Recent content by Newtype

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    Identity Achievement

    Hi, I haven't been here in a while. Thought I'd share some thoughts. The older I get, the more wisdom I have and the more I realize how much more destructive social anxiety can be compared to what I initially thought when I was in my teens and early 20s. Lately, while trying to find what my own...
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    Do you think it's possible to have SA and be a natural-born leader?

    Lately I've been wondering if I actually have good leadership qualities, which is strange because I have SA, so all my life, whenever I've been in a situation that involved teamwork, I barely talked and let everyone else decide what to do and even though sometimes I didn't agree, I didn't say...
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    The Importance of Feeling Valued.

    Hey everyone, I rarely make threads but I've been thinking about something lately and thought I should share it. I wanna discuss the importance of feeling valued when you're fighting SA. I feel like it's something that I've completely ignored and is the reason why I think I've hit a wall in my...
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    For the past two years, I've been fighting depression, to a point where I sometimes think that I'm finally healed, but then suddenly I crash mentally for no reason and thus my life crashes as well. No matter how hard I try to get back up rapidly, I can't! It seems that the only way to get better...
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    A life dominated by fear has now been swallowed by anger

    I'm 24 years old, I've had SA for half of my life. I used to not know why I had SA, until I started analyzing my dreams. Ever since I was a kid, I've always had these crazy dreams and all those dreams had one thing in common, fear. It made me wonder why I always had nightmares filled with fear...
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    Goodbye Everyone

    I'm gonna leave this Web site. I don't really know what I'm doing here anymore. I think the only thing this site does is bring comfort because you get to see that there are other people like you out there with the same struggles. I don't need that comfort anymore. I just wanna crush this SA once...
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    Did anyone else choose to not date until their SA is completely gone?

    A long time ago I made the decision to not approach any girls until my SA is completely gone. It's sad living this way, but I don't want to take any risks. Loving someone is also being there for that person and I fear that I wouldn't fully be able to support that person as long as I have SA...
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    Post your relaxing videos.

    Often I can't sleep or I have to sleep but feel like I have too much energy. I'm sure there are other people like me. A trick that I found a while ago is to watch relaxing videos on YouTube. I'm often searching for new videos, hidden gems, but I can't find them all by myself, so share your...
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    Feeling pressured by society to drink alcohol.

    I don't drink alcohol. I never did. I just don't see the point. Why drink alcohol when you could just drink juice or milk? That's the way I think. I seem to be the only person in the world who thinks this way. I don't have anything against people who drink alcohol. I just don't want to drink...
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    Finding out your crush has a bf/gf.

    Hey, I'm just writing this to share my pathetic story, which seems to happen every time I have a crush on a girl. I've had a crush on a girl for six weeks. I pretty much thought about her every day. She's so beautiful, she's intelligent and when she's playing with her hair in class beside me...
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    Cell Phone Assumptions

    Today, I've realized that the reason why I don't talk to girls is because of one thing: cell phones. Girls, at least where I live, and the ones that I'm interested in, are always using their cell phone. They never let go of it. When they're not talking, they're texting. Even during class when...
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    Is it okay for a 24-year-old guy to date an 18-year-old girl?

    Okay, I'm asking this purely out of curiosity. I just wanna know what people think about this, hear different opinions. I don't actually plan on acting based on what people say. I turned 24 yesterday and for the past year, I've been back in school. The people there are 18-19 year olds. Life in...
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    Feeling of extreme sadness when I see a beautiful girl.

    Whenever I see a beautiful girl, I don't know why but I get extremely sad, to a point where I get depressed. My skool is filled with beautiful girls, so every day it's the same. I go to skool in a good/neutral mood and I leave depressed and sad. Is anyone else like that? Guys or girls.
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    Hallucination or real?

    From spending some time here, I know that many people here feel like everyone is looking at them. I'm sort of like that too, but less now than before. Sometimes, I get these glimpses of girls looking at me and smiling... For example, yesterday I was at school doing some math homework and there...
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    [Experiment] People sitting beside you in the public bus.

    In my efforts to overcome my social anxiety, I've started doing the opposite of some things that I used to do. One of those things that I used to do is that I used to put my school bag on the seat next to me in order to prevent someone from sitting beside me. Of course, that's not a nice thing...