Sounds like you've noticed controlling avoidances, and the anger slowly subsides.
Anger is just a by-product of Avpd.
Taking longer is positive, you know that built in clock spending too much time at something and then the anxiety and avoidance firing you up, If time doesn't seem to matter your making leaps and bounds.
I don't know about your waldrobe but go for the full re-invention... feel good on the outside maybe that's your next step.