Anyone else find it hard to look people they find attractive in the eye?
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boxingrooster
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sometimes i get the huevos to look at them in the eye. other times if their too beautiful i look away and immediately think dam i will never get that.
JackOfSpades
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I do too. Practicing some DBT and helpful mindsets is helping me with this a lot lately. Holding that relaxed eye contact.
chibiXphantom
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no, i tend to have more of a problem with staring at them >_< then feeling awkard for staring
Articulate
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I find the opposite problem. I struggle really severely with staring at girls I find attractive. It's such a powerful compulsion, but I'm really not doing it in an inappropriate way. It's not like I'm staring at their legs or anything. In nice parts of London this causes me lots of heartache, because I think when you're isolated alot you're sort of starved for human contact. Also when I pluck up the courage to go to a bar by myself this causes me problems aswell. It's sort of involuntary, but girls get uncomfortable quickly, and their boyfriends/acquaintances might get aggressive!:sad: Hard to stare at people when you're alone and not come accross the wrong way.
THeCARS1979
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yeah its hard for me with an attractive girl in that case, i just may not know what to say and i dont like making it obvious really but they probably know something
Earthcircle
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If you're not engaged in a conversation, I think you're not supposed to look twice. In fact, even looking once is a bit iffy.
Sea Bass
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I find it hard to look at people I find attractive in the eye. I once fell for a girl at work and would think about her a lot. The thing was that even though I thought about her a lot and those thoughts incited emotions of affection inside me, I had a hard time remembering her face. I might as well have fallen in love with the headless horseman. It's been years now since I was around this girl and still to this day I can't remember the color of her eyes.
FriendlyShadow
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I kind of have that problem. I see girls around me who look pretty and I actually tend to stare at them for a few minutes until I look away. There's guys who I find personally attractive on Tv/movies only who have the feminine, big eyes,"nerdish" kind of baby face and I end up googling their pics just to look at them.
I find it hard to look anyone in the eye! I don't know what it stems from but clearly i am afraid of people! I think what happens with me is that I have an internal conversation when I look at people about what they are thinking about and I can't focus on what I am speaking about so I look away to disrupt that other voice in my head. I got literally lost in their eyes (good looking or not) and can't focus on what I was talking about. I get so damn awkward so I look away....which I know is also awkward. I'm a mess!
Not just attractive people - but people, period. I hope that people don't think that the reason I have trouble sustaining eye-contact with them is because I find them attractive - lol.
I think I'm more "intimidated" by things like one's bearing, personality, and status (unfortunately) - than attractiveness.
I think I'm more "intimidated" by things like one's bearing, personality, and status (unfortunately) - than attractiveness.