We worry about 'little things' like people judging us

Sacrament

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And I think about how small it is to suffer from this when there are so much bigger things going on and actual things that people are suffering from, like my neighbor whose husband went through two cardiac arrests and has been unconscious for a week now, showing no signs of ever getting better.

Really puts things into perspective when I get home from work and she's talking to another neighbor, crying her eyes out and saying she doesn't know what to do with herself.
 

Phobo

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And I think about how small it is to suffer from this when there are so much bigger things going on and actual things that people are suffering from, like my neighbor whose husband went through two cardiac arrests and has been unconscious for a week now, showing no signs of ever getting better.

Really puts things into perspective when I get home from work and she's talking to another neighbor, crying her eyes out and saying she doesn't know what to do with herself.


Social phobia disorder and the debilitating effects it can have on a persons life, isn't a 'little thing' - or maybe in your case it is. You make ît sound like everyone who suffers from it aren't aware of other peoples problems but you'd be wrong.
 
I get what you're saying. We can be so full of our "little" issues of SA/SP/etc, that the "big" stuff out there doesn't get any of our attention.
 

Megaten

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Social phobia disorder and the debilitating effects it can have on a persons life, isn't a 'little thing' - or maybe in your case it is. You make ît sound like everyone who suffers from it aren't aware of other peoples problems but you'd be wrong.

Its not that the effects are little, but the things feared are little.
 

Sacrament

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Social phobia disorder and the debilitating effects it can have on a persons life, isn't a 'little thing' - or maybe in your case it is. You make ît sound like everyone who suffers from it aren't aware of other peoples problems but you'd be wrong.

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Phobo

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Your attempt to minimize and diminish peoples suffering is there. You should stop with your shortsighted, judgmental remarks and accept people expressing their pain instead.
 

Kiwong

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It's true. I have my physical health right now, but I am swamped by worries, some of which isn't real. Any day I could lose my physical health again, and I might think, well why did I waste so much thinking about such pointless worries.

Having said that being judged negatively and labelled, is no little thing, it is extremely damaging, and some people do not survive it.
 

awkwardamanda

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I don't like this attitude of calling this a "little thing." That's getting dangerously close to the "just get over it" crap. Knowing that somewhere, someone is in the hospital dying, isn't going to make me "snap out of it" and stop feeling like people are judging me. Some people have mild anxiety and for others it's crippling. It's not okay to dismiss someone's problems just because somebody else's are (in your opinion) worse. We all have our issues. Some people have more issues. Some people have worse issues. Sometimes there's no way to compare who's issues are worse. We don't just forfeit our right to have problems simply because someone else is worse off.
 

Sacrament

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I don't like this attitude of calling this a "little thing." That's getting dangerously close to the "just get over it" crap. Knowing that somewhere, someone is in the hospital dying, isn't going to make me "snap out of it" and stop feeling like people are judging me. Some people have mild anxiety and for others it's crippling. It's not okay to dismiss someone's problems just because somebody else's are (in your opinion) worse. We all have our issues. Some people have more issues. Some people have worse issues. Sometimes there's no way to compare who's issues are worse. We don't just forfeit our right to have problems simply because someone else is worse off.

Again, it's truly pointless to get so defensive when I wasn't diminishing the impact social anxiety has on a lot of people. I was comparing a situation where someone is afraid of being judged by others to a family who loses a loved one to sudden cardiac arrest.
 
OP didn't really mean to make SA/SP/etc to sound insignificant, as we all know from experience that's not the case, but was comparing it to "the big picture". And also he did put 'little things' in quotes, which meant he wasn't being completely literal.
 

dannyboy65

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I feel what he means is not that we should get over it but the idea that we are worrying about something others would think as a little thing. I think he is trying to say that it's strange that something so little to us can cause us such stress compared to his neighbor. He isn't saying get over it he's saying that he is curious to why we would feel this way to something seen to society as not a big deal, but to us its a very big deal. I sort of get where he's going at. I wouldn't be defensive he's not trying to offend you.
 
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