How many people on this forum live on their own

[Waybuloo]

44 and live with my parents. It doesn't help that my job only pays me $45k a year and will never give me a promotion. So for me, looking for other work that doesn't stress me out, aggravate my phobias and allows me to live comfortably is a full time chore. With my parents, I get meals, cable, my laundry done and them of course, so I'm not alone. I'm not financially in a place to think of anything else and having no friends, no where to go anyway.

ONLY $45? That's a decent amount. You must have expensive tastes or you live in a rich neighbourhood. If you live at home and don't have to pay rent or mortgage, or food and household expenses, then it's a very good amount to live on.

 

[dancingintherain]

I'm 19 and still living with my mum which I don't mind at all! Without my mother I'll have no one. She's my best friend =)
my older sister moved out though. I'm envious of her independance. ..

 

[Griffin]

Living with my mother. Social life has died a death - can't really bring friends over, no late nights out - though I save a lot in terms of rent and going out.

Pluses and minuses as with many things. I don't mind it, but I do want to move out when I have a job that pays me well enough.

 

[PhantomPod]

I'm 24 and I still live with my parents. I've been thinking about moving out soon, but right now I just want to stay living here a bit longer to save up more money.

I do feel like getting out on my own would be good for me. Right now I still feel like I'm living like a teenager in high school, even though I'm an adult now. I'd like to be more independent and live on my own. I don't want to live with any roommates though, I just want it to be me, my dog, and my cat.

 

[OceanMist]

I have like 2 or 3 goals in life, and one of those is to be able to support myself financially and move out of my parents house. I used to have my own apartment but I messed that up. Right now, I work 15 hrs a week at a minimum wage job so there is no way i could move out. I need another job.

My bro told me that he had like 3 of his friends that are 23 and live with their parents now after college. No it's not that uncommon, doesn't make me want to stay though.

 

[gwennaelle]

I'm 33 and have been living alone, sans roommates for 10 years. It's a small apartment but it's mine, it's quiet, and it's my favorite place to be.
Granted, it's only helped isolate myself even more but that's a continual work in progress. Sigh.

 

[YellowBird]

23 and i live with my parents,but there are a lot of people my age without social anxiety who work and earn a satisfactory wage and still live with their parents.

 

[Waybuloo]

There is no taboo these days about living with your parents. Even if you are in your 30s it's understandable. In places which are dead ends for school leavers and graduates, what do you really expect? This applies to all sorts of people including ones with qualifications and experience. We are in a recession and possibly heading for a depression, so that's the last thing you should chew over about. Unless of course if you can't stand your parents.

 

[Island_chic]

44 and live with my parents. It doesn't help that my job only pays me $45k a year and will never give me a promotion. So for me, looking for other work that doesn't stress me out, aggravate my phobias and allows me to live comfortably is a full time chore. With my parents, I get meals, cable, my laundry done and them of course, so I'm not alone. I'm not financially in a place to think of anything else and having no friends, no where to go anyway.

I moved out of my parents house 9 years ago. Make twice less than what you posted. Don't get all the perks like I have no cable or washer/dryer. I have mostly no friends and am pretty lonely. I go through a lot of stress and am so much stronger than I use to be.

I plan on moving out of state to about 2,000 + miles away. Living on your own is healthy and eventuality your parents or whomever won't be around as the aging process occurs. It is crucial mentally and physically to learn how to survive. You don't want be be surprised with a lot of things at one time.

My parents made me do things that I didn't want to because of my anxiety and social problems and had they not id been much worse off.

Here is a saying that I refer to from time to time:

If you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got.

A great way to start anything is at a small, slow pace.

 

[OvidiuDanut]

ONLY $45? That's a decent amount. You must have expensive tastes or you live in a rich neighbourhood. If you live at home and don't have to pay rent or mortgage, or food and household expenses, then it's a very good amount to live on.

Shocked too It must be really expensive in UK if one cannot afford to live on his own with 3000 quid per month. I earn about 10 times less and afford to live on my own. Weird! I'd be rich over here with a wage like that!

 

[Fighter86]

I would love to live on my own, but either renting or buying property where I am now is expensive (esp. so for buying). I couldn't afford to rent an entire apartment and would hate renting just a room since I would need to share with other people the lounge, kitchen etc. and that would make me uncomfortable.


I think I would enjoy living alone so then I would have freedom to do what I would like to do as opposed to my current situation.

 

[StandingJelly]

Actually, I can't wait to be able to live on my own.

Of course I need to take care of the first few steps. Finishing my degree, getting work, getting stable income, then look around for the best place to live.

 

[Generical]

I'd like to move out do grocery shopping, manage my money...realise damn everything is expensive. Just seems more worthwhile than being at home, a step forward although quite possibly a step back if things go wrong. If i lose my job i'd be screwed and it's not very certain right now either but would be sweet.

Maybe when friends are back form traveling/uni they'll be an opportunity to house share, although i like the idea of having my own place, living with people will most likely be better for me.

 

[Waybuloo]

I've not lived with my mum since I was 21. It is much better.

 

[setmefree]

I'm 25 and live in my own apartment right now, but I'm done studying soon and have to move in a month... will probably have to move in with my bf or parents for a while until (or if) I get a job. I have lived in shared apartments at four different periods in my life (shared bathroom and kitchen) in order to try and beat my social anxiety.

The first time I never ever left my room and survived on dry bread.

The second time I lived with a friend and only went into the kitchen if she came with me.

The third time I went into the kitchen and bathroom if it sounded like nobody was in there (which sometimes meant I had to talk to my roommates, who were very nice actually).

The fourth time I locked myself into my room for 2 days, then my roomates (one french and one polish girl) invited me to drink wine with them and play cards, and it was a lot of fun and I could live there quite comfortably after that. Unfortunately they moved out after a year, and I was unfortunate enough to get the worst roomate ever known to mankind. She treated me horribly, called and complained about me to the landlord for ridiculous made up reasons, brought friends home constantly (and they Always hung out in the kitchen), and was just... horrible. So I moved in to the apartment I live in now, alone

But to answer your question, how to deal with it: it's... a gradual process, I'd say, if anything. And you have to invent some survival methods for yourself in the beginning. When I moved to my first apartment (mentioned above) I piled up on things a lot (bread, toiletpaper etc) so I didn't have to go shopping too often. I never answered the door... The biggest issue living alone I think is making telephone calls, because sometimes you really have to, you can't escape it. It's good practice however, to live alone. And if you can find the strenght inside to face this horrible fear a bit, it might give you a push and help you get better