I'm not overweight and have had one relationship my whole life that lasted about 2 months. Being overweight isn't the biggest thing. Although I will admit it does play a big part in self confidence. I've seen overweight people get in relationships with real hot people of the opposite sex. It just takes self confidence in one's self and takes inner security. Just my opinion.
I Never Get Any Attention From The Girls...
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I'm not overweight and have had one relationship my whole life that lasted about 2 months. Being overweight isn't the biggest thing. Although I will admit it does play a big part in self confidence. I've seen overweight people get in relationships with real hot people of the opposite sex. It just takes self confidence in one's self and takes inner security. Just my opinion.
JamesSmith
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If you don't have the guts to even go to a bar, then that's just totally giving up. If you refuse to go out, then no you don't have an advantage and you will never get a man unless some miracle occurs. Most people are willing to go out if they want a b/f like it sounds like you do. There is much less pressure on you because you don't have to start conversations with men.
But yeah, if you don't ever go out, then you aren't at an advantage. But that also means you are the only one to blame for being alone if you don't go out. Don't expect to get a b/f if you never go out. The same goes for men trying to get a g/f.
JamesSmith
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I jog on a narrow road w/out sidewalks. The horror of that!
I know what you mean w/ the public thing. I've had my share of people being angry because i don't give them the hello they insecurely "have to have." Look at it this way, if you are jogging by them it won't take as long to pass them as walking. I also look at it as if I saw someone else jogging, I'd totally understand if they looked unusual or didn't even look at me. They are doing something a lot more strenuous than walking, they have the right to be anti-social.
Pookah
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Dude, you have SA right? I think you missed the entire point either way though. Both sexes here are having trouble due to SA. If you are gonna tell a female with SA "get over it and go to a bar" I will tell you to "get over it and talk to a girl."
I get attention, but i never know what to say, and get awkward and nervous and sometimes stutter...so it doesn't last long:
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:I get attention, but i never know what to say, and get awkward and nervous and sometimes stutter...so it doesn't last long:
^ This = Me.
JamesSmith
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I think you are missing the point. Going to a bar is a lot easier than going to a bar AND talking to girl that you don't know. All women have to do is one step while men have to do two steps. Starting a conversation w/ a stranger is harder than sitting and waiting to be approached. I'm sorry if I sounded like I was saying get over it, I do feel for the women w/ SA and know myself that it is tough to deal with.
Pookah
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I would never go to a bar, so it is moot. What would I have in common with a bar-goer? That isn't my scene at all. I like libraries. Not supposed to chat in those.
I just think that telling a woman its easy for her to get hit on whilst its hard for a male to talk isn't helpful and does not illustrate a difference in difficulty between sexes.
I just think that telling a woman its easy for her to get hit on whilst its hard for a male to talk isn't helpful and does not illustrate a difference in difficulty between sexes.
JamesSmith
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I would never go to a bar, so it is moot. What would I have in common with a bar-goer? That isn't my scene at all. I like libraries. Not supposed to chat in those.
I just think that telling a woman its easy for her to get hit on whilst its hard for a male to talk isn't helpful and does not illustrate a difference in difficulty between sexes.
I guess I'm just angry because it's no much harder to start a conversation with a stranger and go out than just go out and have someone walk up to you and they start the conversation. There are other places to meet guys than bars. Social clubs, church, newspapers, college, work, friends, vacation, gym, parks or an airplane. If you just stick to libraries then yeah, you'll have trouble meeting guys. I'm shocked you don't get that going out AND starting a conversation with a stranger is much harder than just going out and waiting to be approached. I wish we could trade bodies with each other. We could find out what it's like to be the opposite sex.
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Even if you had some magical way to prove once and for all to everyone and beyond argument that being a guy is harder than being a girl, what does that get you? What will you gain from this?
do you uncomfortable when people flirt with you?
I do, then I feel like an idiot b/c I usually make a fool out of myself.
JamesSmith
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I just want people to hear my opinion. That's why a lot of people post in forums. They want to post their thoughts and be heard. Plus, I like getting information from a woman's perspective on this issue. I'm interested in hearing what they think of this.
Pookah
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I will have to admit something to you now that may shock you. Most of the times I've had anything at all to do with guys that was friendship or the potential to be otherwise was never from them hitting on me. It was from me talking amongst the people I was with and branching out to chat and exchange opinions with them. There was no out of the blue who talks first rather it was a gradual warming up to mutual conversation.
That is exactly how I feel. I feel like I will make a fool of myself no matter what I talk about or what I do. So I end up being nervous, stuttering in speech etc.
Yeah, you're not alone lol.
JamesSmith
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And did you have intimate relationships with any of those guys?
JamesSmith
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Hmm, i would put hanging out with friends in a similar category as going out. I think you are trying to say a relationship could spark from just hanging out w/ friends and I think you are right, it could. What I was saying is going out to meet other people besides friends opens up more options. It sounded like I was trying to tell you what to do earlier, I shouldn't do that. Do whatever you want, it's your life. You could meet a friend of a friend you like, who knows?