Daughter so down this time of year

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ukchick

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My daughter finds this time of year exra difficult with xmas. She goes to a Catholic school and hugs/ handshaking are a daily assembly event. Today I actually agreed to collect her from school claiming she has a doctors appointment just so she can avoid another unbearable assembly. She tries sooooooo hard to not avoid these situations,I'm so proud of her, but it's all getting ontop of her at the moment.
Sorry just needed to vent with people who totally understand how this horrible thing affects your confidence and ability to sometimes deal with normal daily situations.
Thanks
 
WeirdyMcGee

WeirdyMcGee

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I don't like hugs or handshakes, either-- I'll opt out to bow my head.
Although our reasons for not wanting to hug or shake hands with someone are different; they can be avoided the same way while still remaining polite.

Perhaps this is something she could get into the habit of doing as well?
People are aware of germaphobia (not that she has germaphobia but it could be a good excuse) for many reasons (Howie Mandel, being one) so if she excused herself and bowed her head instead, most people may not think anything of it and once it becomes habit and everyone is aware that is what she prefers; this Christmas thing may not be as bad as she seems to think it is now?
Just an idea~
 
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ukchick

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Good idea, I guess it's just difficult when you are surrounded by many people and so can't really say anything.
To be honest,I'm just using the assembly thing as an example-the possibility of coming into slight physical contact just fills her with absolute dread.
I'm so bad at explaining things.ha.
Oh and I lived in Canada for a short time years ago,a beautiful place.
 
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Sprawling

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I have tried to avoid those hand holding event related thing for years. I remember the when I first started intopheresis and I held my new girlfriends hand It was the most amazing thing I ever experienced. Her hand had moisture and mine was completely dry. It's weird to experience damp hands from someone else. These days sometimes my hands are dry other days they are moist. I feel for your daughter. It must be torture for her.
 
beckiboo

beckiboo

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Thats unfortunately what HH does to you, makes you dread the most normal situations that someone else wouldnt think twice about...let her know there is hope for her though, has she seen her doctor recently? can he/she refer her to a dermatologist at a hospital? There are options, she could try iontophresis or gylcopyrrolate? failing that there is ets surgery, but I wouldnt recommend that as it can have side effecta. just wish I could give her some hope at this time of year :(
 
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Paul Vang

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There is no hope, she must understand that there are 3 types of people she will encounter in her life
1. Willing to touch her and not care that she has hyperhidrosis
2. Unwilling to touch, scream "Ewww yuck!" if touched and proceed to bullying once they find out
3. Unwilling to touch but still willing to socially interact with her without physical contact
 
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