Would you move out for increased motivation?

Would you move out for better motivation?

  • I would definitely do it, I think it would work.

    Votes: 13 72.2%
  • I've thought about it but... I just can't do it.

    Votes: 2 11.1%
  • I wouldn't because I don't need motivation for life, I got it good now.

    Votes: 2 11.1%
  • I have no clue, I'm totally unsure on this kinda thing...

    Votes: 1 5.6%

  • Total voters
    18

voodoochild16

Well-known member
#1
Would you move out for better motivation?
I always thought that moving out of of my parents place would lead towards better motivation, as I would be on my own, but I never had the guts to do it for good. I did try it because I had the chance, but it was only for 3 months and I was doomed to come back because the house i lived in was for sale. For now I just want to save money though, so I stay.

Better motivation for like going to school or just motivating oneself to overcome SA easier, is what I mean.

But I would rather not do that at this time, as I would be way too lonely if I did that right away.
 

dottie

Well-known member
#3
be a man. do it.

no offense, i say this because i pulled the same thing for way too long when really i should've moved out a looooong time ago. you are doing yourself a disservice by not moving out on your own. go.
 

MikeyC

Well-known member
#4
be a man. do it.
Moving out is less about "being a man" and more about "being able to afford it." I have put off moving out for years for that reason (plus not being ready), but now I am ready but I have to wait a little bit first.
 

EscapeArtist

Well-known member
#5
be a man. do it.

no offense, i say this because i pulled the same thing for way too long when really i should've moved out a looooong time ago. you are doing yourself a disservice by not moving out on your own. go.
Did moving out help you a lot, dottie? Elaborate on your experience? I'm trying to build up the motivation by first seeing if it helped other people. Sometimes I think most of my problems would dissipate with moving out because the times when I have been away from home I've felt like a very happy social person. This seems to be what happened to my sister who now is successful in all the routines she struggled with while she lived here at home.
 
#6
Moving out is less about "being a man" and more about "being able to afford it." I have put off moving out for years for that reason (plus not being ready), but now I am ready but I have to wait a little bit first.
^I really envy people who's parents allow them to stay for financial reasons. My mother kicked me out before I had found a job and I was not ready.


To the OP, I don't know about being on your own giving you "motivation" to work on or overcome your SA etc, but it does give you a sense of accomplishment in the long term. And with that, comes some confidence because you see that you can do things you never thought possible.
 

MikeyC

Well-known member
#8
^I really envy people who's parents allow them to stay for financial reasons. My mother kicked me out before I had found a job and I was not ready.
I'm sorry that happened. ::(: But yeah, my mum wants me to stay until I'm married. Not likely!
 

dottie

Well-known member
#9
your problems will not dissipate but at least you will have privacy, independence, and dignity. this alone will boost your confidence. how can you feel any semblance of self worth interacting with people when you are living at home? it is undermining your self esteem, even subconsciously.

as far as affordability, you can afford it if you work full time and look for places within your budget. be realistic. if you make $1300 a month (~ minimum wage, but hopefully you make more!) you can't afford $900 rent. if you are smart and keep your eye out, you can find inexpensive places. think along the lines of a private cottage behind someone's house with utilities included. they're out there. it really comes down to budgeting, living smart, buying smart, and not p*ssing away money on frivolities like video games and cheap, plastic crap you really don't need anyway.
 

Bustn Justin

Well-known member
#13
There is nothing wrong about living at home as long as you contribute or work towards something.

I moved out 4 years ago and to be honest not much has changed. The only thing that has changed for me is that I can have a private life from my parents which means they do not need to know when I go out, what I eat, or get drunk at home.
 
#14
I'm moving out the very second I can afford it, with luck, that'll be next summer. Less luck, next winter and if not I'm going nuts.
 
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Richey

Well-known member
#16
So the issue of doing it is that you must get a handle of a few things. You need alot of energy to do it. Responsibility of bills, earning, cooking, timing things, cleaning, its something that alot of people struggle to remember upon first moving out, especially if you've never been briefed on it before, i mean alot is common sense but its easy to forget about it all because alot of people just want to come home from work and chill out. If you can get on top of responsibility and running errands then it'll be nice to have the freedom of moving out.
 

Raichel

Well-known member
#17
I'd love to move out (well, if I could afford it that is). But at the same time I'm scared of what the future brings. Mundane things as cooking, cleaning, doing my own groceries won't be that hard I think. It's just the overall pressure of being an adult and responsibility that I find scary (paying my own bills, etc.) I'm afraid that if I mess up, I don't have anybody to fall back on.
 
#18
Moving out is less about "being a man" and more about "being able to afford it." I have put off moving out for years for that reason (plus not being ready), but now I am ready but I have to wait a little bit first.
Exactly. What are the possibilities of moving out?

1)You are lucky enough and your parents buy you a flat
2)Your parents pay you for university studies so that you can get a well paid job
3)You marry a rich person
4)You rob a bank or get money through scams and unfair business
5)You win a lottery
6)You take a mortgage together with your spouse (which means you both have to be sure to have a steady job)
7)You take a mortgage alone (which means you need to be sure you have a steady well paid job)
8)You have a normal job whilst living with your parents and save until you can afford to buy some cheap flat or prefab house
9)You rent a room (in your country or abroad) and get some job, hoping you don´t get kicked out and try to save money for your own flat
10)You get some live-in job
11)You live forever in a rented accomodation, but if you are not able to keep a job, you can´t continue to pay your rent and end up back with your parents or homeless.

If there are any other ways, you can complete the list.
 

Richey

Well-known member
#19
I'd love to move out (well, if I could afford it that is). But at the same time I'm scared of what the future brings. Mundane things as cooking, cleaning, doing my own groceries won't be that hard I think. It's just the overall pressure of being an adult and responsibility that I find scary (paying my own bills, etc.) I'm afraid that if I mess up, I don't have anybody to fall back on.
Yeah i agree, i will only do it with two jobs or other income streams coming in, so i think moving out with a friend or a partner/family member would be cool but its not always possible. so its just weighing up what's best and all of that stuff.
 

Lisy

Active member
#20
I moved out when I started university, I think it helped me because I became a bit more independent and It made me appreciate my parents more than I did before.
This year was more difficoult because my housemates were too intruding and I started to miss life with my parents...
Soon I'll spend a semester abroad, I'm scared and there are days where I regret applying for this scholarship, but I am happy at the same time because I think it will be a positive experience.
 
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