When you reject yourself because of rejection

Its so hard not to. And the worst kind is when someone doesnt actually reject you, but doesnt actually care about you or want you in their world much at all.

That who you are, what you look like - all of that is just not good enough- not interesting - not beautiful - youre none of that. And you begin to let it eat at you in every thought.

How do you reject rejection from other people?

Esp when you have been your best to those people. Its hard to move on, all you want to do is not be around anyone anymore because you figure they see what that person saw and they see what you now see. That your nothing etc. The thoughts in your mind.

Im just having such difficulty in trying to like myself anymore, trying to see my life as worthy. I dont have any back up from people for this so its even harder.

In cases like me you can't, you become very cynical with a nice helping of depression sprinkled on top

Learn the art of dismissal. Nope, not everyone's going to like you, you're not going to like everyone either. Be polite, and just maintain some boundaries with certain people..say like co-workers, and keep it strictly business when interacting. Polite, to the point, don't seek them out to engage unless there's a purpose. With social circles if you happen to be in one, even as a fringe member, these boundaries work there as well.
The moral of the story, use boundaries with people.

Yes it can be hard to in practice not let it all get to you. Boundaries have never been my strong point.

Im glad tho, that I have finally decided to let go of a toxic person in my life today. After yesterday I realise that to that person I was nothing really, regardless of reasons, so why should I actually keep some inner co-dependence thing going with this person - beating myself up, trying to change in order to fit a psychopathic person's world.
Im actually saying that I matter as it was killing me but I couldnt let go- but now I am letting go.

I just dont get people that are friends but not interested in you, your world- anything to do with you, like they just want you in their world to feel better about themselves - but only once in a blue moon actually even think of you. Those people are not friends.

grapevine said:

I just dont get people that are friends but not interested in you, your world- anything to do with you, like they just want you in their world to feel better about themselves - but only once in a blue moon actually even think of you. Those people are not friends.

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Also keep in mind that some people may only be interested in someone sexually. That would explain the sporadic interests. He could just have simply been pent up at the time but didnt want to just pounce on you as that could lead to jail time >.<

grapevine said:

I just dont get people that are friends but not interested in you, your world- anything to do with you, like they just want you in their world to feel better about themselves - but only once in a blue moon actually even think of you. Those people are not friends.

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I've experienced this around the people I've been with. I think a lot of people only want me around for two reasons: 1. They want to change me 2. They want me to be around them so that they can poke fun of me every chance they get. Like I've said in my previous threads before: Only very few people in this world are caring and supportibe. It's just that those few people, without a doubt, are the hardest to find in this world. The only time I bet people would actually give a damn is if I'm in some kind of serious injury or something, and it's funny because some people will actually react with compassion over somethig like that. If you're in any kind of serious/harmful situation, some people won't hesitate to help you. That's the only time when people do care.