Treated like a fool

[gustavofring]

Does anyone else sometimes have the feeling you're being treated like you're stupid or special?

Like people are being nice just because they think you're troubled or lonely and are checking how you're doing?

There's nothing malicious about this, they're just "being nice", but still, why not treat me like you would with any other person? I think there's some level of feeling superior involved on their behalf. Sure I've been troubled, I've spent quite some time being depressed, but that doesn't mean I'm some halfwit that needs people looking after him. I have a job now and people are continually asking me how the job is going with a sort of "motherly smile" for lack of better description. I can't help but reply in an aloof manner because it's getting repetitive and I feel there's been some behind my back talk about my life. Sometimes I wish I hadn't opened up to people about my depression.

 

[Graeme1988]

Does anyone else sometimes have the feeling you're being treated like you're stupid or special?

Like people are being nice just because they think you're troubled or lonely and are checking how you're doing?

There's nothing malicious about this, they're just "being nice", but still, why not treat me like you would with any other person? I think there's some level of feeling superior involved on their behalf. Sure I've been troubled, I've spent quite some time being depressed, but that doesn't mean I'm some halfwit that needs people looking after him. I have a job now and people are continually asking me how the job is going with a sort of "motherly smile" for lack of better description. I can't help but reply in an aloof manner because it's getting repetitive and I feel there's been some behind my back talk about my life. Sometimes I wish I hadn't opened up to people about my depression.

Yeah, ah get that a lot! Huvin' a physical disability (cerebral palsy) doesnae exactly help matters fur me... h:

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

Well, at least they care. Yeah, it's annoying but they mean well. Don't take it as a slight!

 

[Saga]

Does anyone else sometimes have the feeling you're being treated like you're stupid or special?

Like people are being nice just because they think you're troubled or lonely and are checking how you're doing?

There's nothing malicious about this, they're just "being nice", but still, why not treat me like you would with any other person? I think there's some level of feeling superior involved on their behalf. Sure I've been troubled, I've spent quite some time being depressed, but that doesn't mean I'm some halfwit that needs people looking after him. I have a job now and people are continually asking me how the job is going with a sort of "motherly smile" for lack of better description. I can't help but reply in an aloof manner because it's getting repetitive and I feel there's been some behind my back talk about my life. Sometimes I wish I hadn't opened up to people about my depression.

My God, I know exactly how you feel. :3 I hate it, too. I feel like they treat me like I'm slow because I barely speak, and I get this feeling that they think I'm inferior. But, it's all in my head, as usual. Maybe they are just being nice. Bloop. .-.

 

[jaim38]

Tell me about it. I've had people talk down to me like I was a baby. Sometimes, I just want to tell them that I'm not a dumb*ss.

 

[gustavofring]

That's exactly what I did yesterday.

"We don't see you often, but lately we've been seeing you more" I heard from a roommate in a bit of a belittling manner.

I couldn't help but saying: "Sorry are you the social control service?"


It's a bit of an a-hole reaction, but I couldn't help it. I've had it with this sort of attention. I mean seriously. I feel so watched here and being taken like the House-retard.

 

[lonelee1]

people do treat me different, but i understand it's because i project this weird vibe. its like they're walking on eggshells with me. most people don't know how to react to something outside the norm. i admit that if i encountered someone like myself, i might not know how to react.

i've heard ppl might think we are aloof, stuck up, or generally mean because they don't understand. it's so hard to move through these types of things.

i can't change people, i have to change myself enough to not let these encounters bother me.

i hope you feel better, i know what you mean

 

[gustavofring]

people do treat me different, but i understand it's because i project this weird vibe. its like they're walking on eggshells with me. most people don't know how to react to something outside the norm. i admit that if i encountered someone like myself, i might not know how to react.

Yes true about those eggshells. But I've seriously had it with people acting like I'm a freak. I don't think I project that much of a weird vibe. It's true that I've been avoidant for a while and living with roommates has been tough during depression when I was so tired I just couldn't stand being around people and I might have displayed some seriously odd behavior that might have made people scratch their heads.. But I don't need that weird "treat him with satin gloves" bs. It just gets anger out of me to be fair and I feel like seriously rebelling against it and being in their face now all the time. Maybe it's pride, like saying "I'm beyond that now".

 

[lonelee1]

i really do understand. look at it this way, ok, you had a bit of a rough time. people are people and some aren't able to empathize or really grasp what you go through. the best thing to do is forget about it. anger just makes things worse, trust me, i know. you are beyond that now and feeling better, so we work from there. you might even consider that people are concerned for you, that could be a good thing.