Recent content by Rumplestiltskin

It just isn't. Here's how life is if you're ugly: You can't find love, since no one will ever want to be in a relationship with you. You can't have casual sex, since no one will ever want to go to bed with you. You can't find a job, since no one will ever want to hire an awkward loser who...

You’re a loser, and it shows. Your clothes, your stiff posture, your fearful look. People notice. And, of course, they don’t approve. No one likes a loser. They don’t want anything to do with you. You know they don’t want to be seen anywhere near you, so you don’t even try to impose yourself on...

You are. They know. You know they know. It sucks. It takes any scarce self-esteem you might have left away. It forces you to stay at home as much as you can. It makes you hate anyone looking in your direction. It's written all over your face. You can't have sex. The wheel will keep on...

It's not irrational when you're objectively ugly. (Beauty's not in the eye of the beholder -- that's just something some friendly people say to make ugly individuals feel better about themselves). It's not irrational when every single time you expose yourself out there you notice disapproving...

They're everywhere. You see them every day. You want to have them. You're not like them. You can't have them. You can't even look at them without feeling guilty, so you divert your eyes away. You kind of force yourself to think that you're undermining their ego by doing that, but they actually...

Life is hard. So says everyone. Yet they all have children. What's the coherence behind this? Isn't life supposed to be mostly enjoyable? If not, what's the point of us all being in this world? How can you find life hard and want that for your children? (PS. No need to reply in...

Is it really possible not to care what others think/say about you or how they judge you? This is supposedly one of the main steps in getting over social anxiety, but I've never been able to enjoy this freedom when going outside. And the thing is, I don't think it's actually possible to forget...

Kind of in relation to this thread, I thought I would share some stupid doubts and concerns I can't get out of my head: -How come everyone seems to find so easily a career they want to pursue when 99% of the professions are painfully boring? -Isn't it a tiny bit incoherent to say that you love...

Life is boring. Painfully boring. Excruciatingly boring. You get up every day 2 to 5 hours earlier than you would if you didn’t have to go to work. You spend the next half an hour in your bathroom, wondering fruitlessly what the meaning of life is. And then the next half one commuting, longing...

Follow your dreams. Pursue your aspirations. Work towards your goals. I'm so sick of hearing things like this. :thumbdown: What if you don't have any dreams at all? Why does everyone assume that you know perfectly well what your goals are and what you should do to achieve them?

- I can’t have a job that I don’t hate. - I can’t have self-confidence. - I can’t not suffer from anxiety. - I can’t breathe properly. - I can’t not be afraid. - I can’t live by myself. - I can’t drive. - I can’t have sex. - I can’t not hate my face. - I can’t not hate my body. - I can’t not...

A. think you're disgusting/fugly/weird; (You can easily tell by their face. Most stare at you for longer than they should. Some give that disdainful head-to-toes look that inevitably boosts your self-esteem.) B. try to put on the best of their faces; (But can't even remotely hide the fact...

15 years, to be exact. At this point, I think it's fair to say that there's nothing wrong with me. I'm not depressed, I'm not going through a bad patch, I'm not bound to get happier and better over time. I'm just a normal, clearheaded guy who just doesn't want to live anymore. Or, rather, who...

Hi there. :) It is said that SA is an irrational disorder, but I don't think it should be labelled as such in all cases. If you suffer from dismorphophobia or feel insecure about your looks and are, indeed, *ugly or phisically abnormal, there's no point in asking you to change your thoughts...