I knew it, I don't deserve any friends

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Darker Than Black

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good friends or good grades

good friends = social life

bad grades = total failure

friends and grade don't mix, I can't balance between the two.

I don't deserve friends because I'm stupid
 
Phobologist

Phobologist

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Id really like to work with on these distortions, but its up to you. PM me if you want to get on msn or aim and do some CBT.
 
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Nack

Banned
What about Loc Operon? Isn't he your friend? You don't need a lot a friends to be happy dude.
 
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Silvox Black

Well-known member
You do not need to have a social life in order to have good friends, all you need are some close companions in order to have close friends. You can have both grades and companions, however due to your stressful situation I am certain you require friends more than grades. Unfortunately, your parents do not understand this, am I correct?
 
Noca

Noca

Banned
I see my best friend and my gf each once a week, and as for the rest, maybe once a month or less? My grades sit at a 93% average in college so far.
 
Hellhound

Hellhound

Super Moderator
If you have friends, you don't have to be with them 24/7, you still have time to study. Having friends doesn't mean being social, and going out every day. I only go out once a week, i study and i have a few good friends.
 
Moonie

Moonie

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I've always had that same sort of mentality, too. I got awesome grades in HS and college, too. I've always thought that I'd probably not be able to do so well in school if I had a busy social life. I've made a couple friends in college and still did pretty good. So, it's definitely doable.

And to be totally honest, you should try and socialize more. Having awesome grades are all good and great. But, they can only get you so far. I have problems applying to jobs and such because I lack the social skills and confidence to do so. You really need to exercise your social skills - as well as academic skills - in order to get places in life.
 
mismeek

mismeek

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I think you just need to find that healthy balance.. you should have designated study days and hangout time. So that way you don't get burned out on studying or start to fall behind in school. If your friends are real friends they would understand and maybe start planning things on your "hang out day". Also, you kno, it won't kill your social life if you miss a couple of outtings with your friends..people understand that you have obligations.
 
Luke1993

Luke1993

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Darker Than Black said:
good friends or good grades

good friends = social life

bad grades = total failure

friends and grade don't mix, I can't balance between the two.

I don't deserve friends because I'm stupid
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You do not have to have friends or have good grades to be happy! Your videos are an inspiration to me! You're a kind and good-hearted person, and not a lot of people can say that in this day and age!
 
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Darker Than Black

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Luke1993 said:
You do not have to have friends or have good grades to be happy! Your videos are an inspiration to me! You're a kind and good-hearted person, and not a lot of people can say that in this day and age!
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well, u know what, kind hearted people can't survive in this kind of world, like me, So I got to change, that's what my parents said and my old boss.
 
Luke1993

Luke1993

Well-known member
Indeed, but a good person cannot suddenly just change like that? What do you think are your main problems? And can you fix any of these problems?
 
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