Invisibleman
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Yeah i definetely know how you feel. Its where a lot of my self-doubt comes from.
Unemployment
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Yeah i definetely know how you feel. Its where a lot of my self-doubt comes from.
I feel completely lost when it comes to jobs/careers. I just have no idea what I want to do, or even what I would be able to easily tolerate doing. I am not unemployed, but my job is seasonal, so I do not work during the winter (although this year I did work some until Christmas). My current job is the only job I have ever had and I've had it for 3 years.
My current job doesn't require too much interaction with other people, most of the time I just have to interact with the same handful of people and so I handle it well since I have had years to get used to everything. I worry about not being able to be sociable enough and polite enough to keep any job that I may get.
I have applied for some jobs but so far haven't been accepted for anything.
My current job doesn't require too much interaction with other people, most of the time I just have to interact with the same handful of people and so I handle it well since I have had years to get used to everything. I worry about not being able to be sociable enough and polite enough to keep any job that I may get.
I have applied for some jobs but so far haven't been accepted for anything.
Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
I just want to say that I was in a similar situation not too long ago and now I'm doing well (so far). As lots of people here, I dropped out of college several times, but in my 4th try I finally succeeded and even went to university. I got fired I have no idea how many times for things related to social incapacity, and after trying and trying as hard as I could I finally found a job that I like and where I feel alright. And I swear if I get fired from that job too I'll just kick my ass and find another one, where I will possibly last yet a bit longer. And in the end I'll find my place somewhere. So don't give up.
MrJones
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I never had a real job. I manage to stay at college though I've been about to drop lately (still wondering if I'll be able to finish, I need one more year) but still it's not enough. My family wants me to be as successful as my older sister. She finished uni with super high grades, worked for the national television, been working since always and as a journalist (her profession) since her first year of career. She worked in foreign countries for our national TV too and got offers to work on the USA. She travels the world gaining experience and money, and my parents are ashamed of me, but they use my mental disability to not feel so bad. They are ashamed of what I am because I can't do anything, I don't have a job, I'm not good enough.
MikeyC
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Looking for work is detrimental to your self-esteem and it very much sucks. Sorry that you have issues with your co-workers but I assure you that's in just about every job in the world.
I'm sorry you feel that way but don't forget you're in a bigger disadvantage than your siblings. Agoraphobia and being terrified of people isn't going to be helpful for you. Saying you're not good at anything is a dead-set lie!
I feel similar here, though. My brother is moving on to bigger and better things and I'm not, so I think my parents might get disappointed in me, too.
irrational
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Meh, other then prostitution, what would be a degrading job? I have more respect for the lady bagging my groceries to feed her children then some fortune 500 board member that was selected because he's related to someone.
If you give an honest days work, no matter what you do, it is NOT degrading!!
If you give an honest days work, no matter what you do, it is NOT degrading!!
SilentBird
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I guess that I am lazy. I could not handle being a supermarket trolley-attendant.
When I do work I am a very conscientious and do my job to the best of my ability. I have got satisfaction out of doing particular repetitive jobs such as delivering papers and bagging plants. But some jobs to me are just too horrible.
Shyangel
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Same here, Weirdy. That is alot of how I feel in a nut shell.
The difference is nobody in my family is doing anything, so I don't look bad in comparison at least.
I've never been employed. I have no respect for myself mostly because of this. I am adult (believe it or not) and I should be taking responsibility for myself. I don't want to be a spoiled useless daughter. I want to help my parents out, pay them back for raising me...I have alot of pride believe it or not, and not being able to be of any use really does hit it.....
KiaKaha
Banned
I have been feeling lately that society scolds those rather harshly for those who are unemployed.... especially if you are living on welfare.
*must... resist... leaving politics out of post*
The fact of the matter is there simply isnt enough work for everyone to do. There isnt enough training schemes and allowances to help people improve their situation whilst simultaneously providing a balance between working life, job fufulment and time to unwind and relax - the hypocrisy of certain ministers in the current government of my country have a lot to answer for when it comes to this - in my opinion (oops)
What also has been irritating me a bit lately is the fact that people expect you to work in ANY unskilled, low paying job despite how miserable it will make you feel - and that you must put on a front of artificial enjoyment while performing the job. There seems to be very little room for those who wish to change their career direction or for those who hate their job so much that they spiral into clinical depression.
*So why do you want to work for this sewerage company?*
*Because I just LOVE working with **** all day - its been my dream since I left school*
no offense to any sewrage workers out there - just trying to make a point.
