why do some people get angry easily

[LazyHermitCrab]

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[Blabla..]

couldn't get to read your post before you deleted it but ,

i know some people get angry because they are addicted to anger , some people like to be angry , unconsciously , same with all emotions , some people like to be sad , it gives powerful sensations.

But stress can be a factor , having no patience , not being happy , all these can make a person very angry , i used to have alot of anger

 

[IcedEarth25]

I get angry when people lack me attention especially when i try and speak to them and they suddenly walk off or ignore so i find the frustation of all that build up and I sort of lose it with my ways and words. Don't mean to say i'm a violent person casue I'm not.

 

[AsTimeBurns]

Frustration that people aren't on the same wavelength as you.

 

[Silatuyok]

I get angry very easily when my anxiety is acting up.

 

[coyote]

Often when people snap it's because somebody has touched a raw nerve within them.

yes

it's easy to blame our anger on the person who "makes us feel angry"

but anger comes from within

it's usually triggered by our own feelings of inadequacy, our frustration, or our inability to cope with the situation in any other way

it is the "fight" part of the "fight-or-flight" response

we all know about irrational fear (the "flight" part)

but often the anger is just as irrational

 

[vj288]

I get angry very easily when my anxiety is acting up.

Yeah I think this is a reason for many. Also when someone is stressed they may be quick to anger, or when they are tired or hungry.

I have met some people who are quick to anger more often than others, it's not clear to me why. Possibly they are predisposed to anger and aggression , or have a negative outlook on things and react to it in with anger. "The world sucks and I hate it," people only get angry if they feel there is something to get angry about.

 

[vj288]

yes

it's easy to blame our anger on the person who "makes us feel angry"

but anger comes from within

it's usually triggered by our own feelings of inadequacy, our frustration, or our inability to cope with the situation in any other way

it is the "fight" part of the "fight-or-flight" response

we all know about irrational fear (the "flight" part)

but often the anger is just as irrational

 

[Kiwong]

yes

it's easy to blame our anger on the person who "makes us feel angry"

but anger comes from within

it's usually triggered by our own feelings of inadequacy, our frustration, or our inability to cope with the situation in any other way

it is the "fight" part of the "fight-or-flight" response

we all know about irrational fear (the "flight" part)

but often the anger is just as irrational

Yes, irrational thoughts can lead to both the flight (fear) or fight (anger) response. Angry thoughts have been a big part of my developing anxiety, as much as fearful ones.

Often bullies are responding to issues of low self esteem with anger and violence. In the more sensitive avoidance and fear seem to be the main response.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

it is the "fight" part of the "fight-or-flight" response

I experience a lot of anger. I usually go from being sad to being angry to being sad again... I grew up in an abusive home. I am just finding out how going through something like that has affected me. It contributes to my anxiety, and I have had to "fight" a lot. It is emotionally taxing, but that is the way I found to survive, by bearing my teeth and my claws.

Some emotional and behavioral problems that can result due to domestic violence include increased aggressiveness, anxiety, and changes in how a child socializes with friends, family, and authorities.

Got that from Wikipedia just now.

It is hard to shake that off. Sometimes there is no need for me to "fight" but anything that I see as an attack will not go unnoticed by me, and I am not passive about it, and I can't just "let it go". I am aware I do this so I am working on it. Not all people who anger easily were abused, but that does explain why some of us do. Bullying is also a factor. Of course, it is not fair for us to lash out and it is not an excuse. This is just the way it is sometimes with these things unfortunately.

 

[Moa]

but anger comes from within

Yes. We each decide how we will react in any given situation. Unfortunately, for most of us it is an unconscious response. It takes time and effort to develop the discipline to make those reactions a conscious process. Buddhist principles have been really helpful for me in this regard.

I experience a lot of anger. I usually go from being sad to being angry to being sad again... I grew up in an abusive home. I am just finding out how going through something like that has affected me. It contributes to my anxiety, and I have had to "fight" a lot. It is emotionally taxing, but that is the way I found to survive, by bearing my teeth and my claws.

Same here. Really in just the past year of my life have I come to realize this, but better late than never.