They do stare.

[Falkor]

by the way, people just want sensation, spread the news.. palls.. spread the news.. :/, people always want something to talk about, so they tell everything they see and hear. So if you act a little different, you probably be the next news thread, but .. lol... we aren't famous yet... so it couldn't be that bad =]

 

[Meatballs]

I stare at people... and it's so often accidental. I'm probably thinking about getting some sausages from Tesco on the way home while I'm looking at them, NOT judging them!

On the otherhand... I'm not perfect, and yeah, sometimes I do stare at people, and (yes this sounds brutal, but it's just honesty), I do judge people. Complete strangers. I judge them for 2 seconds then I move on and think nothing of it ever again. Everybody judges/gets judged, it's reality.

The key is to just not care. Some random stranger in the street should not be able to affect your emotions. I know it's easier said than done though, right? I've tried to work on this recently... and I'm getting there with it, just very slowly. Just try and put it into perspective

 

[Johno]

I get you... I hate eye contact.... If someone looks me in the eye for too long then god help them.... LOL In the same vain, staring people annoy me .... I just feel that people stare.... I do.... Let's not take it personally...

 

[dutchguy]

Ha, I know the feeling of being stared at. I hate it especially when people are looking in my direction and laughing at the same time; it always feels like they're laughing at me.

On the other hand, I personally only stare at people I find attractive, so if you ever catch me staring at you, it's a good sign

 

[zlench]

If your looking at them there most likely looking at you.

 

[Waybuloo]

Yeah they do stare, it's true, it's all true. I find it hard to NOT look at anyone on the train or bus myself, i'd have to consciously dictate to myself look in that thin space there between the two heads, move your line of sight one inch and it's over.. it's life and death . Working people in rush hour usually are not that rude and would look away when you look back, but there are some that are pretty thick and think less about staring you in the face. I just returned from a holiday in a coastal town and I got stared there constantly. I was on a bus and the staring got pretty intense in there, when I got the courage to look at them, usually disapprovingly (cause from the corner of my eye I notice them staring), they usually look away or smile at me. The FOB immigrants are the worst because they are usually oblivious to the possible embarassment caused by staring.

My tip for anyone who can stare back without twitching? Stare back until they look away, look them straight in the eye, or say take a picture it'll last longer. They need telling off.

 

[vj288]

I wouldn't take it personally. I mean I feel like people are watching me all the time, especially when I screw up. But at the same time I find myself staring into space all the time so I can't get mad at other people for maybe doing the same thing.
The worst thing is when I'm zoned out and when I come too I realize I've been looking right at someone and they know it and are staring back...

 

[xxaimsxx]

Take it as a compliment. Its better than being ignored. Your probably unique looking or just good looking.

 

[Waybuloo]

Take it as a compliment. Its better than being ignored. Your probably unique looking or just good looking.

I would rather be ignored, I do anything but blend in except in a big big city street.

 

[CosmicNeurotica]

Just walking down the street isn't much of a big deal. We pass and that's that.
It's being on a crowded train or bus that always gets me. That's when all I can think about is "ok crap they're staring. I can't look stupid."
And you always notice certain things about certain people, and you know that they must be looking and thinking the same thing I am.

 

[Fear of people]

I agree ToolShuggah...the stares really P**S me off in shopping centes and other public places. Can't even go any where these day's...without F**K**G rude retards staring at me...as if I'm F**K**G weird looking...something or another.

 

[PGee]

I understand completely. Sometimes it's like I can physically feel their stares, like frickin' laser beams. As I become more aware of their stares, I worry more about my posture or if I am doing some nervous fidgeting with my hands. People tell me I am physically attractive (I don't consider myself as such), but I'd rather be invisible most of the time.

 

[CPA23]

huge shopping malls...I find are the worse for people staring at you and all I want to do is get the F**K out of there when this happens. Basically...when I notice some body staring at me...OMG...what the F**K is he or she staring at me for...am I weird or ugly looking, I think to myself.

You're right about malls. It's just like wtf are you looking at and why are you looking at me. Like other people said, it could be a number of reasons why people look at each other. I do think it's rude if it is done for too long.

 

[tweetebird]

I understand this completely. I take great care to not look at people, because I dread accidentally making eye contact with someone. Sometimes I try to fight this concern by actually looking around, and of course there is always someone who actually is staring at me lol...I don't really understand why being looked at is, and always has been, so uncomfortable for me, but it is. Can I ask a question? Do you think maybe you look uncomfortable when in public? I think this is something that attracts attention to me sometimes. Maybe this is what is grabbing people's attention, out of basic curiosity or maybe even genuine concern? People can try to rationalize this fear away "no one really cares that much about you, quit worrying so much about what others think, blah blah" but we all know this is beyond logic. I also think most people are completely unaware of how invasive it is to stare at someone. This goes beyond culture rules, in my opinion.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

The concept of rudeness varies from culture to culture. I was always taught that staring at handicap, or "less-fortunate" individuals was rude/ignorant.

Staring feels invasive and it used to unnerve me terribly, but I've been guilty of it myself to a small degree so I don't get mad when others do it. I don't want to feel anxious when I'm out so it is in my best interest to not let the staring get to me.