Would people think your a freak if you told them that...

[oNecoOlazN]

Your a BUM?...as in you just stay home all day, without work or school?
Would they think your lazy or just a freak.?

...i never know what to say, and really have no explanation for this..i mean i am enrolled to go to school in sep..but my anxiety holds me back from finding some sort of job before school starts, and i kinda see no point in it anyways..

i dunno...ererreak;l;ale

 

[NormanBates]

I guess it depends on who you say it to . If you talk like that to other freaks, well they probably won't be bothered. As a matter of fact they might be comforted.
Misery loves company. :: ::

 

[Perfidion]

Yeah, people generally think you're some welfare-claiming loser if you're sitting at home without a job or at least some form of tertiary study. Society expects you to be a contributing member or you're viewed as a parasite -- unless you're an invalid. I guess SA could be viewed as a disability, but because it's mental rather than physical, people are less inclined to be sympathetic. The world is cruel like that.

 

[Justas]

I'm hiding from others what i'm doing because i don't have what to say. Trying to say some joke instead of answer. In my environment people don't understand me why i'm not working and just studying... A lot of my classmates work. Everybody thinks i'm lazy.

 

[SilentType]

Perfidion said it best.


Peace

 

[danstelter]

Most people probably would think you are a bum, so I would feel free to keep that information confidential. Even though school starts soon and you are afraid to find a job, the best thing to do is to do something. Perhaps you could even volunteer somewhere. Volunteers are always appreciated and rarely ignored. Volunteering would be a great resume-enhancer and it also gives you something good to talk about when you're with others. You don't have to volunteer for hours and hours every week, but it would be best to do a little something wouldn't it?

It would also give you the chance to experience success and challenging your anxiety, which is best for you in the long run. I would strongly encourage you do at least a little bit, and if working a real job where there is pressure on you to perform is scary, try working online! You can write at websites like Associated Content, Constant Content, and Helium and get paid at least a little pocket cash!

Just some suggestions, and you of course can do as you choose, but I would definitely do or learn something in the next few months before school.

 

[kuhtreen]

I have been staying at home with no work, school, or real activities for about a year now. It's embarrassing to live like this.

 

[Ericisme]

Yea, I been like this for over 4 years. The first few years I'd leave a few times a year, literally. Now it's a few times a month because of counseling and junk. I just prefer to come out with it when I first meet people, usually. Cuz I'd rather have a friend leave me before they're barely even my friend than later on when we get closer and such. Shame that usually does make them run away, very often.

 

[qwerty103]

I have been staying at home with no work, school, or real activities for about a year now. It's embarrassing to live like this.

Man im exactly in the same situation, except that I'm 20 years old. It's almost about a year now. Well I'm not really sure where I'm headed but I do know one thing, that I'm not planning to go college for now. I've always like business though. I'll follow where destiny takes me.

Does your parents know about your anxiety? My parents don't, it is just so hard to explain to them.

 

[meatcake]

if working a real job where there is pressure on you to perform is scary, try working online! You can write at websites like Associated Content, Constant Content, and Helium and get paid at least a little pocket cash!

Hmm, good idea - I hadn't heard of those before. Helium looks interesting.

I must say, since I've started exercising a couple of weeks ago, I feel a bit more confident about dealing with people. I'm actually thinking about getting a part time job somewhere, like at the school library (if they're not all taken). It's like I almost want to actually interact with people.

But volunteering is also a good idea - you could start really small, like a few hours a week. Say like at a pet shelter - people working there are usually really nice.

 

[Sure_whynot]

Your a BUM?...as in you just stay home all day, without work or school?
Would they think your lazy or just a freak.?

...i never know what to say, and really have no explanation for this..i mean i am enrolled to go to school in sep..but my anxiety holds me back from finding some sort of job before school starts, and i kinda see no point in it anyways..

i dunno...ererreak;l;ale

Unless you've got like 3 boobs or a full beard then I'd say your safe from being called a freak.

If your living with your parents & you dont have to support yourself then why get a job anyways? Take a trip, find a hobby, do something constructive. Working a 9-5 for minimum wage is not something people do for fun. hah =]

I rented a violin that I'm going to learn to play over the summer, in addition to getting smashed [hopefully] with a few of my good friends. There's lots of things out there for you to try! =]

 

[Tiercel]

This actually might be a good experiment to try. Force yourself to go out one day and ask random people what their initial impression of you was. Then follow up with, "Now, what if I told you that I didn't go to school or work?" Of course you could throw in some other questions that don't pertain to you, too. Like, "What if I told you that I have an addiction problem with painkillers?"

I'd predict that you'd really feel like crap about yourself afterwards, but it would be interesting to see what kind of responses you get.

And Sure_whynot, I wish you all the best with that violin. A few years ago I tried the same thing. Unfortunately my motivation failed once I discovered the secret to playing the violin. And if you're proficient on any other instrument you'll really get down on yourself when you sound like a little kid in a grade school concert. And since you're wondering about that secret, it's not one at all. Just stick to steady, constant, and focused practice. It's exactly of like kung fu. Your ultimate level of attainment is directly related to how hard you're willing to work on it. Minus any genetic modifiers, of course.

 

[Lea]

I guess what matters most is not what other people think of us, but what we think about ourselves.

 

[NormanBates]

don't die for facebook , live for waffles

 

[Perfidion]

Ah well. I think I should kill myself now. I really am sick to death of struggling.

If you die, THEY win. The extroverts, the obnoxious jabberers, the "party people", everyone who ever made you feel like less than you are. Don't give them the satisfaction. You're at war with the world my friend, and conceding defeat so early would be a terrible shame, and deprive us all of everything you have to offer. (Which in your eyes may be nothing, but the future is a dreadfully unpredictable beast...) Be strong, remain steadfast... if the world didn't have dysfunctional paranoid loners, who would assassinate irritating political figures and annoying pop stars? You can do it!

 

[NormanBates]

Well maybe you just said that for effect and not seriously.
(Shut up Asperger's!)

 

[toothpastekisses]

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[kuhtreen]

I shouldn't really have said that sorry. I guess subconsciously I may have meant it. If it happens it won't be because of other people and what they have, I have way more problems than that and always have. It doesn't help though when the one thing that would help (a life) seems completely unattainable to me.

IF it happens?? Please, don't. That scares me. We all know how hard it is, but I still believe that we are all going through this for a reason.

 

[NormanBates]

This actually might be a good experiment to try. Force yourself to go out one day and ask random people what their initial impression of you was. Then follow up with, "Now, what if I told you that I didn't go to school or work?" Of course you could throw in some other questions that don't pertain to you, too. Like, "What if I told you that I have an addiction problem with painkillers?"

I'd predict that you'd really feel like crap about yourself afterwards, but it would be interesting to see what kind of responses you get.

LOL I remember in HS this guy who used to walk up to people and throw out some line like "I know I don't know you, but HI"
It was so obvious that he'd been pondering his own antisocial ways. Everyone knew him for his explosive temper so I guess he was trying to counteract it.