's hard to keep online friends too.
 
Reiji Moritsugu

Reiji Moritsugu

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At least you have an online social life...I don´t even have that,
as the same issue that keeps me from having an offline social life
appears: that is, my head going blank and me not being able to
think of anything to say.

So if it makes you feel even a little better, things could be worse.

See you around :)
 
meatcake

meatcake

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Yeah I'm afraid of making friends online cause then I'd worry about losing them. And I can only handle a few close friends anyway. I love posting on these boards cause it's actual human interaction, which I haven't really enjoyed since I was 13 or so.

I look at it as good practice for the real world though. I'm a lot more wary with 'normal' people of course, but if I ever met someone I thought was shy, I think I'd feel a little more able to interact with them. That's really the only kind of friendships I'd want anyway.
 
InDeepshit

InDeepshit

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i'm in the same boat i've no relationships except family and work relationships.. it's painful to socialise because i end up feeling like a social retard
and i need a boyfriend but htf will it happen if i'm a recluse. it won;t *cries*
 
NormanBates

NormanBates

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I think what's hard is that with real life friends, you can't just minimize them into the task bar when you're not talking to them.
 
faithnomore

faithnomore

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I'm much worse online than i am offline.

The problem is i cant go anywhere to meet people offline.

Its becoming a problem of needing to talk to people now. I never really needed to before, but now i want to know people, i want to be friends with people. But i'm scared of stuff like rejection.

I'm stuck.
 
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Fighter86

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Reiji Moritsugu said:
At least you have an online social life...I don´t even have that,
as the same issue that keeps me from having an offline social life
appears: that is, my head going blank and me not being able to
think of anything to say.

So if it makes you feel even a little better, things could be worse.
Click to expand...

Same here, I don't even have an online life, the only people I talk to are from work and my family. No one that I can really talk about to my frustrations in life and my problems ::(:
 
Quickslash

Quickslash

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I had friends, and I chose the internet/being a loner over them pretty much. I would talk to them on the internet when we stopped hanging out and they didn't like that. No regrets at all, cause I am an introvert.

I don't get my energy from being around other people and hanging out and partying etc. I get it from being alone.

It's hard for a lot of people to understand this. Hell it took me 24 years to realize it LOL but I'm a lot happier with myself with this knowledge.

When I was growing up all I wanted to do was party/hangout like the "cool" kids.
I never stopped to realize who I was. I did not like those type of situations and wanted to be different so instead of loving myself I hated myself.

Not saying this is the case for anyone here, just my own story.

My advice to meet friends IRL is to get a part time job if you can.
 
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Flowers-Of-Bloom

Flowers-Of-Bloom

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I have real life and online friends, but both of these mediums are difficult for me. I'm afriad of what people think online or offline, but with the internet, I can hide. No one has to know I'm here.
I even get SA on forums, like this one. But it's nothing I can't handle.
 
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