This is partially the reason I interview so badly - I cant feign excitement in work that I care nothing about.
*must... resist... leaving politics out of post*
The fact of the matter is there simply isnt enough work for everyone to do. There isnt enough training schemes and allowances to help people improve their situation whilst simultaneously providing a balance between working life, job fufulment and time to unwind and relax - the hypocrisy of certain ministers in the current government of my country have a lot to answer for when it comes to this - in my opinion (oops)
What also has been irritating me a bit lately is the fact that people expect you to work in ANY unskilled, low paying job despite how miserable it will make you feel - and that you must put on a front of artificial enjoyment while performing the job. There seems to be very little room for those who wish to change their career direction or for those who hate their job so much that they spiral into clinical depression.
*So why do you want to work for this sewerage company?*
*Because I just LOVE working with **** all day - its been my dream since I left school*
no offense to any sewrage workers out there - just trying to make a point.
This is partially the reason I interview so badly - I cant feign excitement in work that I care nothing about.
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razzle dazzle rose
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Ah, another downer story here.
I am also unemployed. Almost two years now. The job I was at before made me completely miserable, so it was actually a good thing I was laid off. But, without a job, I cannot make plans. I cannot do anything. I am stuck. I need that paycheck.
I don't have any "real" work experience. I have a degree...but it doesn't really translate into a job without actual work experience. I know what I have to do (volunteer, get an internship, go back to school), but it takes me such a long time to actually do anything. Example: A few weeks ago I noticed a sign at the Bath and Body Works that said they were hiring. It took me two weeks to actually get an application. The application has been sitting in a drawer for three weeks now. Will I fill it out? Maybe. Will I turn it in? Probably not, or when I do, they will have been done with the hiring...again (that happened with another job I was thinking about applying to a couple months back...) I just move too slowly. "so move faster!" I don't know how! *cries*
I cannot do interviews either! And I cannot stand those rejection letters :: But everyone gets them. I have interview horror stories. Of being asked questions and having nothing to say, just wanting to get up and out the door. I do well on the exams...but the interviews always get me.
This. You are so right. I see people working the cash registers...doing what they have to do. I admire them for that.
I just cannot stand the idea of doing retail again though. It makes me so anxious...and it is a thankless job. I felt like a robot. I don't like the feeling. But I have no other experience. It is probably what I will have to do again. At least to get me started.
I am also unemployed. Almost two years now. The job I was at before made me completely miserable, so it was actually a good thing I was laid off. But, without a job, I cannot make plans. I cannot do anything. I am stuck. I need that paycheck.
I don't have any "real" work experience. I have a degree...but it doesn't really translate into a job without actual work experience. I know what I have to do (volunteer, get an internship, go back to school), but it takes me such a long time to actually do anything. Example: A few weeks ago I noticed a sign at the Bath and Body Works that said they were hiring. It took me two weeks to actually get an application. The application has been sitting in a drawer for three weeks now. Will I fill it out? Maybe. Will I turn it in? Probably not, or when I do, they will have been done with the hiring...again (that happened with another job I was thinking about applying to a couple months back...) I just move too slowly. "so move faster!" I don't know how! *cries*
I cannot do interviews either! And I cannot stand those rejection letters :
: But everyone gets them. I have interview horror stories. Of being asked questions and having nothing to say, just wanting to get up and out the door. I do well on the exams...but the interviews always get me. This. You are so right. I see people working the cash registers...doing what they have to do. I admire them for that.
I just cannot stand the idea of doing retail again though. It makes me so anxious...and it is a thankless job. I felt like a robot. I don't like the feeling. But I have no other experience. It is probably what I will have to do again. At least to get me started.
razzle dazzle rose
Well-known member
No one wants to do it but someone has to do it, right?
I am not even sure what work would get me excited. It all just seems like too much to handle at the moment.
irrational
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You don't work for satisfaction, you work to pay the bills. You are also not working to impress anyone, you are working to pay the bills. Society doesn't scold those without a job, society scolds those without a job that are fine with it and are collecting some form of well fare.
If you're content avoiding a certain type of job, that's cool, but who will pay your bills? If you don't have any bills and are still happy, more power to you, wish I could know the trick.
The sewage company very likely has supervisors, managers, regional directors and vp's. Same with MacDonalds, Walmart, Best Buy, 711, etc. etc. A LOT of these companies educate and promote from within. People generally don't start at the top. Even with an education (which is over rated anyway). Start somewhere, anywhere, apply yourself and succeed, it's really that simple.
