Did you ever think of " Surrendering" ?

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I mean what if you would just let go and surrender to your anxieties.In the long run I definitely believe this works..... fighting it makes it worst. For the last 2 1/2 years I have seen plenty of therapist/counselor/doctors/psychologist with no progress and I even isolate myself more now. Some days I just feel like saying **** it and just go with the flow even if its comfortable. 10 years of this **** is enough for me......
 
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DeadmanWalking

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I don't ever plan on surrendering to my anxiety. I rule myself and no one else, nor will I allow anyone or anything else to rule me. It's taking me a while to beat it, but I will one day. To reach my dreams, I have to be at least a little social.

Though, I wonder, has anything happened to you to make you want to quit?
 
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Im not totally isolating myself but allot more than usual. I just want to take off that "mask" that I always have.
 
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SeniorRedrings

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I have given in.
One of the realities someone with severe agoraphobia has to admit is that eventually they will click into waiting to die mode.
It's not as bad as it sounds but surrendering to the truth of your situation can bring out anger in informed outside observers.
Some will always see the senselessness in inaction,never the value
Nothing innate about oneself should be fought against,not your sexuality,personality and most definitely that which makes you ill.
There is no point engaging in a fruitless struggle to please the sensibilities of others.
 
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DeadmanWalking said:
I don't ever plan on surrendering to my anxiety. I rule myself and no one else, nor will I allow anyone or anything else to rule me. It's taking me a while to beat it, but I will one day. To reach my dreams, I have to be at least a little social.

Though, I wonder, has anything happened to you to make you want to quit?
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When I say to surrender its more in the sense of : Alright now im gonna do what I want to do even tho It feels really uncomfortable. When you fight your irrational anxieties you give it a purpose to even exist. If you wait to " feel better" you are going to miss so many things in between. I have and thats why I want to surrender and live.......lol krap I need courage now.
 
DeadmanWalking

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MR.Wonderful said:
When I say to surrender its more in the sense of : Alright now im gonna do what I want to do even tho It feels really uncomfortable. When you fight your irrational anxieties you give it a purpose to even exist. If you wait to " feel better" you are going to miss so many things in between. I have and thats why I want to surrender and live.......lol krap I need courage now.
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However, if you don't fight your anxiety, it'll always exist, haunting your shadow for as long as you live. You've got to face it head-on to eternally kill it; it may not take as long as you wish it to take, but, like with all things, it takes time. What do you wish to do in life? Do you think you can make it happen being under the oppression of your anxiety?
 
coyote

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bamboo is one of the strongest things in the world

it bends when the wind blows
 
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DeadmanWalking

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coyote said:
bamboo is one of the strongest things in the world

it bends when the wind blows
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Um, may you please explain that sentence to me? I know there's a hidden meaning to it because I heard it before; I just forgot what it meant.
 
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DeadmanWalking said:
However, if you don't fight your anxiety, it'll always exist, haunting your shadow for as long as you live. You've got to face it head-on to eternally kill it; it may not take as long as you wish it to take, but, like with all things, it takes time. What do you wish to do in life? Do you think you can make it happen being under the oppression of your anxiety?
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Oppression and surrendering and two completely different animals. When you surrender you don't feed your anxiety anymore. My anxiety was never as strong as it is now until I started "fighting" it.

" the fearful man can never let go"

http://www.oshoquotes.net/2010/06/osho-quotes-on-let-go-osho-on-art-of-let-go/
 
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SeniorRedrings said:
Anxiety stems form the effort of fighting what we feel does it not?
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That's also my point. Anxiety is pretty much you wanting to be in a future place. Its IMPOSSIBLE to reach it if you don't live it now in the moment. Some people say: When I get rid of my anxiety then that's when I will do this. That's bull poo !
 
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DeadmanWalking said:
I'm lost now. I think I misunderstood what you said. Run it by me one more time in an easier-to-understand form, please.
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Well actually I think we had the same point. What I meant is that anxiety cannot rule my everyday life. I have to take control and choose to live life and not listen to my anxieties. Yeah?
 
Nyxy

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Instead of treating social anxiety and avoidant personality disorder as a "disease" that must either be eradicated or surrendered to, why not just embrace them for what they are so that you can feasibly work with them? I have spent nearly a decade of my life trying so desperately hard to fight these conditions in their severest forms, often with small gains followed by regressions. Only in the past few years have I decided to embrace them for what they are, allowing me to finally take it a step further in loving myself for who I am and what I choose to be defined as, to make the world bend for me without always having it the other way around.
 
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