worrywort
Well-known member
I'm beginning to worry about my levels of hatred towards other people. Anyone else have this problem?
The number of people I come across that I actually respect and kinda like, seems to be diminishing as I age. Also the closer I get to people the more likely it seems I'll end up hating them too.
There are a few people here and there that I still like. I like humble people who aren't afraid to admit their flaws, and I like honest people. Intelligence isn't necessarily a dealbreaker; I've known a few simple people who have their heart in the right place, and I like people like that, but generally ignorance and stupidity is something that frustrates me in other people. I've also always kinda liked most of the people on this website, and I'm not just saying that!
But lately it seems like almost everyone I come across I feel an instant dislike for. I just feel like there are so many horrible, selfish, ungrateful, ignorant people out there. There are people at my work who just moan and complain all the time. Then there are people who seem to only ever talk about themselves. Then there are people who always have to cut other people down to feel better about themselves. Then there are those that seem so self-absorbed and arrogant, like they're the centre of the universe, and some are so demanding and seem to have this attitude of entitlement that they wear like a robe. Then you get those angry, ignorant types that are always kicking up a fuss when they haven't done their research. Then there's manipulative people who lie and bullshit you, and there's people that dress like they're something special and.....ergh....the list goes on......
But I guess what I'm really curious about is why I feel this way. I have a strong suspicion the fault is my own. Perhaps I'm a perfectionist with unrealistically high standards, perhaps it's a defence mechanism gone wrong; i.e. I'm just creating more excuses to avoid getting close to people. Or perhaps it's a classic case of projection, that the things I hate in other's are actually the things I'm most guilty of myself but don't want to face up to. I'm not sure how I'd find out.
But if anyone has any thoughts, I'd love to hear. Maybe we could all share the types of people we all hate! Wouldn't that be a jolly discussion!?
The number of people I come across that I actually respect and kinda like, seems to be diminishing as I age. Also the closer I get to people the more likely it seems I'll end up hating them too.
There are a few people here and there that I still like. I like humble people who aren't afraid to admit their flaws, and I like honest people. Intelligence isn't necessarily a dealbreaker; I've known a few simple people who have their heart in the right place, and I like people like that, but generally ignorance and stupidity is something that frustrates me in other people. I've also always kinda liked most of the people on this website, and I'm not just saying that!
But lately it seems like almost everyone I come across I feel an instant dislike for. I just feel like there are so many horrible, selfish, ungrateful, ignorant people out there. There are people at my work who just moan and complain all the time. Then there are people who seem to only ever talk about themselves. Then there are people who always have to cut other people down to feel better about themselves. Then there are those that seem so self-absorbed and arrogant, like they're the centre of the universe, and some are so demanding and seem to have this attitude of entitlement that they wear like a robe. Then you get those angry, ignorant types that are always kicking up a fuss when they haven't done their research. Then there's manipulative people who lie and bullshit you, and there's people that dress like they're something special and.....ergh....the list goes on......
But I guess what I'm really curious about is why I feel this way. I have a strong suspicion the fault is my own. Perhaps I'm a perfectionist with unrealistically high standards, perhaps it's a defence mechanism gone wrong; i.e. I'm just creating more excuses to avoid getting close to people. Or perhaps it's a classic case of projection, that the things I hate in other's are actually the things I'm most guilty of myself but don't want to face up to. I'm not sure how I'd find out.
But if anyone has any thoughts, I'd love to hear. Maybe we could all share the types of people we all hate! Wouldn't that be a jolly discussion!?