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JMiller

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Anyone else unemployed and feel completely lost?

I was laid off from my clerk job at the end of last year because basically I was "too quiet" (SA) although I was there for 4 months.

I've recently been trying to get my previous job before the clerk job at Mcdonald's back that I left after 4 years. I got along with pretty much everyone that I worked with, the only hiccup I had was with the old head manager there and he was recently demoted and left that restaurant. I'll admit though, that nearing the end I wasn't happy being there.

I'm from a fairly small town and the jobs are pretty much slim-pickings. I just don't want to make a massive commute for a wage that I would barely be able to live off of in the first place.

I guess I just find myself disillusioned that I expected my time there to actually be worth something and ashamed that I find myself having to basically be begging just to get a job to be flipping patties again.
 
KiaKaha

KiaKaha

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I am unemployed too, and I have been for a while - the last job I worked at caused me so much stress and unhappiness that I had to leave. Since then I have lost a lot of my confidence when it comes to work.

I have great difficulty getting past the "new guy" phase - it makes me feel terribly uncomfortable. You dont know what you are doing and no one wants anything to do with you - its very unfriendly and uncomfortable - it just makes me feel awful.

Despite this though, I am trying - there is only so much I can do - and I do have aspirations into a particular type of field which I am trying to work toward, but for now in order to support myself there isnt really much going. Most of what I know cant be used in any real practical sense. There arent really all that many jobs with a description that says "required: a shy, quiet person that likes to work alone without too many people around - pays decent liveable wage"

Work is a massive handicap for me and the fact that I dont just makes me feel like a bit of a loser sometimes.
 
WeirdyMcGee

WeirdyMcGee

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I guess it's been about 3 years since I had a job.
I was fired because I was depressed and sobbing in the presence of customers- making them uncomfortable.

Now, I'm unsuited to work because I've gone deep into the agoraphobia pattern (again. not the first time.)


My therapist has had me set goals and try to figure out 'dreams' - how I imagine I'd like my life to be.
She thinks I should go back to college but I don't have the money to do so and owe the government from my first 'try' at college-- which I also failed miserably at and dropped out 3/4 through the year.
I'm lost.
There's no stability and I find it hard to take care of myself most days-- personal hygiene/nourishment, etc. aren't things that really concern me 9 days out of 10.

There are some jobs to be found in town. Also a small town. A tourism town. Any jobs paying over minimum wage would require more schooling.
Any minimum wage jobs are in fast food.
I feel like I'd rather just crawl in a hole and die than work fast food and be treated like garbage by people who don't know the first thing about me... so I'll stay in my room. Possibly forever.
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It's really difficult. I feel terrible guilt for not paying my own way, because I paid my own way since I was old enough to work.
Now, I'm like a baby.
I disgust myself but I don't have the motivation to change and I'm too terrified of people to give 'simple' tasks a try.
 
MikeyC

MikeyC

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Wow, 3 depressing stories, especially Weirdy's.

I was unemployed for 11 months between December 2003 and November 2004. That was after I had left school and I had nothing. That was one of the more depressing times of my life because I ran out of care. In November 2004 I got a job and kept it for a whole 3 months before getting fired in January 2005. Got another job in May 2005 and have kept that one to this day, nearly 7 years later.

It's not enough, though. I can't move out on my wages and I have no experience in anything to get a better job. To get experience I will need schooling, which I can't pay for. I am in a rut and I'm finding it hard to escape.

Even employed people like myself don't have the happiness you can get from working. I'm over it.

I hope the 3 of you can find some good jobs you're all capable of doing. :)
 
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JMiller

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Unfortunately I think all of us posters so far are in a proverbial rut.

I too don't have the proper experience to get the job I'd be happy with and don't have the money to get any worth while schooling - let alone support myself. All the jobs in my hometown that I would be comfortable with, are taken and the jobs like retail gives me a massive amount of anxiety - or probably like in last case, I'll just get fired again. :(
 
SilentBird

SilentBird

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I would rather be dead than be stuck in a degrading job. There are other ways to feel worth. To me, volunteering in a worthwhile cause is more rewarding.
 
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JMiller

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I agree. volunteering is definitely a worthwhile cause, but doesn't provide a means of independence. It's hard to feel any self worth when you can't help yourself, let alone trying to help someone else
 
OceanMist

OceanMist

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You aren't alone with the job struggle. Just to get this part time flower delivery job I work now, I had to apply at 31 different places.

I almost feel unemployed because I'm not getting nearly enough hours to be able to have my own place. My parents are leaving me and my bro the house for the year so I'm not really worried about it right now, I guess I'm lucky.

