Why I Am Invisible

takethislife

takethislife

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I know how you feel, this happens to me all the time. But sometimes it's not a bad thing. Think of annoying and nosy people. At least they're not bugging you asking all kinds of questions or something. Besides you're not invisible to your boyfriend.
 
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Silatuyok

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Guess I'll repost this here, since it's more pertinent to this conversation:

I'm a little pissed off. I've complained about my boyfriend's sister before, and I try not to on a public forum, but it's really starting to irritate me. I posted an album of pics of our new house on facebook. Instead of commenting on the photos, she went to my boyfriend's page to tell him how charming HIS new house is. She hasn't said a single word to me, aside from asking if she can share the pics with her parents.
I'm debating whether or not to tell my boyfriend that I am feeling very insulted. It's probably going to come out at some point, so might as well just come straight out and say it now, I guess.
 
razzle dazzle rose

razzle dazzle rose

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Ahhh...it can be a lot of drama with family. The worst that come out of this is a rift between your boyfriend and his sister. I'd try something first: try commenting more on her statuses on fb, "like" a couple things too, and see if she will be more responsive then. A lot of people get really weird about that. They won't comment or "like" things if you don't. It is very silly, and I am guilty of doing it myself, but it happens. Interact with her as much ., and then see what happens.
 
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Silatuyok

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razzle dazzle rose said:
Ahhh...it can be a lot of drama with family. The worst that come out of this is a rift between your boyfriend and his sister. I'd try something first: try commenting more on her statuses on fb, "like" a couple things too, and see if she will be more responsive then. A lot of people get really weird about that. They won't comment or "like" things if you don't. It is very silly, and I am guilty of doing it myself, but it happens. Interact with her as much ., and then see what happens.
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See, I've already tried that before, and it feels very insincere to me, like I am pawing at her trying to get her love and attention. Another thing she said is that she can't wait to see all the improvement he is going to be making to the house....she knows very well that I am the one who is going to be making a lot, if not the majority of, the improvements.
 
razzle dazzle rose

razzle dazzle rose

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Actually, thinking about facebook...it can cause a lot of problems! People break up over it for example...and I have noticed a lot of people feel left out when people do things and post about it and they weren't invited. It is a tricky.
 
razzle dazzle rose

razzle dazzle rose

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Absolutely_Sweet_Marie said:
See, I've already tried that before, and it feels very insincere to me, like I am pawing at her trying to get her love and attention. Another thing she said is that she can't wait to see all the improvement he is going to be making to the house....she knows very well that I am the one who is going to be making a lot, if not the majority of, the improvements.
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I don't know the whole story of course, but what I suggest is not to bring it up. It can make things very awkward. I know how you feel though and it is not a good position to be in. She should be more welcoming and it is rude of her not to be. I am curious, is she much older or younger than you two?
 
razzle dazzle rose

razzle dazzle rose

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Absolutely_Sweet_Marie said:
I just feel really insulted right now, and I'm trying hard not to retaliate.
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Having witnessed a lot of family drama (half my family doesn't talk to each other), I always err on the side of keeping the peace. Try not to take it personally. She is the one with the problem. Eventually she will come around. Or maybe not. Maybe the best you two can do is be civil with each other.
 
razzle dazzle rose

razzle dazzle rose

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Absolutely_Sweet_Marie said:
Does it??? They are actually triplets. Maybe that explains it even more. :confused:
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Oh, my goodness, yes! Twins, triplets they are like super close and stuff. Yeah, it is gonna be hard to get through to that girl. But it will work out. Give it time. It still sucks she is a meanie of course :(

I am super close to my sister for example, and I can be very protective and almost jealous when others come into her life. I hated her boyfriend at first and could not stand him. Eventually I realized that I was being unreasonable and gave him a chance. Now I love the guy and would like to see the two together always.
 
moon_x

moon_x

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Some people can be like that if they dont know you well, which I notice. Like, I know this girl who got married, but her friends only seem to comment on her rather than both of them. I feel invisble alot too.
 
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