no friends..no social life...=*(

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luck254 said:
i never want to meet somebody in the streets, since i left higschool, i don't have any social life in the real world, i just can have it in the internet... it sounds weird i know :/
people don't make fun of me, they don't know me... but, whem i go alone to the movies... some groups of friends and couples look at me and they might be thinkin "what the hell with this guy?":confused:
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thats not true, when someone looks at you thats you thinking that, everyone looks at everyone throughout the day anyway, it is hard however to not think they are looking at you for no reason but you get use to it
 
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mndigi said:
To the original poster,

Maybe in Canada it's tough being a recluse. People expect you to be outgoing, good looking, perfect... Are you from Asia? I am from an Asian country and here in my country it's much easier not having friends. Well, what I mean to say is that if you are in school and have no friends then other kids do point you out here too and talk behind your back and things. But from what I have observed of North American societies in films and TV, it's absolutely brutal there. Sometimes I think if I was born or lived in North America as a high school kid, the hair on my back would have always been standing (lol)
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You shouldn't believe what you see in American films, they have a way of stereotyping people to the point where it's just not realistic anymore. From my experience from high school. Everthing that i saw on movies and tv shows was completely untrue. I mean the worst that i seen on is maybe some fist fights and that's all. There was no wedgie or people getting pushed in lockers. Maybe it was the fact that my high school didn't have much cacasians as other high school.
 
Argamemnon

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not-alone said:
I have no social life ., because i choose to be alone. I dont like how I change around people, eg,......I get frustrated with myself after social event because of what i did or didnt say....did or didnt do or how i thought id come across to them.
I alway feel like crap because i felt i just wasnt my real self.
Thats why i choose to be alone.........its not how THEY make me feel........its how I allow myself to rip myself apart instead of just being ME.
AHhhhhhhhhhhhh
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Exactly !!! I hate being an actor, but I have to when I'm around people. I always feel exhausted after meeting people.
 
PhantomPod

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Yes, I'm afraid of people finding out that I have no friends and no life. I can't stand when people at work ask me what I'm doing for the upcoming weekend or what I did this past weekend. Or a couple people asked me what I was doing for St. Patrick's Day and I was just like, "Oh, uh, nothing too much really..."
 
Errordotocx

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PhantomPod said:
Yes, I'm afraid of people finding out that I have no friends and no life. I can't stand when people at work ask me what I'm doing for the upcoming weekend or what I did this past weekend. Or a couple people asked me what I was doing for St. Patrick's Day and I was just like, "Oh, uh, nothing too much really..."
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I'm celebrating my birthday for St.Patrick's day. =P Maybe i'll get drunk as **** too...dunno.
 
enchantress24

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I just don't understand why people even give a shit in the beggining. Who really cares about other people's social life? I can give a rat's ass about who's hanging out with who or people on myspace! For god's sake, what are we, 15??? First of all, people on myspace are mostly stupid, moronic high school students looking for a booty call, altering their pictures so they look better and adding hundreds of random strangers just so the rest of the world can think they are cool. Maybe if they didn't spend so much time on myspace, the grade point average wouldnt be so low.
As for the rest of us, we cannot let what others think of us make us feel like losers. People who judge others this way are pretty much feeling like losers themselves cause they have to put other people down. Please, don't feel bad cause you have social anxiety. I have it from time to time and based on my experiences being in social situations, being alone is not such a bad thing. You guys are not missing anything great.
 
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Errordotocx

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I'm going to have to disagree with your entire post altogether Enchantress.

enchantress24 said:
Who really cares about other people's social life? I can give a rat's ass about who's hanging out with who or people on myspace!
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Then I guess I might as well just forget trying to stay in contact with friends that have moved away or someone that I have just recently met? It also lets me know when certain bands go on tour so I can see if they are headed to my town by chance. I also DO in fact care who is hanging out with who because maybe I can drop them a message or text and see if there going to be doing something.

enchantress24 said:
First of all, people on myspace are mostly stupid, moronic high school students looking for a booty call, altering their pictures so they look better and adding hundreds of random strangers just so the rest of the world can think they are cool.
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I'm not stupid, i'm not in high-school, booty call is a different story. I also don't edit my pictures...theres no reason. I also add random strangers I find interesting as well as bands, comedians, actors...etc I don't see the big deal. I also do think i'm cool.

enchantress24 said:
...,being alone is not such a bad thing.
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I honestly have to disagree. But this is a personal opinion.

I just don't see what the big deal is. I used to bash Myspace and all those others for the same exact reasons and then one day I decided to use it and it's not all that bad. I can keep track of friends, see what people are doing, customize my layout to my liking, meet new people and i've compiled a playlist I love to listen too. I do in fact enjoy it.
 
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don't forget when there is nothing to talk about, people ask these retorical questions because it can get the ball rolling and lead to other subjects
i think you only hate it becaue socalising hasn't worked out for you? or meeting strangers just isn't right for you?
i do agree on the myspace bit tho
 
MotherWolff

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Whenever someone wonders if I have any friends or not I sometimes say that they're all overseas, which is kind of true in my case.
 
enchantress24

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Missed my point altogether. I ain't trying to bash any sites like myspace or facebook. It's not the sites themselves, it's what they represent to some people in certain extents. What I'm trying to put across is that people shouldn't be made to feel less just because they don't have hundreds of friends and a way to prove it. And why is it that we have to even prove ourselves to these people? Why do they care in the first place? Are you seriously going to tell me that you would put someone down or call someone a loser just because they're loners or just have one or two friends? I doubt it.

As far as socializing goes...I don't know if that question was for me or not...I can socialize well. I have friends but honestly I rather spend the day with my dog than with certain people.
 
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Can't say I'm embarrassed by my lack of friends or social life, used to have a number of friends when I was younger but lost touch with them after leaving school/college & now I've only got the 1 that I see regularly.

Even though I've been using the internet to `socialise` for years at the moment I've no online friends either, hopefully that'll change once I get to know a few of you on here :)
 
Errordotocx

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enchantress24 said:
Missed my point altogether. I ain't trying to bash any sites like myspace or facebook. It's not the sites themselves, it's what they represent to some people in certain extents. What I'm trying to put across is that people shouldn't be made to feel less just because they don't have hundreds of friends and a way to prove it. And why is it that we have to even prove ourselves to these people? Why do they care in the first place? Are you seriously going to tell me that you would put someone down or call someone a loser just because they're loners or just have one or two friends? I doubt it.

As far as socializing goes...I don't know if that question was for me or not...I can socialize well. I have friends but honestly I rather spend the day with my dog than with certain people.
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I suppose I could of missed the idea all together, but that was how I interpreted it.

As far as making fun of people who have no friends goes, you wouldn't ever catch me doing such thing. I have problems myself making friends, but I do still make them. Where in my post did you get the idea I was suggesting making fun of people for not having friends?
 
Sloth

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My friends are living all over the country now, at university, married etc. So it's hard to stay in touch. I just say that, and people seem to understand.
But truthfully, I've only got 3 friends now and I'm hopeless at maintaining those friendships, because I'm ashamed of who I am and how they see me.
 
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