New Zealand is actively recruiting foreigners and will give dual citizenship after 5 years of employment because they don't have enough people working. Seems like there is plenty of work for everyone and then some.
If you're content avoiding a certain type of job, that's cool, but who will pay your bills? If you don't have any bills and are still happy, more power to you, wish I could know the trick.
The sewage company very likely has supervisors, managers, regional directors and vp's. Same with MacDonalds, Walmart, Best Buy, 711, etc. etc. A LOT of these companies educate and promote from within. People generally don't start at the top. Even with an education (which is over rated anyway). Start somewhere, anywhere, apply yourself and succeed, it's really that simple.
New Zealand is actively recruiting foreigners and will give dual citizenship after 5 years of employment because they don't have enough people working. Seems like there is plenty of work for everyone and then some.
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razzle dazzle rose
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Thank you for posting this. So true. We just gotta do what we gotta do.
My mother seems to care a lot what other people think. And she has sort of influenced me too. Though when I really think about it it doesn't make sense since other people are not gonna pay my bills and I don't owe them anything.
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KiaKaha
Banned
Over here? Well there isnt - and that is a widely known fact. Although the politicians would assure you otherwise.
But yes - I agree you work to pay the bills - I am simply suggesting that there needs to be some leeway between job choice, job satisfaction and the actual job you do. An unhappy worker is not a productive worker - nor is it beneficial for a persons emotional wellbeing.
BUT - I am going to leave it here - I am not in the mood to argue or debate. I am sure there are lots of people here to detract my point of view.
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MikeyC
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I didn't get my first job until I was 18 and I didn't get my first long-term job until I was 19. I am 25 and still waiting for my real job. My point is that not everyone can get work at the age of 15. You'll find something, but it just takes time.
I absolutely hate places that require experience in a particular field of work. To get the experience in the first place you need to work, but to get the job you need experience elsewhere. What? Maybe that's why you are having a tough time, razzle. It's really bad.
I think most people out there and just doing what they have to to get by. It's brutal out there.
Shyangel
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I still have more respect for you then myself. At least you put yourself out there to get any kind of job. That's admirable. There are so many(including myself) that aren't able to do that..You do make sense, though, Mikey. I understand that these situations pan out differently for everyone. I sure do hope your right.
...If your not, I know where you live......*evil stare*::
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MikeyC
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I didn't end up "putting myself out there" at any rate. I got the job because my boss lives on my street. That was my in. I am not able to do anything remotely like putting myself out there because it's tough and I have very little confidence in myself.I still have more respect for you then myself. At least you put yourself out there to get any kind of job. That's admirable. There are so many(including myself) that aren't able to do that..You do make sense, though, Mikey. I understand that these situations pan out differently for everyone. I sure do hope your right.
Hang in there and you'll find something.
Shyangel
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I didn't end up "putting myself out there" at any rate. I got the job because my boss lives on my street. That was my in. I am not able to do anything remotely like putting myself out there because it's tough and I have very little confidence in myself.
Hang in there and you'll find something.
I don't blame you. It is very scary. Either way, you got that job and that is putting yourself out there to some extent. So, you should definitely give yourself some more credit, Mikey. Also, a great guy like you has no need to lack confidence.
I'm banking on it.
Thanks, Mikey.
MikeyC
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I did get the job so that's good. I'm one of the luckier ones in my company, too, because I get to work at the Police Station, which is quite lucrative. In that way I guess it's not too bad.I don't blame you. It is very scary. Either way, you got that job and that is putting yourself out there to some extent. So, you should definitely give yourself some more credit, Mikey. Also, a great guy like you has no need to lack confidence.
I'm banking on it.
Thanks, Mikey.
None of us here have any need to lack confidence, but a bunch of us do, unfortunately. I could say the same thing about you, Shy.
Shyangel
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I did get the job so that's good. I'm one of the luckier ones in my company, too, because I get to work at the Police Station, which is quite lucrative. In that way I guess it's not too bad.
None of us here have any need to lack confidence, but a bunch of us do, unfortunately. I could say the same thing about you, Shy.
Ooh, that's neat. Do you see anything crazy working at a police station? I would be a little afraid. Not the friendliest place to work, you know.:
:Why is it "Lucrative" if you don't mind me asking?
You can try and dance around it, Mikey, my statement remains the same.
Smart, kind, sweet = Mikey= confidence...Math doesn't lie.
Thanks for the kindness.