The problem is that most of these jobs suck. I mean, what if I don't get another delivery job? There's no way I'm working behind a register at a gas station all day. That many people would take it's toll on me. I don't have a college degree so I'm stuck with only certain jobs that I can work. I can't afford college either, and loans aren't worth the risk because of my employment struggles.

You know I've worked 15 different jobs b4? Lost every single one of them.
 
lurknomore

lurknomore

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I'm not unemployed, but I am in a rut- working two basically minimum wage jobs just to make ends meet, although I have finished school and have a Bachelors and a Masters degree. There just don't seem to be many opportunities out there, and even if there are, I'm barely trying to look because even thinking about going through an interview makes me sick to my stomach- I haven't had an interview in a couple of years. Even when I work up the motivation to put in applications- not just in my career field, but for other low-skill jobs like the one I have (but hoping for a better work environment and even slightly better wage), I don't get chosen to come in and interview anyway. It's really depressing.
 
recluse

recluse

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Been unemployed since October because i was too shy/lacking in confidence to do my job. I was basically forced from my job and felt i had little option but to resign. Now my benefits have been stopped due to me ''not having a valid reason to leave the job''::(:

I've applied to go back to college in September and i will get a government grant, but it will be measly and without a part time job i will be in the s##t.
 
twiggle

twiggle

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JMiller said:
I was laid off from my clerk job at the end of last year because basically I was "too quiet" (SA) although I was there for 4 months.
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This is ridiculous, is that even an acceptable reason to lay somebody off? I could understand if your job was a clown at kid's parties or something but surely if you're getting on with the work and doing it well it shouldn't matter how quiet you are.

I hate this idea that it's a bad thing to be quiet at work, I've always had the 'you're so quiet!' line at all my jobs, is it so bad to just want to go and get on with stuff and not want to sit talking about what was on t.v last night?

I hope you manage to find something else soon. Same for all of you who are looking.
 
recluse

recluse

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OceanMist said:
You aren't alone with the job struggle. Just to get this part time flower delivery job I work now, I had to apply at 31 different places.

I almost feel unemployed because I'm not getting nearly enough hours to be able to have my own place. My parents are leaving me and my bro the house for the year so I'm not really worried about it right now, I guess I'm lucky.

The problem is that most of these jobs suck. I mean, what if I don't get another delivery job? There's no way I'm working behind a register at a gas station all day. That many people would take it's toll on me. I don't have a college degree so I'm stuck with only certain jobs that I can work. I can't afford college either, and loans aren't worth the risk because of my employment struggles.

You know I've worked 15 different jobs b4? Lost every single one of them.
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I feel your pain. How did you lose your jobs? I've left two jobs, most recently because i was kind of forced to leave. I think it looks bad when i am applying for jobs.
 
lurknomore

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twiggle said:
I hate this idea that it's a bad thing to be quiet at work, I've always had the 'you're so quiet!' line at all my jobs, is it so bad to just want to go and get on with stuff and not want to sit talking about what was on t.v last night?
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I find it kind of comical sometimes how the managers want the employees to be sociable, but get mad when the work doesn't get done because they're being "too" sociable (although, it's usually with other coworkers rather than the customers). While us quiet ones get all the work done without much distraction and receive barely any credit or recognition. It really sucks.
 
OceanMist

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recluse said:
I feel your pain. How did you lose your jobs? I've left two jobs, most recently because i was kind of forced to leave. I think it looks bad when i am applying for jobs.
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Let's see, I got fired from at least 3 of them, got laid off at one, and quit the others because of SA and/or immaturity.

It sucks because I finally matured enough and had a job I could handle that was full time, then I get laid off. That hit me like a train when that happened, and yes, giving up crossed my mind.

But here I am, still trying. I guess if I want my own apartment I have to keep trying. I'm sick of being dependent mama's boy, no offense to other people like that.

The whole process sucks. Looking for a job is a hassle, then the job becomes so boring when I get it and then sometimes I even have issues with co-workers. It's a lose-lose situation. I'd rather have the money, though.
 
cosmosis

cosmosis

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I hated having to find a job. I am horrible at job interviews. I just can't speak confidently about what I'm good at. I ended up having to get a low paying job through a temp agency. It was not fair because I'm a hard worker and I could never get the chance to prove it.

I work from home now though. It took a few years before I made enough to quit my job. Sometimes I do miss the simple structure of a job though. There are quite a few opportunities to make money online if you can think a little creatively.
 
ROBOTS

ROBOTS

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I've never had a job other than work experience, but I guess I can say I haven't been doing anything since June (when I left college. I can't go back there)
 
WeirdyMcGee

WeirdyMcGee

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I always feel like my family members are disappointed in me because I'm not good at anything and my sister is an executive business woman in the city.
Even my brother works and does well at his jobs because he's so outgoing and not physically and emotionally fatigued, like me.

I'm just disappointed in myself, I guess.
 
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