That phrase (thread title) pretty much sums up my experience and ability to talk to girls my age. A place can be full of good looking girls and i just cannot make a move whatsoever ::
It's like there's a invisible veil over me that instantly dismisses the thought of actually doing it before it even crosses my mind. I guess that's the fear of rejection or something.
It's just that i'm 20 soon, and yep you guessed, been single for 19 years so far (oh joy) :: and it's getting boring, i'm falling behind compared to people my age and it's very bad. So i want to do something about it, also i'd really like to say i had a girlfriend before turning 20 or i'd feel kinda lame.
It's silly but the most i can bring myself to do is grab a coffee and go sit alone in a bar/pub/restaurant (the place isn't totally beer orientated- i don't know what to class it as) with the hope that i might meet someone.
But i doubt anyone even notices me, or if they do, they probably think loner ::
It's basically like i have this thing that separates me from the rest of the world, i don't talk much 'cause of my shyness, i always look down, and find it hard to think about things to talk about. And this isn't exactly the best starting point to go find a girl is it?
I've been thinking.. dutch courage.. but i don't want to get into a bad habit and dependance of alcohol just to become comfortable around people. Plus i probably won't give off the best impression either, being sloshed (not completely, just to take the edge off :: )
It seems like i can't win. What can i do? How can i approach this? Baby steps?
It's like there's a invisible veil over me that instantly dismisses the thought of actually doing it before it even crosses my mind. I guess that's the fear of rejection or something.
It's just that i'm 20 soon, and yep you guessed, been single for 19 years so far (oh joy) :: and it's getting boring, i'm falling behind compared to people my age and it's very bad. So i want to do something about it, also i'd really like to say i had a girlfriend before turning 20 or i'd feel kinda lame.
It's silly but the most i can bring myself to do is grab a coffee and go sit alone in a bar/pub/restaurant (the place isn't totally beer orientated- i don't know what to class it as) with the hope that i might meet someone.
But i doubt anyone even notices me, or if they do, they probably think loner ::
It's basically like i have this thing that separates me from the rest of the world, i don't talk much 'cause of my shyness, i always look down, and find it hard to think about things to talk about. And this isn't exactly the best starting point to go find a girl is it?
I've been thinking.. dutch courage.. but i don't want to get into a bad habit and dependance of alcohol just to become comfortable around people. Plus i probably won't give off the best impression either, being sloshed (not completely, just to take the edge off :: )
It seems like i can't win. What can i do? How can i approach this? Baby steps?