Razzlecherry
Banned
I now live in a dorm for my freshman year at my University. I gotta say that I feel a lot more confident now that I'm away from home and on my own.
Would you move out for increased motivation?
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I've lived away from my parents' house since I was 18 (I'm 24 now), but I've always had roommates; it hasn't "motivated" me really, but I like it better than being with my parents. If you have a roommate then it might be good for your SA. Living completely alone would absolutely not help anything though.
EscapeArtist
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Glad to hear it! I hope to move out into a dorm in the next year or 2.
voodoochild16
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It is very expensive. Only do it if you can afford it. For me I am lucky. So moving out is financially possible for me thanks to that job, and the job is not stressful, so I'm very lucky.
Since I'm fully moved in now I feel alot more confident, and even though the dark depression haunts me from time to time (frequently), I am still able to motivate myself. Though it's not magic, it's also reinforced by past events in my life from being outgoing that was taken away from me that motivates me now.
I hope to be successful and I will keep trying, I'll update this post when I am fully successful, and before that other updates that are minor.
If you think you have that inner motivation within yourself from past experiences of outgoing ness taken away from you then I suggest you do this, otherwise don't bother, just accept, accept and accept.
Since I'm fully moved in now I feel alot more confident, and even though the dark depression haunts me from time to time (frequently), I am still able to motivate myself. Though it's not magic, it's also reinforced by past events in my life from being outgoing that was taken away from me that motivates me now.
I hope to be successful and I will keep trying, I'll update this post when I am fully successful, and before that other updates that are minor.
If you think you have that inner motivation within yourself from past experiences of outgoing ness taken away from you then I suggest you do this, otherwise don't bother, just accept, accept and accept.
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voodoochild16
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I would say that after 4 months of living on my own, that my opinion on "motivation" has changed.
Yes you can have more motivation while living on your own, but it depends on who it is and what your mindset is. It's not an automatic overnight *burst* of motivation, after moving out. It all depends on how bad you want to do something, but I will admit that you do feel the need to do things a little more, you get that sense of feeling independent, remembering all the time that it's your life now, your doing everything on your own.
Yes you can have more motivation while living on your own, but it depends on who it is and what your mindset is. It's not an automatic overnight *burst* of motivation, after moving out. It all depends on how bad you want to do something, but I will admit that you do feel the need to do things a little more, you get that sense of feeling independent, remembering all the time that it's your life now, your doing everything on your own.
voodoochild16
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I will just say that, after remembering saying somewhere that moving out to motivate yourself wouldn't work, I can say it is working for me right now, but it takes alot of motivation already to add onto.
Like it takes motivation to do alot of things, like overcome social anxiety, it doesn't just "magically" appear when you move out.
If you can move out with a guarantee from your parents or friends that you can come back, without financially struggling too much, it is worth a try if you already have motivation in you.
I come from a life of good experiences, which were taken away from me so me wanting them back is what motivates me now. I had some money saved up when I made the move, and I did spend alot of it. Now I got a better sense of keeping a budget. So I know to always think before I buy something. I know that I gotta put my foot down and make myself do some things I normally wouldn't be motivated to do, so that's where having some sense of being on your own can work.
I hope this helps some people, and if you have any questions send me a private message as I really don't always check for replies on here (im always busy). But with a private message I can get an email notification. Good luck to you all, and wish me luck for the future.
Like it takes motivation to do alot of things, like overcome social anxiety, it doesn't just "magically" appear when you move out.
If you can move out with a guarantee from your parents or friends that you can come back, without financially struggling too much, it is worth a try if you already have motivation in you.
I come from a life of good experiences, which were taken away from me so me wanting them back is what motivates me now. I had some money saved up when I made the move, and I did spend alot of it. Now I got a better sense of keeping a budget. So I know to always think before I buy something. I know that I gotta put my foot down and make myself do some things I normally wouldn't be motivated to do, so that's where having some sense of being on your own can work.
I hope this helps some people, and if you have any questions send me a private message as I really don't always check for replies on here (im always busy). But with a private message I can get an email notification. Good luck to you all, and wish me luck for the future.
Barrier
Well-known member
I'd love to move out. But part of me also knows it doesn't solve being lonely. I admit I am afraid I will be more lonely. Moving out doesn't equal getting friends more easily.
I have no problems with doing groceries or whatever so I don't need the motivation for that. It's more that I am afraid I'll have long, lonely evenings. At times, I like that. But all the time....
I have no problems with doing groceries or whatever so I don't need the motivation for that. It's more that I am afraid I'll have long, lonely evenings. At times, I like that. But all the time....
mikebird
Banned
out of where?
out-of-the-blue?
Living with 67-year-old parents led to spiralling, horrifying arguments with those people who were not ready for the current year. Impossible to remember the details. I think I was often locked in my bedroom after my outrage. :veryangry:
Until this thread, I would never have thought back to this.
I saw them and now, any stranger, as the most stupid person. It's my biggest mistake. Enemy of the mainstream
I was desperate to get out at 17 and saw my education and new type of social companionship as my ultimate goal, and expected to be on top of the world. Should have relished my parents' status and our homes.
My Dad was never alone when he was 25. I have been, since I was 25.
I was probably told at the time that I'd have to make a load of friends... etc... which I would have ignored, and told people to shut up
out-of-the-blue?
Living with 67-year-old parents led to spiralling, horrifying arguments with those people who were not ready for the current year. Impossible to remember the details. I think I was often locked in my bedroom after my outrage. :veryangry:
Until this thread, I would never have thought back to this.
I saw them and now, any stranger, as the most stupid person. It's my biggest mistake. Enemy of the mainstream
I was desperate to get out at 17 and saw my education and new type of social companionship as my ultimate goal, and expected to be on top of the world. Should have relished my parents' status and our homes.
My Dad was never alone when he was 25. I have been, since I was 25.
I was probably told at the time that I'd have to make a load of friends... etc... which I would have ignored, and told people to shut up
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