Why do people usually act surprised when

[FriendlyShadow]

I understand that, but to come up such comments that makes it point out the obvious is what most extroverts aren't realizing. It's okay if you'd feel surprised if a quiet person all of a sudden started talking, but when you state an obvious remark towards the manner, it'll make them go back into the state of position they were in previously. I find it to be pretty disrespectful instead of encouragement or praise that an introvert would speak up. Stating things like "wow, shut up over there you talk too much." could be considered a "joke" on the extrovert's part, but it can mean a lot more to others of how it's said or just in general what they said. At least if you have a surprising light hearted comment to say to someone, then say it in a politeful manner. That's all I'm saying.

 

[FriendlyShadow]

You know what, if i had did have a friend one day, I wouldn't make him/her feel guilty about what condition they are in. To be honest, I probably wouldn't say anything about it than just act a little surprised. And really I don't care if they intended on reacting in that kind of teasing way or not, that's still rude either way and they should be the ones at least seeing that mistake. I know when I need to talk and when I don't, and the most mistakes that people make too much is pointing it out when I know what I already am.

 

[Tuukka40]

This is what keeps me from talking after I have been established as the "person who never talks"....

I don't want to make a comment that makes everyone make those types of comments.

Although, maybe they don't think they're being rude by saying it...considering there is always one person who will!-_-

 

[gustavofring]

Humans are creatures of habit and don't respond well to change, especially with established unspoken social boundries and rules. I think there's also a lot of ego involved here.

 

[sullyS25]

You know what, if i had did have a friend one day, I wouldn't make him/her feel guilty about what condition they are in. To be honest, I probably wouldn't say anything about it than just act a little surprised. And really I don't care if they intended on reacting in that kind of teasing way or not, that's still rude either way and they should be the ones at least seeing that mistake. I know when I need to talk and when I don't, and the most mistakes that people make too much is pointing it out when I know what I already am.

Well it sounds like some there are some unrealistic expectations of others involved in this particular post.

Saying what YOU would do in their position a million times wont change what THEY actually do and the pain will continue as long as you allow it to affect you.

I'm not trying to invalidate your feelings about this and I know that it truly affects you in a negative way when people do this. Which is why I am trying to make you see that the only thing you can do in this situation is change the way you perceive it because I can guarantee that others will continue to fail to meet your expectations. If you continue take these things personally, life might be pretty difficult.